Zeno Kostas comes clean to his girlfriend

[BSBZenoKostas]

Last night I took the plunge. I told my girlfriend what I had really been doing on my "vacation"

To put it lightly, she didn't take it so well, and to be honest; neither did I. Today has really been emotional for the two of us. Although she didn't react the way I thought she would. I figured she wouldn't even hear me out, but she did. which is a promising sign. I thought that by this point she would be long gone, and out of my life forever. I am so grateful that she is even talking to me. Right now I'm not really sure what to think or how to feel about the situation.

 

[joeychuck2]

You better think it through. Do what is best for YOU. You know that there are loads of women who would go for you besides her and also let you do as you think is best. If you KNOW that she is the ONE FOR YOU then stay with her and quit. You will find plenty of other jobs she would approve.
Good Luck on your decision.

 

[juanjo]

You better think it through. Do what is best for YOU. You know that there are loads of women who would go for you besides her and also let you do as you think is best. If you KNOW that she is the ONE FOR YOU then stay with her and quit. You will find plenty of other jobs she would approve.
Good Luck on your decision.

Zeno Kostas - we have just met you and we of course do not know your girlfriend. But I have to agree with the comments above. But I also have to add a caveat - the cat is now out of the bag and if your girlfriend is one of those people who cannot let go of something then the fact you stop will not mean anything at all. Forever in the future she will hold this against you.

Again I do not know the young lady and I do not know how deep your connection is with her. But if this is a relationship which is important to you and you can only save by abandoning your budding career in porn then do so. Whatever you choose you have our best wishes for your happiness. We might think that you are a hot stud but most of us who post here actually see the entire person and not just a slab of meat.

 

[tampa24]

Wow Zeno Kostas. Part of me is glad that you told you fairly quickly. You had the courage to be honest with her. I think she will respect you for that much at the very least. Even if it is news that she didn't to hear. The one thing I can say with a high degree of confidence is that if you had hidden it from her and she found out on her own, it would have been much much worse. At least you're still communicating, which is a good thing. Only you know the dynamics of your relationship with her. I wish you both the best as you wade through this rather new 21st century dilemma.

You were given some great advice above. Maybe she will come to accept it and thus allow you to continue doing the video work. (Which is my hope...and I believe yours too.) Maybe she will ultimately decide she can't and she wants you to stop. And then again maybe even if you were to stop, she wouldn't be able to get past it anyway. Of course I'm hoping that last scenario is the least likely to occur.

I know this is a stressful time for both of you and I know you really care about her and her son. I wish you the best of luck Zeno Kostas. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and sending positive energy your way.

Many hugs!

 

[betudidntknow]

Last night I took the plunge. I told my girlfriend what I had really been doing on my "vacation"

To put it lightly, she didn't take it so well, and to be honest; neither did I. Today has really been emotional for the two of us. Although she didn't react the way I thought she would. I figured she wouldn't even hear me out, but she did. which is a promising sign. I thought that by this point she would be long gone, and out of my life forever. I am so grateful that she is even talking to me. Right now I'm not really sure what to think or how to feel about the situation.

What ever it is that you decide, good luck to you. I mean that sincerely!

 

[peterh6308]

I had no problem with my William wanting to fuck woman as he was pretty much straight until me. But I'd think I would have a problem if I were a Woman and my man was fucking around with other Men. I wish you luck on this Zeno Kostas, but also expect her not to understand!!

 

[Beth]

I am glad you told her; honesty is really the best policy. Now, you must give her the time to process how she really feels about you. If there is true love, then she will "understand" in her own way. I hope only good things for you.

 

[BrokeStraightBoys]

It is tough but you did the right thing by telling her. I hope it all works out.

 

[stowe1]

I had no problem with my William wanting to fuck woman as he was pretty much straight until me. But I'd think I would have a problem if I were a Woman and my man was fucking around with other Men. I wish you luck on this Zeno Kostas, but also expect her not to understand!!

I have an opposite take on this, peter. My nicky was bi- with a predilection to woman more than men. I didn't mind him fucking his women as long as we were exclusive to one another which we were. If I were a woman I would mind greatly if my boyfriend or 'man" were fucking other women in straight porn, but not if he were fucking other men in gay for pay porn. Of course, that presupposes she has no problem with the concept of his doing any kind of porn at all. If she does have a problem with that, then that's a completely difference situation.

 

[Stripe222]

You need to stay true to yourself. What do you REALLY WANT to do at this point in your life?

The hard truth of the matter is that you're very young and the statistical chances of you being with the same woman 30 years from now is quite low. Young love and young marriages tend not to last. Some do, and it's fantastic to see older couples that met very young and have been married 50 or 60 years. Many aspire to a very long and committed relationship, but have several partners before they get it right, but when it finally happens the journey is worth the heartaches.

