Hi,
While these critiques offer a way for you, as our members, to express how you feel about a certain model's performance, we have to remember that these are young, straight men that don't necessarily have much experience with gay sex. Most come to us without any experience at all and are nervous, feel varying emotions for having to have sex with another guy to pay their bills, and have varying levels of self-esteem to begin with. Many of them have enjoyed healthy sex lives until they see some of the critiques of their performances on the boards. This has made many feel inadequate which leads to "thinking too much about it" when in the studio. Most models can't handle the criticism and choose not to participate in the forums because of this.
On the other hand, many end up suppressing their desire to do what our members ask and end up not doing more scenes. The ones who do participate have gotten past questioning their sexuality and the essence of their masculinity. It takes time to get our guys to try some of the things that you want to see onscreen, but I believe the hottest aspect of watching gay for pay porn is in seeing a guy try something for the first time. They may be a little awkward at it at first, but they learn and become better at it. That's why we always aim to take a simple porn performer and mold them into a porn star, but it takes time and effort. We often have great difficulty finding participants who are truly straight and open to trying new things. When we do, the results can be stellar.
One model, who I will not name, said that he categorized his different emotions under the rubrics of “true self” and “false self.” The true self felt masculine, was “adequate, on par,” “secure, confident, capable,” and “at home in his body.” The false self did not feel masculine, was inadequate and insecure, and felt alienated from his body. As as he began to feel comfortable with having sex with men, he eventually felt more at peace with his masculine self. Positive comments about his performance made him think he thought he had gained valuable insight into being good in bed, but he then realized that it provided false hope, which can be devastating. He eventually gave up because of the pressure combined with the increasing conflict between his ideals and his sexual behavior. For a long time, the things said about him continued to haunt him. I asked about the criticisms leveled at him. “In retrospect, I have to admit I think the critiques are largely correct,” he said. "The porn lifestyle is very lonely,” he told me.
Some of these critiques should be left for the director who coaches our guys through their scenes. The majority of the guys on our site are great at what they do including Tyler. Tyler is a beautiful person, and I will say that the boisterous, energetic, somewhat aggressive Tyler is the real Tyler. He's a tough kid that has been through a lot, and this is all new to him. I like a lot of the critiques here and agree with many of them. However, these should be left for the director. Tyler, I know you asked for this and you're a brave soul for doing so, but don't let the comments dictate what you do in the studio or get you down. You have finally gotten to the point where you are yourself on camera-- a tough guy with a heart of gold that performs without any problems. This kid is ready to go and we never have performance problems with him. Let the director and producers take these comments and work them into what he does in order to obtain the best performance possible.
Members, the thing I have begun to like about the boards is that you are a passionate bunch and fiercely loyal to the product. We love hearing what you have to say. You make this site great and we listen and evaluate everything you say. It's also a great case study into what people like sexually, what turns you on, and why some guys are liked more than others. It's pretty fascinating stuff. Wish I would have saved my thesis for this instead.
My two cents....
With much love and respect,
DC
