I need help...i guess

[Mediarahan]

So hello guys...
I need a help on finding a boyfriend

I recently got rejected by a guy, even tho we don't want to lose each other as a friend, i still gave mixed feeling..

I know if it's a silly matter but yeah...i don't know anymore..

 

[Jaybifla]

So hello guys...
I need a help on finding a boyfriend

I recently got rejected by a guy, even tho we don't want to lose each other as a friend, i still gave mixed feeling..

I know if it's a silly matter but yeah...i don't know anymore..

Wish I could help. I’ve been looking myself for 3 1/2 years.

 

[Mediarahan]

Wish I could help. I’ve been looking myself for 3 1/2 years.

My last relationship ended in 2014...but these past 3 years i feel like i'm desperate to find a guy..many dates but ended up rejected or ghosted

 

[Mediarahan]

Wish I could help. I’ve been looking myself for 3 1/2 years.

Maybe jay, what's your type?

My last relationship ended in 2014...but these past 3 years i feel like i'm desperate to find a guy..many dates but ended up rejected or ghosted

 

[Joseph5521]

Hang in there man. Love is so hard. Just relax into being the best "you" you can be and I promise it will find you when you both are ready for it.

 

[BrokeStraightBoys]

Hang in there man. Love is so hard. Just relax into being the best "you" you can be and I promise it will find you when you both are ready for it.

Best advice.

 

[BrokeStraightBoys]

At this point I'm going to tell you that boyfriends are overrated lol. My best advice is to stop looking and just enjoy being you. When you are looking so hard for love it makes it harder to find in my experience. Go out and join gay clubs like dodge ball, poker or anything. Just look to meet cool people and the rest will usually fall in place.

I've always wanted to be in relationships my entire life until now. Relationships are tough and even harder in the gay world. For the first time in my life I don't want a relationship. It's very strange for me but I'm ok with it. I feel like I want to try something different and just be single for awhile. My last partner was bipolar and it was really tough at the end. I think he destroyed my heart and it's going to take some time to repair. It's ok because I'm the happiest I've been in awhile and that is because of the awesome people in my life and a boyfriend isn't one of them. I hope that helps.

 

[Mediarahan]

Hang in there man. Love is so hard. Just relax into being the best "you" you can be and I promise it will find you when you both are ready for it.

I'm being myself most of the time, i'm a weird guy who studied graphic and fashion but read science journal about plants, animal, etc and i can talk about them for hours. I'm into cooking and prefer date in museum instead of bar. I'm a weird guy who enjoy doing sitting on the bed and read books, that's me..i'm weird

 

[Mediarahan]

At this point I'm going to tell you that boyfriends are overrated lol. My best advice is to stop looking and just enjoy being you. When you are looking so hard for love it makes it harder to find in my experience. Go out and join gay clubs like dodge ball, poker or anything. Just look to meet cool people and the rest will usually fall in place.

I've always wanted to be in relationships my entire life until now. Relationships are tough and even harder in the gay world. For the first time in my life I don't want a relationship. It's very strange for me but I'm ok with it. I feel like I want to try something different and just be single for awhile. My last partner was bipolar and it was really tough at the end. I think he destroyed my heart and it's going to take some time to repair. It's ok because I'm the happiest I've been in awhile and that is because of the awesome people in my life and a boyfriend isn't one of them. I hope that helps.

I'm not looking but i'm open to something else except hooking up, but i just hate when people reject me even tho we have a lot of things in common and said i don't have feeling for you and it won't change blablabla. I'm fucking tired of all the bullshits

 

[Jaybifla]

Maybe jay, what's your type?

