My journey, A blog of sorts, and advice welcomed

[chac54]

Is that unusual?

Smart move Chac. In most cases when something doesn’t feel right, go with your gut instinct. Also I’ve heard that when someone wants to switch from Grindr or another meeting app to your personal number right away, he is very likely a scammer.

@trebligon - not sure, I am only about 2 weeks I think being on there. I would have no issues swapping numbers after we meet and I get a good reading on them.

@mikeyank - yeah, that's the way I read it. The guy was claiming to be single "discreet military" in Texas tired of the hookup scene. Number 1, I'm starting to finally be comfortable in my skin, I'm not doing the stay hidden anymore. 2 - I want to be able to HOLD my guy, not chat on a phone. One of the best parts of the whole hookup last week was when we hugged and kissed (the other one was well a bit more private ). Then when he laid on top of me and we made out more I was like, yep, 100% confirmed, I am gay and into dudes

The women on my mother's side are what would be called, maybe intuitive? They tend to feel or can tell things that are going to happen. I don't know if I picked up a bit of that, but, my bullshit detector works just fine . He just came off super strong and wanted to flip within like 2 minutes or chatting. I flat out told him I wasn't comfortable sharing that yet and he did a big grandstand on trust an being in a relationship and how it starts with a small trust first. Next he would be selling me his hot crypto stock or some other BS thing

 

[chac54]

So Grindr is bust/shit. People messaging me first and not responding when I message back. I know that is 99% of the userbase there LOL. Oh and random dick pics in messages , I love em LOL

I send a flame thingy and poof, blocked. That's easy and I don't mind, as they are not worth the time of day, just shallow.

I just put my profile up on Growlr. Trying that. But dammit, why is everyone messaging me halfway across the country

I think that I'm just gonna go get myself a drink (diet coke since I still can't have alcohol) up in Provincetown this weekend. Maybe I'll get enough courage up to do that. Probably not, but maybe I'll surprise myself

 

[chac54]

Ok, so just when I least expect it, I got another hit on Grindr. This really cute guy, 28, a dom top. I am knackered right now so I didn't want to meet tonight, but the internal gut is blank for this one. I'm not sure if I want that dom/sub on my second time... I may just pass.

But damn, this guy was 8.5 and fit, he sent a dick pic and a face pic with body. You can tell he worked hard in the gym or has a labor intensive job. Ugh . Help me decide please LOL. And he wants to top me. I may end up splitting in 2 with that monster

 

[Jaybifla]

Ok, so just when I least expect it, I got another hit on Grindr. This really cute guy, 28, a dom top. I am knackered right now so I didn't want to meet tonight, but the internal gut is blank for this one. I'm not sure if I want that dom/sub on my second time... I may just pass.

But damn, this guy was 8.5 and fit, he sent a dick pic and a face pic with body. You can tell he worked hard in the gym or has a labor intensive job. Ugh . Help me decide please LOL. And he wants to top me. I may end up splitting in 2 with that monster

Go for it! I would.

 

[legend0007]

I like this thread. I've used grindr on and off for years - know it's not right and not rlly told anybody this, but I was on there before I was old enough. Just talking and sharing shit. I obvs didn't meet anybody it was just a release.

Don't want to hijack your thread with my stories, but have had some intense, and some strange encounters. A lot of people's pictures aren't right but they still come too! I never minded but you gotta be careful.

I hope you met the lad with the big D

 

[chac54]

I like this thread. I've used grindr on and off for years - know it's not right and not rlly told anybody this, but I was on there before I was old enough. Just talking and sharing shit. I obvs didn't meet anybody it was just a release.

Don't want to hijack your thread with my stories, but have had some intense, and some strange encounters. A lot of people's pictures aren't right but they still come too! I never minded but you gotta be careful.

I hope you met the lad with the big D

Please share your tips Max, all input is welcome

PS: I really like your avatars

 

[legend0007]

Please share your tips Max, all input is welcome

PS: I really like your avatars

thanks x Have been using a face pic 6 years old for a lot of my sites, they needed changing.

Not sure I have tips apart from I think it's good that if you can meet somebody on grindr or romeo (web based one i use) etc, and keep in touch it's easier to keep going back to that hook up rather than keep going to new ones. If you can meet somebody cool.