I know that is cold comfort now when your heart is hurting, but be assured that if this relationship doesn't work out, the right woman will be there when the time is right.

Good luck, and I hope whatever she and you decide works out.

 

[Damien Kyle]

Last night I took the plunge. I told my girlfriend what I had really been doing on my "vacation"

To put it lightly, she didn't take it so well, and to be honest; neither did I. Today has really been emotional for the two of us. Although she didn't react the way I thought she would. I figured she wouldn't even hear me out, but she did. which is a promising sign. I thought that by this point she would be long gone, and out of my life forever. I am so grateful that she is even talking to me. Right now I'm not really sure what to think or how to feel about the situation.

You'l Live... Pussy Isnt Everything

 

[BigChris]

amen pussy isnt everthing a nice cock will work for me lol lol

 

[peterh6308]

You'l Live... Pussy Isnt Everything

Your mean Damien Kyle, hence why I do like you!! When I left my Wife for my Husband!! (looks funny in print) I never looked back.

 

[BSBZenoKostas]

update on the situation.
everything has been going really well. She is slowly but surely coming to terms with it. Our love is strong. Things are not quite the same (I fear they never will be) but we are both working on it.
We haven't really talked about my future in porn very much, but if I have potential to go far in this industry than I will definitely take advantage of it. If she is truly down for me the way that she says she is than she will support me in it. If not, tough titties, I'm doing it anyway. I know it sounds cold, but I capture every opportunity I have to make something of myself. after all the tattoo on my arm does "say seize the day"

 

[BSBZenoKostas]

It is tough but you did the right thing by telling her. I hope it all works out.

Thanks Mark. I appreciate the support.
you're the best man.

 

[johnny]

Your mean Damien Kyle, hence why I do like you!! When I left my Wife for my Husband!! (looks funny in print) I never looked back.

Peter
That was a great post.Your a very funny man. And I mean that in the best way..
Johnny..

 

[tampa24]

update on the situation.
everything has been going really well. She is slowly but surely coming to terms with it. Our love is strong. Things are not quite the same (I fear they never will be) but we are both working on it.
We haven't really talked about my future in porn very much, but if I have potential to go far in this industry than I will definitely take advantage of it. If she is truly down for me the way that she says she is than she will support me in it. If not, tough titties, I'm doing it anyway. I know it sounds cold, but I capture every opportunity I have to make something of myself. After all the tattoo on my arm does say "Seize the day"

I'm so happy for you that things appear to be settling down after the initial shock Zeno Kostas. Rather selfishly I'm glad that you will try to give the video work a shot and see how far it takes you.

Thank you for sharing the update with us.

 

[Beth]

update on the situation.
everything has been going really well. She is slowly but surely coming to terms with it. Our love is strong. Things are not quite the same (I fear they never will be) but we are both working on it.
We haven't really talked about my future in porn very much, but if I have potential to go far in this industry than I will definitely take advantage of it. If she is truly down for me the way that she says she is than she will support me in it. If not, tough titties, I'm doing it anyway. I know it sounds cold, but I capture every opportunity I have to make something of myself. after all the tattoo on my arm does "say seize the day"

Good to hear that you two are still communicating. Just keep talking and going slowly.

 

[BSBZenoKostas]

I have an opposite take on this, peter. My nicky was bi- with a predilection to woman more than men. I didn't mind him fucking his women as long as we were exclusive to one another which we were. If I were a woman I would mind greatly if my boyfriend or 'man" were fucking other women in straight porn, but not if he were fucking other men in gay for pay porn. Of course, that presupposes she has no problem with the concept of his doing any kind of porn at all. If she does have a problem with that, then that's a completely difference situation.

I wish she was more understanding and realize that I LOVE HER not the models. I am exclusive to her. When I film, it is work, a job, not dating or pursuing other people. I am trying to make her understand this.

 

[BSBZenoKostas]

You need to stay true to yourself. What do you REALLY WANT to do at this point in your life?

The hard truth of the matter is that you're very young and the statistical chances of you being with the same woman 30 years from now is quite low. Young love and young marriages tend not to last. Some do, and it's fantastic to see older couples that met very young and have been married 50 or 60 years. Many aspire to a very long and committed relationship, but have several partners before they get it right, but when it finally happens the journey is worth the heartaches.

I know that is cold comfort now when your heart is hurting, but be assured that if this relationship doesn't work out, the right woman will be there when the time is right.

Good luck, and I hope whatever she and you decide works out.

You are so right. I am young and have my whole life ahead of me. That's why I said what I did in one over my above post. "Though titties" if you don't like it. Surely she will see my love for her and support me in whatever I do.