"Would you Rather...?"

[Ms. Kianna]

Okay Kaalaaupuni, I'll put it here, but it makes me very sad.

Would you rather.........that you die first, or your partner/spouse?


My answer, my partner. I dislike the idea of them dieing alone, more than myself.

 

[SGVBOB]

tough, tough one! However, I am going to side with ending hatred, in the hopes that, as a result, everybody would get along, and if need be share their food/harvest?

Would you rather end hunger or hatred?

I thought this would be an easy one, but then I realized one of the things I hate, is for children to be going hungry. Now I have to think about it some more.

 

[lovelumps]

agreed

Okay Kaalaaupuni, I'll put it here, but it makes me very sad.

Would you rather.........that you die first, or your partner/spouse?


My answer, my partner. I dislike the idea of them dieing alone, more than myself.

I would have to agree with you here, Ms. Kianna. I can't tolerate the idea of my husband suffering in my absence. He is a very strong man, but somehow, I believe he would die of loneliness. I believe our children would take very good care of him. However, that's not enough and I hate the thought of him becoming the sad and lonely hermit I believe he would become. I'm a more social person and would like to believe that I could find enough company to keep me occupied in his absence. While I would miss him terribly, I think in an ideal world, I'd be better off alone than he would.

 

[SGVBOB]

Ms. K, I have actually had this scenario played OVER several times in my lifetime. As a scant few of the forum knows, I suffered the 'equivalent' of a stroke at 15 yrs old, and because of that was hospitalized for 16 wks, having to learn to do everything, (from even breathing) all over. While I was in the hospital, my roommate had terminal cancer. I had gotten to know his daughter/family VERY well. LONG story short, after several weeks of daily visits. One day my roommate and I were talking. The curtain was drawn, so I could not see him. I started up again, asking a question. No response. I called out his name. No response. I called the nurse's station, and someone came in. VERY quickly, she exited, and got a wheelchair, and took me out. a "Code" was called. The paddles/difibrilator/crash cart was brought in, and unfortunately, they were unsuccessful.

After taking 'him' out of the room, about 20 minutes later, the daughter came in to see her dad. "Where is he?" she asked. I couldn't hold it in anymore, I just started sobbing, while pushing the call button. HOW messed up was that that "I" ended up having to bear the news?, instead of the nurses/doctors?

Having seen this, I would rather die first, selfish as it may seem.

Okay Kaalaaupuni, I'll put it here, but it makes me very sad.

Would you rather.........that you die first, or your partner/spouse?


My answer, my partner. I dislike the idea of them dieing alone, more than myself.

 

[kaalaaupuni]

MsK and Lovelumps, it takes someone with strength to select that choice--your empathy and compassion for your partner speaks volumes about your values.
I can certainly understand SGVBOB's position, given his life experiences. I don't think I could handle working in hospice for that very reason, although it's no different for nurses and doctors working ICU/Critical Care/Cancer wards who deal with dying patients.

This is not a fun topic to mull over, but I do recognize it's important because many never prepare themselves for the inevitable...
xoxox

 

[SGVBOB]

first dibs(when it comes to being with a virgin! (tee hee!) Last laugh when it comes to something that the 'victim' is 'somewhat aware' will/is going to be pranked on them

 

[SGVBOB]

Kaalaaupuni,
Please note, and UNDERSTAND completely, that I am sharing my life experiences of my own free will. The being/person upstairs, or whomever you believe in, (in MY PERSONAL opinion), has our entire lifeline premapped, with what that person will endure, face, have to make decisions, try and overcome obstacles, as well setbacks. This entity KNOWS our limits, and puts on us only what we are truly capable of dealing with/handling.

NOTE: sure there have been (more than a time or 2) that I have contemplated suicide. (But then the logical side of my brain/thinking kicks in, and says basically, "WTF are you doing? Do you want a GUARANTEED ticket to hell?" Thus, I am still here, and have my 'SPECIAL-[they know whom I am talking about!], that I can talk with, PM, and or call, to vent.

Thanks for listening!

MsK and Lovelumps, it takes someone with strength to select that choice--your empathy and compassion for your partner speaks volumes about your values.
I can certainly understand SGVBOB's position, given his life experiences. I don't think I could handle working in hospice for that very reason, although it's no different for nurses and doctors working ICU/Critical Care/Cancer wards who deal with dying patients.

This is not a fun topic to mull over, but I do recognize it's important because many never prepare themselves for the inevitable...
xoxox

 

[Ms. Kianna]

Would you rather be with someone who is smart but ugly, or someone who is hot, but kind of stupid?

 

[lovelumps]

Would you rather be with someone who is smart but ugly, or someone who is hot, but kind of stupid?

It depends... at this point in my life, if I found myself on the market, I think I'd have to choose smart but ugly since I'd also be looking for someone with a lot of money, but maybe he wouldn't mind if I had a hot and stupid one on the side.... Or maybe I could find a smart but ugly guy who likes plump middle aged women AND hot and stupid young men and I could have my cake and eat it, too!!!

 

[Ms. Kianna]

It depends... at this point in my life, if I found myself on the market, I think I'd have to choose smart but ugly since I'd also be looking for someone with a lot of money, but maybe he wouldn't mind if I had a hot and stupid one on the side.... Or maybe I could find a smart but ugly guy who likes plump middle aged women AND hot and stupid young men and I could have my cake and eat it, too!!!

I thought some of those same things...........Then I figured, IF I knew for certain that it was a one night stand, that I would NEVER see again, I would go with hot and not so smart. But for a relationship, I would have to go with smart and not so hot.

 

[lovelumps]

I thought some of those same things...........Then I figured, IF I knew for certain that it was a one night stand, that I would NEVER see again, I would go with hot and not so smart. But for a relationship, I would have to go with smart and not so hot.

See, I said I was practical like Kate Jackson, but I think that character would better suit you. I think I'm entirely too greedy So which Angel would that make me more like??? Hmmmm....

 

[Ms. Kianna]

See, I said I was practical like Kate Jackson, but I think that character would better suit you. I think I'm entirely too greedy So which Angel would that make me more like??? Hmmmm....

My favorite Angel was actually Cheryl Ladd, who came later.

I'm actually being very selfish! The stupidity would drive me crazy, really fast. I can help the not so hot smart guy, find better clothes and haircuts. We could even get the wart on his nose removed.

 

[lovelumps]

My favorite Angel was actually Cheryl Ladd, who came later.

I'm actually being very selfish! The stupidity would drive me crazy, really fast. I can help the not so hot smart guy, find better clothes and haircuts. We could even get the wart on his nose removed.

Hee hee hee hee hee hee hee..... You're so funny, Kianna. I love it! I liked Cheryl Ladd more than Farrah, too....

 

[SGVBOB]

Ms K, this is going to sound SOOOO Foney, but those that know me, know this is the REAL me and how I TRULY feel...."OUTER LOOKS fade with age, wheres INNER BEAUTY is ETERNAL". Thus my answer!

Would you rather be with someone who is smart but ugly, or someone who is hot, but kind of stupid?