RIP Mike Robbins

[Smiley]

It is a disservice to tell us of his death and nothing more.

I don't even know where to go with this remark.

Does this mean it would be a service to you to tell you of how he died? If so, when did this courtesy to you overrule the the wishes of his family?

Would it have been better for Mark to have never posted about this here, for you to go off mistakenly thinking Mike is alive but just not making videos any more? Would this have served you better than knowing he's passed? It might have made you feel better, but joeychuck2, this forum isn't about you. I've been served fine by the announcement, in all its vagueness, but then, this forum isn't about me, either.

Moderators, please do us all a favor. Close this thread. It's no longer about Mike's life. It's about Mike's death. I opened my browser after thinking for an hour about Ms. K's post just upthread, ready to make a comment on how I liked Mike's cock-sure attitude and his manliness. Somehow that just doesn't seem germane anymore.

 

[ohvanz]

Someone said recently with some authority that threads often move in other directions than the ones intended by the OP. Different people express their concern in different ways. Knowing how someone dies can help a person grieve, for someone he or she has lost, in a broader way; it's the first question you ask, in all societies, all over the world. I know there's a feeling that the assorted, and in some cases strange, members of a fetish porn site interjecting their feelings into the process MikeR's family have just gone through, with some kind of mistaken attempt to contact them, is not ok, and I share that. But the idea that a small clique of MikeR's off-campus forum friends somehow have a monopoly on sadness, and therefore the right to channel the grief of the rest, is very, very weird.

This is right to the point Slim and written with a sensivity a lot of people could learn from.Personally I will not further insist after the reactions I got. In a way however I can understand the management because even if they would like to inform us of the cause of death, they could'nt without the consent of Mike's family.
If Mike would have died in a car accident f.i.we did not even have to ask how, but the circumstances are much more delicate I think and suggest we let it rest and respect Mark's silence. Thank you anyhow for joining with your magnificent post and it really feels good to know there are other members then the ones clinched with.

 

[joeychuck2]

Smiley
I don't even know where to go after you posting.
" but joeychuck2, this forum isn't about you"
Smiley ITS ABOUT ALL OF US!
" I've been served fine by the announcement" sounds like you think its about you. We are all different and have different feelings about death.
When WE find out that someone we like/know has died if its someone on line or next door or a relativie we are affected. Through the interviews and the scenes he is real not a character that is in a tv play or movie. Im not saying we need to know all the details of his death. Why not give us the obituary minus his real name or anything that might be sensitive.
You said "It's no longer about Mike's life." As a member, what can we say here about Mike's life? People at Blu Media can say that or from his obituary and friends.
I agree with you not much more can be said.
Its VERY SAD when a young man dies of any cause. WE will miss him. Alot of us grieve and and don't post here. We all show our grief in different ways. Please accept that and don't criticize those who post their feelings.

 

[mikeyank]

Someone said recently with some authority that threads often move in other directions than the ones intended by the OP. Different people express their concern in different ways. Knowing how someone dies can help a person grieve, for someone he or she has lost, in a broader way; it's the first question you ask, in all societies, all over the world. I know there's a feeling that the assorted, and in some cases strange, members of a fetish porn site interjecting their feelings into the process MikeR's family have just gone through, with some kind of mistaken attempt to contact them, is not ok, and I share that. But the idea that a small clique of MikeR's off-campus forum friends somehow have a monopoly on sadness, and therefore the right to channel the grief of the rest, is very, very weird.

Thank you Slim for once again expressing a dose of reality, into a very sensitive, raw nerve situation, and as usual you have expressed your thoughts more eloquently than I ever could.

Indeed the "small clique of MikeR's off-campus forum friends" should not be the one's to dictate how we all express our grief. And I definitely hope that management will not close this thread, for as with the horrific news of the passing of "Dustin", it was suggested that thread be closed down too, a few days after the news was disseminated to us. However, thankfully that thread remained open, and weeks, and even months later, there were folks who just discovered the thread, and had a place to add their thoughts. We must keep in mind that all members of Broke Straight Boys are not loyal readers of the forum, as some of us are, and there will be new folks discovering this thread for a long time to come, and I believe it would be a disservice to the memory of Mike to not have a place for them to publicly grieve.

 

[Smiley]

Yeah, you're right, Mike. This thread should remain open. This hubbub regarding the cause of Mike's death will soon fade and the works of the man, which should be celebrated, will remain. Thank you for your clear and enlightening remarks.

And joeychuck2, please post anytime and any place about your feelings. I'm sorry if you felt I was discounting or dismissing your need to do so. I was reacting to your belief that this board should do what it can to make you feel better. Call me an old cynic, but my experience has been that there's no life, liberty or the pursuit of happiness on an Internet board, here or elsewhere.