My last relationship ended in 2014...but these past 3 years i feel like i'm desperate to find a guy..many dates but ended up rejected or ghosted

I really don’t think I have a type. I guess the main quality is someone who makes me laugh. A completely drug and alcohol free guy is a must , as I am 2 1/2 years sober. But even when you look at the models that I like on Broke Straight Boys, I don’t really have a specific type. I guess I do have a thing for red heads, but I like my men of color too. But personality and humor are key over all. I say I’ve been looking for 3 1/2 years, but I haven’t actually been looking at all. I think what Mark said is important.....that you stop looking. Let it come to you. I have faith that it will come to me one day, I really do. I have been hurt many, many times though, so my heart is very guarded. The hurt I’ve experienced from relationships is a contribution to my past addiction to alcohol. Not completely, but definitely a part of it.

 

[another1]

I think the process of finding the one is like looking for a four leaf clover. Until it is found, there are so many flowery plants waiting to be enjoyed! Enjoy them . The rose is beautiful, it's the thorn.that hurt..

 

[Mediarahan]

I really don’t think I have a type. I guess the main quality is someone who makes me laugh. A completely drug and alcohol free guy is a must , as I am 2 1/2 years sober. But even when you look at the models that I like on Broke Straight Boys, I don’t really have a specific type. I guess I do have a thing for red heads, but I like my men of color too. But personality and humor are key over all. I say I’ve been looking for 3 1/2 years, but I haven’t actually been looking at all. I think what Mark said is important.....that you stop looking. Let it come to you. I have faith that it will come to me one day, I really do. I have been hurt many, many times though, so my heart is very guarded. The hurt I’ve experienced from relationships is a contribution to my past addiction to alcohol. Not completely, but definitely a part of it.

I'm a happy guy and always positive before but everything changed 2 years ago. I've been raped 2 months after i moved in to Milan. Hence why i have difficulties but everytime i found a guy that has common interest and same mindset they tend to reject me. Idk anymore

 

[Joseph5521]

I'm being myself most of the time, i'm a weird guy who studied graphic and fashion but read science journal about plants, animal, etc and i can talk about them for hours. I'm into cooking and prefer date in museum instead of bar. I'm a weird guy who enjoy doing sitting on the bed and read books, that's me..i'm weird

Are you my soulmate? If you say you like dogs, it's destiny.

 

[Mediarahan]

Are you my soulmate? If you say you like dogs, it's destiny.

I do. Are you trying to hit on me or what?

 

[peterh6308]

Best advice: don't settle because you're lonely, it won't end well!! Mark has some good advice, join some clubs etc. I played on a softball team and gay bowling league. It was fun and you meet some cool people and maybe "the one". Just don't get down if your not willing to put yourself out there.

 

[Mediarahan]

Best advice: don't settle because you're lonely, it won't end well!! Mark has some good advice, join some clubs etc. I played on a softball team and gay bowling league. It was fun and you meet some cool people and maybe "the one". Just don't get down if your not willing to put yourself out there.

I'm willing, i'm learning italian to just dismish the language barrier but still they prefel full well spoken in italian than english. And also most of the gay communities here speak only italian

 

[Repareur]

Mark and Peter have great advice. I’ve never found one when I was looking. It’s best just to date and try not to look at each one as is this my boyfriend or not. It will just happen. You can not force it.

Mark, my 20 year boyfriend is bipolar. There have been some really tough times. I understand. I’ve gone through periods I was very happy being single for a long time. Now I’m happy that I have a long term partner. Still need plenty of porn. Lol.

 

[mikeyank]

I'm so glad that the forum came together for you Med with some terrific advice from all. I love when the forum shows such a great sense of community. You are a good guy Med and I'm sure everything will work out great for you. Like the old Supremes song says, "You can't hurry love. You just have to wait". But I agree with what many others have said, You have to love yourself first and be happy with yourself, no matter what happens with others. And the rest will follow. Hang in there buddy! You are a great guy!

 

[Repareur]

I'm willing, i'm learning italian to just dismish the language barrier but still they prefel full well spoken in italian than english. And also most of the gay communities here speak only italian

I forgot you are in school in Italy. That makes it tougher not being a local. But just stay positive and be the best person you can. It will work out. But not always in the timeframe we want it to.

 

[Mediarahan]

This past week was rough for me. Sometimes i just feel tired..