I was getting on a train regularly to go to this mans house for about a year in another town, he'd pay for the ticket, feed me and buy me presents and clothes, he just liked to give me fellatio and massage me for an afternoon, and we'd have a pint in his local. We had a strong arrangement, he's passed away now . I think it's important to know what the other person wants and stick to it. But it's important I think to speak to the a lot before you meet to make sure.

 

[mikeyank]

thanks x Have been using a face pic 6 years old for a lot of my sites, they needed changing.

Not sure I have tips apart from I think it's good that if you can meet somebody on grindr or romeo (web based one i use) etc, and keep in touch it's easier to keep going back to that hook up rather than keep going to new ones. If you can meet somebody cool.

I was getting on a train regularly to go to this mans house for about a year in another town, he'd pay for the ticket, feed me and buy me presents and clothes, he just liked to give me fellatio and massage me for an afternoon, and we'd have a pint in his local. We had a strong arrangement, he's passed away now . I think it's important to know what the other person wants and stick to it. But it's important I think to speak to the a lot before you meet to make sure.

I keep thinking about you visiting your older friend who helped you out with gifts, meals, massages and blowjobs. I think that is a beautiful symbolic relationship, the kind going on for centuries going back to Greek and Roman times. And thank you for being honest with us about it. The more I find out about you, the more I admire you Max.

 

[trebligon]

8'5" is very, very tall. I guess giants need love too, though.

 

[chac54]

thanks x Have been using a face pic 6 years old for a lot of my sites, they needed changing.

Not sure I have tips apart from I think it's good that if you can meet somebody on grindr or romeo (web based one i use) etc, and keep in touch it's easier to keep going back to that hook up rather than keep going to new ones. If you can meet somebody cool.

I was getting on a train regularly to go to this mans house for about a year in another town, he'd pay for the ticket, feed me and buy me presents and clothes, he just liked to give me fellatio and massage me for an afternoon, and we'd have a pint in his local. We had a strong arrangement, he's passed away now . I think it's important to know what the other person wants and stick to it. But it's important I think to speak to the a lot before you meet to make sure.

Oh, that's sad he passed. Honestly I really would like a FWB or boyfriend more than anything. While the sex was good, I felt empty afterwards, and took a few days off the app to get my head straightened out. I think I'm a romantic LOL.

But yeah, I'd love an arrangement where I could have a nice guy to rub down and give head to on the regular. My favorite part was being balls deep on his cock and my face planted in his ass . I actually commented to him saying I could do this all day but I need to remember to breathe, and he chuckled, saying he didn't want me to die on him . I was totally surprised that my gag reflex didn't kick up more when I was deep throating him. I still had a couple of moments of a minor gag, but I was proud of myself that I didn't upchuck LOL

Oh, an no I have not met Mr big D yet, unfortunately my tummy is not in bottom mode at the moment there is a stomach bug going around and I think I have a touch of it.

 

[trebligon]

being balls deep on his cock

What does this mean? I've heard balls deep in someone (like the entire penis inside, I think). Is this some weird thing where the cock is penetrating the scrotum? Or is this just meaning he was balls deep in you?

If the latter, cool. I guess I didn't read your posts carefully or missed some and didn't realize you'd gone all the way. Congrats, freunde von mir.

I've been told I should join an app, but I really don't like the idea of dick pics being sent to me. Maybe if I were more into cocks as independent entities. I actually really hate porn scenes with people with no visible faces.

 

[chac54]

What does this mean? I've heard balls deep in someone (like the entire penis inside, I think). Is this some weird thing where the cock is penetrating the scrotum? Or is this just meaning he was balls deep in you?

If the latter, cool. I guess I didn't read your posts carefully or missed some and didn't realize you'd gone all the way. Congrats, freunde von mir.