 

[jwglass]

even his small clique of off forum friends dont know what happened. we are monopolizing nothing, if anything we insisted the announcement be made on the forum. but you obviously dont be believe that we know nothing. truth is he fell out of contact about a month before his death. so we know about as much as you do. its about time you all just fuck off and find something else to bitch about

 

[lovelumps]

Imagine for a moment that you are a boy of 21 whose family doesn't know you frequently had gay sex on camera for money. You use a different name for the porn. You make friends with some of the other models, you make friends with some of the fans. You do share your real life with these people who you come to trust. And then one day one of these porn friends realizes they haven't heard from you for a while and try to contact you but can't....

There has been a lot of anger, frustration and name calling on this thread. I believe that a lot of that has to do with grief and shock. I understand the need to know the how or the why of a situation. It helps with the reconciliation process to understand the details.

JW, I'm pretty sure, mentioned on this thread somewhere that the details of his death are unknown. I think if management or anyone else knew how he died, that detail would be shared. It would, indeed, help all of us with finding some closure to know. But we don't know and we do have to, at some point, accept that.

I think we would be wise to remember that grief is individual. I'm going to try really hard, really really hard, to not judge forum members based on their reactions to such difficult news. I expect yelling, screaming, crying. I expect demands to know what happened. I expect misdirected anger. I expect shouting at the world. It's not fair. Mike was a beautiful, vibrant young man that many of us adored. He will be missed terribly by many. His death is tragic no matter the circumstances. I raised my glass to Mike when I heard the news. Smoke some MJ if you've got it, too, and think of him. He was awesome.

 

[joeychuck2]

I just went back to his first appearance in June 2009. I read the section before the clips and he was 19 ,then had a girlfriend ,went to college in FL, and needed the money for it. I think we should review his work here to see what the guy was like. read the sections written and not for sex but for what a good guy he was.

 

[dande01]

I'm going to chime in here. Mark posted this thread and asked for respect & privacy regarding this issue. The key word is respect & privacy. Since we, D&E, were very close to MikeR. We really don't know 100% what had happen to him exactly.

Its really none of our business and no one can give us a solid answer because none of his friends and family don't even know the true cause. We can all speculate what happen but none of us really know the true answer and what MikeR was thinking and going through in his life.

Some Broke Straight Boys members want to contact his family and find out the answers and although the gesture of sending cards and flowers to his family is great! I don't think his family needs to be reminded about the fact there loving Son did porn. I think many of the Broke Straight Boys members have been or suggesting a bit too much and have crossed the line with this issue. As the studio that filmed him and knew him the best, we understand why some of you want to know how it happen and want to send cards and flowers, its not our place to pry into others peoples private lives and start contacting his family and sending cards and flowers. Please respect his family and his death and don't cross that line. Just because MikeR filmed porn on Broke Straight Boys doesn't give any member the right to his private life and to start contacting his family.

Most of you only knew MikeR through his work on Broke Straight Boys and communications on this forum. The MikeR you all fell in love with is just a character on this porn site. The MikeR content is all used up at this point, I think.

However, if there is some footage here and there of him that Mark did not place up on the site, its up to you to watch it or not. I don't see having MikeR's content up on this site as being rude or morbid. I think it would be a celebration of his life and what he has left behind for a handful of fans to enjoy!

 

[slimvintage]

I'm going to chime in here. Mark posted this thread and asked for respect & privacy regarding this issue. The key word is respect & privacy. Since we, D&E, were very close to MikeR. We really don't know 100% what had happen to him exactly.

Its really none of our business and no one can give us a solid answer because none of his friends and family don't even know the true cause. We can all speculate what happen but none of us really know the true answer and what MikeR was thinking and going through in his life.

Some Broke Straight Boys members want to contact his family and find out the answers and although the gesture of sending cards and flowers to his family is great! I don't think his family needs to be reminded about the fact there loving Son did porn. I think many of the Broke Straight Boys members have been or suggesting a bit too much and have crossed the line with this issue. As the studio that filmed him and knew him the best, we understand why some of you want to know how it happen and want to send cards and flowers, its not our place to pry into others peoples private lives and start contacting his family and sending cards and flowers. Please respect his family and his death and don't cross that line. Just because MikeR filmed porn on Broke Straight Boys doesn't give any member the right to his private life and to start contacting his family.

Most of you only knew MikeR through his work on Broke Straight Boys and communications on this forum. The MikeR you all fell in love with is just a character on this porn site. The MikeR content is all used up at this point, I think.

However, if there is some footage here and there of him that Mark did not place up on the site, its up to you to watch it or not. I don't see having MikeR's content up on this site as being rude or morbid. I think it would be a celebration of his life and what he has left behind for a handful of fans to enjoy!

