I need help...i guess

[Joseph5521]

I do. Are you trying to hit on me or what?

Sorry. I'm terrible at flirting. Big hugs to you in Italy.

 

[Mediarahan]

Sorry. I'm terrible at flirting. Big hugs to you in Italy.

Go check your messages

 

[SFPS01]

At this point I'm going to tell you that boyfriends are overrated lol. My best advice is to stop looking and just enjoy being you. When you are looking so hard for love it makes it harder to find in my experience. Go out and join gay clubs like dodge ball, poker or anything. Just look to meet cool people and the rest will usually fall in place.

I've always wanted to be in relationships my entire life until now. Relationships are tough and even harder in the gay world. For the first time in my life I don't want a relationship. It's very strange for me but I'm ok with it. I feel like I want to try something different and just be single for awhile. My last partner was bipolar and it was really tough at the end. I think he destroyed my heart and it's going to take some time to repair. It's ok because I'm the happiest I've been in awhile and that is because of the awesome people in my life and a boyfriend isn't one of them. I hope that helps.

Extremely good advice. I believe you have to be happy with yourself and love yourself first before you can be happy with a relationship. If your not happy with just the way you are then you will never be happy in a relationship. You find love in the most unexpected places and usually when your not looking for it. Be ok right now without the relationship and keep your eyes open for when it does present itself. You can't make love happen...........

 

[SFPS01]

Mediarahan, I hope you will not take this the wrong way but I am going to make some observations. I have read and reread this post and your comments several times. First, I am not an expert, but I do have many life experiences. The tenor or your comments seem to come across a negative about yourself. If it comes across that way in your writings here it may come across that way in person and in your dates, hookups, etc. People seem to shy away from negativity, regardless if it is perceived or actual. It is important that you think and act positive about yourself, not just in thought but in reality. You sound like an intelligent, caring person and you need to accentuate your positives in mind, manner, and deeds, not the negatives. Given that you are in college, I believe, you have many years to experience life. Don't be in a rush and most importantly, don't settle for anything less than what you want and need. It will come when you least expect it.

 

[Mediarahan]

Mediarahan, I hope you will not take this the wrong way but I am going to make some observations. I have read and reread this post and your comments several times. First, I am not an expert, but I do have many life experiences. The tenor or your comments seem to come across a negative about yourself. If it comes across that way in your writings here it may come across that way in person and in your dates, hookups, etc. People seem to shy away from negativity, regardless if it is perceived or actual. It is important that you think and act positive about yourself, not just in thought but in reality. You sound like an intelligent, caring person and you need to accentuate your positives in mind, manner, and deeds, not the negatives. Given that you are in college, I believe, you have many years to experience life. Don't be in a rush and most importantly, don't settle for anything less than what you want and need. It will come when you least expect it.

I know spf you are abosulutely right,, i'm negative after the traumatic experience from 2 years ago, i've been raped and i felt less than a human being for quite sometime, even tho i'm accepting that but still can't get over it fast...hence al this negativity, feeling unwante, unlikeable when someon rejected me is because of that..

I'm still working on it, i'm trying to love myself and being positive again as i used to.
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[tampa24]

I'm so sorry that happened to you Mediarahan. That may take some more time to get over. And if you think professional help might ease your burden, then please seek it out. Traumatic events do not have to define you as a person. You can rise above it.

 

[Mediarahan]

I'm so sorry that happened to you Mediarahan. That may take some more time to get over. And if you think professional help might ease your burden, then please seek it out. Traumatic events do not have to define you as a person. You can rise above it.

I'm trying to recover from it...it's just i need to stop grtting rejected or nclose my heart to anyone altogether..
Sometimes i want to believe a person will loves me

 

[Repareur]

I'm trying to recover from it...it's just i need to stop grtting rejected or nclose my heart to anyone altogether..
Sometimes i want to believe a person will loves me

You will meet someone but it doesn’t happen over night. It’s a lot better to be friends first. My long time boyfriend is my best friend.

 

[Mediarahan]

You will meet someone but it doesn’t happen over night. It’s a lot better to be friends first. My long time boyfriend is my best friend.

I know it doesn't happen overnight...it's just i need help from outside a bit

 

[Mediarahan]

Thank you guys for the support when i was really really sad.