I've been told I should join an app, but I really don't like the idea of dick pics being sent to me. Maybe if I were more into cocks as independent entities. I actually really hate porn scenes with people with no visible faces.

yeah my v-card was torched LOL. I set that sucker a flame . He was balls deep in me too, he came in me (in a condom, I'm a safer sex hoe at the moment)

LOL, I probably phrased it wrong, I meant I was so far down on his cock sucking him, my face was squished in his balls (we were 69 )

And yes, I get random dick pics, but I don't care. I just am going with the flow, but like you I do like to put a dick to a face, makes it more personal

 

[legend0007]

I keep thinking about you visiting your older friend who helped you out with gifts, meals, massages and blowjobs. I think that is a beautiful symbolic relationship, the kind going on for centuries going back to Greek and Roman times. And thank you for being honest with us about it. The more I find out about you, the more I admire you Max.

Aw that's nice of you to say.

My friend at the time said it was wrong. I didn't think of it as prostitution; I've done things for other benefits than romance from time to time, with people that perhaps wouldn't have been first on my list, but it's always turned me on anyway. Would not do anything directly for money like she was saying I was doing.

That's one thing with these apps - I used to get offered money quite a lot. I think thats like, a bit dodgy so haven't done it anyway, I don't want to feel compelled to do anything once there. And you don't knowwho it is x

 

[legend0007]

Oh, that's sad he passed. Honestly I really would like a FWB or boyfriend more than anything. While the sex was good, I felt empty afterwards, and took a few days off the app to get my head straightened out. I think I'm a romantic LOL.

But yeah, I'd love an arrangement where I could have a nice guy to rub down and give head to on the regular. My favorite part was being balls deep on his cock and my face planted in his ass . I actually commented to him saying I could do this all day but I need to remember to breathe, and he chuckled, saying he didn't want me to die on him . I was totally surprised that my gag reflex didn't kick up more when I was deep throating him. I still had a couple of moments of a minor gag, but I was proud of myself that I didn't upchuck LOL

Oh, an no I have not met Mr big D yet, unfortunately my tummy is not in bottom mode at the moment there is a stomach bug going around and I think I have a touch of it.

Yes, I'd like an arrangement like that too. The thing with the old boy in Huddersfield was that I'd have preferred to give the head. I love to be the cock reciever not giver lol. I love to suck somebody off for an afternoon, maybe seeing how many times I could make them ejaculate. over and over like he did to me. I had a few toys used on me but it wasn't quite the bottom role that I'm passionate about.

I struggle with DT too but some people like that.

Please let us know what happens when you meet the guy x

 

[trebligon]

I struggle with DT too but some people like that.

I assume you're not talking about Donald Trump. What is this "DT"?

 

[legend0007]

I assume you're not talking about Donald Trump. What is this "DT"?

i find it difficult to deep throat without gagging x

 

[chac54]

Well, I'm chatting with another cutie this time on Growlr, wish me luck! Big dick guy I just didn't have the good feelings on so that conversation just kinda fizzled. Sounded like he just wanted to fuck an ass then would be done. I'm looking for more...

 

[mikeyank]

Well, I'm chatting with another cutie this time on Growlr, wish me luck! Big dick guy I just didn't have the good feelings on so that conversation just kinda fizzled. Sounded like he just wanted to fuck an ass then would be done. I'm looking for more...

Good luck Chac, but the apps are often for guys looking for sex rather than relationships. I wonder if there are specific sites that focus on dating more than for fucking? I’m reminded of a hit song from 1980.

And this video from Urban Cowboy was when John Travolta was still hotter than fuck.

 

[chac54]

Good luck Chac, but the apps are often for guys looking for sex rather than relationships. I wonder if there are specific sites that focus on dating more than for fucking? I’m reminded of a hit song from 1980.

And this video from Urban Cowboy was when John Travolta was still hotter than fuck.

One of my favorite songs... But yeah, I'm not expecting an LTR right off the bat, but this guy has updated his profile to say he didn't want anything to do with dicks, just to have his sucked and to fuck. So no reciprocating oral etc. I'd like to at least have my dick sucked a little bit LOL. Oh well lots of fish in the sea...

Hope everyone's day is amazing!

 

[legend0007]

Well, I'm chatting with another cutie this time on Growlr, wish me luck! Big dick guy I just didn't have the good feelings on so that conversation just kinda fizzled. Sounded like he just wanted to fuck an ass then would be done. I'm looking for more...

Send him my way lol