The idea that members of the gay porn site where "Mike" performed would want to get in touch with his family to display their own grief, weeks after his death and when his family may be just beginning to heal, is very scary. The idea that his fans would want to know what he died of is less so. Your post has come just in time, or maybe a day late, to answer the question so many people have asked, or wanted to ask, over the last few days.

I look forward to seeing whatever there may be left of scenes he was in, and going back over the ones I already know by heart. Most people who die at his age don't leave behind them the testimony to their physical, mental and spiritual beauty that he has left and that reside in the archives of this site. In this day and age it's a heritage anyone could be proud of.

Thanks very much for this post David, and thanks for being instrumental in bringing him to us in the first place.





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[pastol]

I'm far from a regular poster on here, but wanted to share my thoughts. I do not know Mike Robbins, either meeting him personally or ever conversing with him online. It is very sad that a person so young passes away. Why or how he passed is none of my business, although I certainly understand why others may want to know. I think it's just human nature.
What bothers me most is folks turning on each other here. It seems to me that there's a lot of misplaced anger. I understand completely where jwglass is coming from. If he knew Mike personally, then he is going to take it harder than most folks in here. If he chooses to cancel his membership, one cannot blame him because watching the videos of someone he knows could very well be too painful. If others want to watch today's video of Mike, they are welcome to do so since this is a paid membership site. Those who don't have every reason not to, because once again, they are paying for the membership.
Sorry if this is a tad long, but wanted to bring my perspective to the mix.

Well stated.

I intend this in the nicest way possible; can we please stop being gossiping old queens and realize that some things are just none of our business, even if the facts were known? Try to have the same amount of self-respect that each of use owe Mike.

Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through and shines down upon us to let us know that are happy.

If you are feeling agitated or anxious about Mike's death go outside, or peer through a window, and know that he is shining down on you. And smile back at him. It helps.

And listen to this when you do: Look Out Any Window See what's going on in the air around you (for a change). We all need to remind ourselves to climb out of our skin for a while and let go of our egos.

Fly fast and burn bright Mike. I'll be looking for you.

 

[firemedic]

Hello forum members. I do not usually post messages but I feel as though I need to for this thread. I was deeply saddened by the news of this young mans untimely death. Thank you management for sharing this news with everyone. I was an absolute fan of MikeR and although he was cute and very good-looking, I was a fan because of his smile and positive, caring attitude he displayed with every shoot. He seemed genuine, light-hearted, easy going and just plain nice. Although I never knew MikeR personally, I will miss him and his contagious smile.

As for all the comments everyone has made to each other, I am a firefighter/paramedic/RN and as such, understand there are many forms of grief. I have been witness to and the giver of shocking and devastating news. I just recently worked on a 2y/o drowning victim. Grief took on many different ways that dreadful afternoon and we knew the cause of this little baby's state. I feel every member of this site/forum should try to understand that not everyone takes or handles grief in the same way and therefore should take a deep breathe before snapping back at one another. Regardless of the words we spew or type, MikeR will always be remembered for who he was, what he represented and how he made each of us feel, not for what he did or how he died.

Respectfully,

Firemedic

 

[firemedic]

Hello forum members. I do not usually post as messages as but I feel as though I need to for this thread. I was deeply saddened by the news of this young mans untimely death. Thank you management for sharing this news with everyone. I was an absolute fan of MikeR and although he was cute and very good-looking, I was a fan because of his smile and positive, caring attitude he displayed with every shoot. He seemed genuine, light-hearted, easy going and just plain nice. Although I never knew MikeR personally, I will miss him and his contagious smile.

As for all the comments everyone has made to each other, I am a firefighter/paramedic/RN and as such, understand there are many forms of grief. I have been witness to and the giver of shocking and devastating news. I just recently worked on a 2y/o drowning victim. Grief took on many different ways that dreadful afternoon and we knew the cause of this little baby's state. I feel every member of this site/forum should try to understand that not everyone takes or handles grief in the same way and therefore should take a deep breathe before snapping back at one another. Regardless of the words we spew or type, MikeR will always be remembered for who he was, what he represented and how he made each of us feel, not for what he did or how he died.

Respectfully,

Firemedic

 

[hottamales2432]

Pastol,

You hit it right on the head, along with what David said. This isn't reality. There is a world outside that everyone needs to live, day in and day out. What "Mike" did online was real, but the fact is it's a job like any other. He got paid to have sex with other guys. I work for a university. Does that define who I am? No. The same goes for "Mike". I put his name in quotes here because this likely isn't his real name. David put it best when saying that his family probably doesn't want to hear from folks who gush about his porn abilities. Leave them alone and hopefully, go about your daily business. I think it's probably a good bet that this doesn't consume anyone's life. If it does, that's kind of scary.

