Human Interest
Hi, guys ~
Notwithstanding the difficulty all of this has caused the
Broke Straight Boys staff (and that's a cause for considerable concern, and I'm not scanting it - - sorry, guys, for all the hassles!): the situation that is the subject of this thread is such an interesting window on human nature, and the problems that attend running any good business enterprise! Maybe because I'm a lapsed academic, I think there is so much to be learned from it.
Anything I have to say at this late date is surely in the category of 'gratuitous afterthought', but here it is, anyway.
*First, I have to say that I really appreciate the way David expresses himself, and addresses even conflicts and disagreements that arise - in such a calm, civilized, way. David, you are such a
mensch; I can see that, even when you disagree with someone, or he has caused you grief, you always limit your account of the disagreement itself
precisely to the disagreement itself. Moreover, you always take pains to identify what's
good about the situation, so everyone can learn, and there can be some positive outcome to the situation. That's a rare skill (or, better expressed) disposition - and we should have more people like you. . . in the diplomatic corps! (Are you listening, Barack Obama???)
*As I've noted in the past (and I know there are some others who feel this way) it's not material to me whether the models are straight, or not. In fact, some of
Broke Straight Boys's gay models have been amongst its brightest stars - without guys like the completely adorable and sexy BrokeMichael, the site would be much poorer!!! So, to me, the question of what smoore29 and kodaaa's
real orientation might be, is not such a big deal. (I like erotic entertainment because of the models' beauty, charm, and energy - not because I want to psychotherapize them! LOL!)
*On the other hand, with apologies for my rather 'catholic' tastes, I
do appreciate that the site is named "Broke
Straight Boys", and undoubtedly many or most of those who sign up do so because they have a taste for straight guys. (And it's a hot fantasy to have!) So questions about how potential models comport themselves are both inevitable and legitimate, for the management. Including in this case.
*For the record, I think that Mr. Kodaaa is heartbreakingly cute, and would be happy to see him as a model, any day of the week!
*However, I think the fundamental issue in all of this is the one that David identified about the telephone interviews - and it's an issue of
trust and respect.
*This is what I mean, guys: When I apply for a job, if I am lucky enough to receive an interview, I would think it exceedingly unmannerly (not to say unethical) to immediately share the substance of that interview with my prospective employers' customers, and other employees! Anyone who thinks that's just fine (it seems to me) may not have a very finely-tuned sense of responsibility to the company, his employers, or his fellow employees,
should he be hired.
*That, I think, is the deal-breaker in this case. I am sure that either Mr. Smoore or Mr. Kodaaa could have expressed to David or other management their desire to work together, fully and unreservedly, in their private discussions, at the time of, or following, auditions - and, if their chemistry were as good as it seems, I'm sure those suggestions would have been taken quite seriously!
*However, any company wouldn't be entirely prudent to accept having its interview process laid bare in quite the fashion we've seen -
or to accept direction on future activities or deployment, from employees who haven't yet been hired!
*And, David, I think you are quite right to have concerns also about your personal exposure, given the fact that you host and care for the models, as you do. As most of us who have had bad houseguests at one time or another know. . . a kind and considerate guest is a joy - but a thoughtless or unappreciative one can be a nightmare!
*I don't think it's necessary to preclude the possibility of one day recruiting a model based upon his expressed interest on the message boards. However, I do think it's entirely prudent to insist that anyone expressing such an interest follow the normal channels of application, to the letter - and not expect either to lobby for support on the boards, or to dictate what his possible range of work might be.
*This may sound wicked, but, if there is a concern about identity fraud on boards (e.g., "trolls" posing as multiple persons), such concerns are often resolved by asking the tech people to do a quick IP address check. I've seen several unpleasant scams, on several boards, quickly and effectively terminated in this way. (I am not at all suggesting that this happened in this case, BTW - because from what David has said, I really don't think it's the case here.)
*Last, I don't think it's at all unreasonable to have a generous but clear code of conduct for message-board members, models, and/or applicants, specifying some limits with respect to 'flaming' (for the former), or disclosure of sensitive company information (for the latter), and reserving to the management the right to warn, or to suspend posting privileges. I'm Canadian, and I guess we are a little more tolerant of rules and regulations, but it seems that many sites do this sort of thing, without dampening either the zest of argument, or the fun of discussion.
I guess that's it - just a couple of thoughts. It has been a really interesting discussion, though!
Hugs to all,
"A." XOXOXOXOXO
P.S. I thought Michael, Mike's, and Tyler's cautions to Smoore69 and Kodaaa about the difficulties of the erotic entertainment industry were well-expressed, and important.
P.P.S. If Mr. Kodaaa is able to finish his current academic tour, and proves able to adapt himself to
Broke Straight Boys's business model - I wouldn't mind at all if he got a second chance, somewhere down the line. (Maybe he could do penance by bottoming for BrokeMichael!!! LOL!!!
)
Last P.S. Tyler, I really enjoyed reading your posts on this thread - you're marvellously articulate! You remind me of some of my best students who've gone on to successful careers in the law, or in journalism!!! I do hope you are working hard on your plans for education and your future career, because I think you have great potential.
