Agreed, Bart.
Another parallel is this. We can easily say in an offhand way for instance, "Well it's so much easier for young people to come out nowadays than it was in the past." While that may be true in general terms, it doesn't always feel very true to many youth on an individual case-by-case basis. The family pressure and expectations to lead a "normal" hetero life , the dynamics of all their relationships with their parents, siblings, friends, coworkers and extended family...can all be intense. We still have kids committing suicide rather than coming out to friends and family. So I get that's it's not always an easy thing for every guy to decide how secure and intact his sense of masculinity will be if he crosses each boundary of gay sex.
Again though, if you apply to do gay for pay porn in today's world, porn studios are not mental health counselors. [Even though they might feel like it sometimes. lol] They're not going to hold your hand and give you hours, days and months to talk through all your internal issues (one-on-one) until you reach a newer, more comfortable plateau of self-actualization. Studios are there to make money, turn a profit and bring in enough to keep the lights on. While occasionally on an individual basis they may agree to take a roll of the dice with certain promising models...in the hopes of getting more from them in the future...their patience is not (and can't be) unlimited.
So while I do empathize with models who are having a hard time overcoming internal sexual boundaries, nobody forces them to choose a job as a gay porn model. There's waiting tables in restaurants. There're plenty of other jobs out there. If you ask for and accept a job doing gay porn, the industry is not going to bow and scrape to your bidding.
Tampa that is one of the best explanations and post I’ve seen. I knew there was a reason we keep you around. Lol. Maybe you can be our official porn psychologist.