 

[mikeyank]

Hello forum members. I do not usually post messages but I feel as though I need to for this thread. I was deeply saddened by the news of this young mans untimely death. Thank you management for sharing this news with everyone. I was an absolute fan of MikeR and although he was cute and very good-looking, I was a fan because of his smile and positive, caring attitude he displayed with every shoot. He seemed genuine, light-hearted, easy going and just plain nice. Although I never knew MikeR personally, I will miss him and his contagious smile.

As for all the comments everyone has made to each other, I am a firefighter/paramedic/RN and as such, understand there are many forms of grief. I have been witness to and the giver of shocking and devastating news. I just recently worked on a 2y/o drowning victim. Grief took on many different ways that dreadful afternoon and we knew the cause of this little baby's state. I feel every member of this site/forum should try to understand that not everyone takes or handles grief in the same way and therefore should take a deep breathe before snapping back at one another. Regardless of the words we spew or type, MikeR will always be remembered for who he was, what he represented and how he made each of us feel, not for what he did or how he died.

Respectfully,

Firemedic

Thank you for putting this tragedy in perspective, Firemedic, as you are exposed to such tragedy on an on going basis. I particularly appreciate your comment everyone takes or handles grief in the same way and therefore should take a deep breathe before snapping back at one another.

I agree that all posters on this thread are in shock, and I cannot believe that anyone wanted to do anything that would further distress the parent's and family and personal friend's of this beautiful young man. I truly believe that everyone thought that they were asking the right questions, and pay their proper respects.

I truly hope that no one "snaps back" at anyone who posts on this thread. If we disagree with that person's feelings, it is best to remain silent. I sincerely hope that it goes back to being a tribute thread to Mike Robbins. And as I stated earlier in this thread, based on the delayed responses on the Dustin memorial thread, people will be first finding out about Mike's passing, for a long time to come, and I'd love to see this remain as a positive place for those of us who loved the spirit of Mike Robbins.

 

[luv2watch]

Mike R-We love you and will miss you

I just finished watching Mike and Corey. It was great. Then I came to the forum and read this. I can't believe it. He was so full of life, he will greatly missed. My deepest sympathies to his family. Remember the love.

 

[Jayman01]

I am saddened by Mike's passing. I am greatful that Mike had an opportunity to live and enjoy the short time he has with us. I will pray for him and his family. He certainly left his mark on all of our lives and the members of the Forum.

It is wonderful that Broke Straight Boys(Blue media/D&E productions) cared enough to let us know. Thank you for your sharing and caring.

 

[Markymark]

To Firemedic et al: One awesome group of people who never get enough credit are the ones we refer to as "First Responders". Whether they are nurses, medics, firemen or police or any combination, they put their lives on the line for the rest of us. Personally, I am feeling very grateful for their gift of self. I realize this thread is about Mike R, and it occurred to me that I hope he had them there to comfort him if needed, or to comfort those around him. You guys and gals are the world to us in our time of need, stay safe out there, ok?

 

[ohvanz]

I'm going to chime in here. Mark posted this thread and asked for respect & privacy regarding this issue. The key word is respect & privacy. Since we, D&E, were very close to MikeR. We really don't know 100% what had happen to him exactly.

Its really none of our business and no one can give us a solid answer because none of his friends and family don't even know the true cause. We can all speculate what happen but none of us really know the true answer and what MikeR was thinking and going through in his life.

Some Broke Straight Boys members want to contact his family and find out the answers and although the gesture of sending cards and flowers to his family is great! I don't think his family needs to be reminded about the fact there loving Son did porn. I think many of the Broke Straight Boys members have been or suggesting a bit too much and have crossed the line with this issue. As the studio that filmed him and knew him the best, we understand why some of you want to know how it happen and want to send cards and flowers, its not our place to pry into others peoples private lives and start contacting his family and sending cards and flowers. Please respect his family and his death and don't cross that line. Just because MikeR filmed porn on Broke Straight Boys doesn't give any member the right to his private life and to start contacting his family.

Most of you only knew MikeR through his work on Broke Straight Boys and communications on this forum. The MikeR you all fell in love with is just a character on this porn site. The MikeR content is all used up at this point, I think.

However, if there is some footage here and there of him that Mark did not place up on the site, its up to you to watch it or not. I don't see having MikeR's content up on this site as being rude or morbid. I think it would be a celebration of his life and what he has left behind for a handful of fans to enjoy!

Yes David along with Slim and other positive caring members, thank you for this post. We all may consider the question as answered now by choosing your words so cautiously it deserves admiration.

 

[joeychuck2]

I fully agree that NO ONE should even think of contacting the family. Our grief is very different than from his family. If we ( the people who run and watch this site) werent told details then nothing we can do. We need this foreum as a form of grief counseling for ourselves. Let's miss him together and hope he is in peace.