The Forums: Addictive or an escape?

[louis33705]

I usually get up around 3-4 every morning. I log on to my computer and then proceed to grab some coffee. Besides checking my email, the first site I log on to is Broke Straight Boys Regardless if it is a day when a new scene is released or not I always go to the forum first. I check out what was posted or go through the ones I responded to and see if there were any further responses. I have found myself lurking on the forums for maybe 1-2 hours of the wee hours of the morning. When I'm done, I'll turn the TV on and catch my usual morning news and shows. But, I do return. There have been times when I find myself in the middle of the afternoon bored and lonely, so I come back to the forum. Some may say, "Louis, get a life. Get out and do something." I do have a life and I do get out. However, I do live alone and there are times in a day when I feel more alone than others, so I use the forum as an escape to communicate with others.

What say you. Addictive or an escape?

Louis

 

[Beth]

I usually get up around 3-4 every morning. I log on to my computer and then proceed to grab some coffee. Besides checking my email, the first site I log on to is BSB. Regardless if it is a day when a new scene is released or not I always go to the forum first. I check out what was posted or go through the ones I responded to and see if there were any further responses. I have found myself lurking on the forums for maybe 1-2 hours of the wee hours of the morning. When I'm done, I'll turn the TV on and catch my usual morning news and shows. But, I do return. There have been times when I find myself in the middle of the afternoon bored and lonely, so I come back to the forum. Some may say, "Louis, get a life. Get out and do something." I do have a life and I do get out. However, I do live alone and there are times in a day when I feel more alone than others, so I use the forum as an escape to communicate with others.

What say you. Addictive or an escape?

Louis

I say, if you'd change the sex parts, you'd be talking about me; my daily routine exactly! I also do not see it as some perverse, bad thing; it's just how I keep in contact with some of my "framily" (yep, too fuckin' late now; I know where you lurk). I was watching a YouTube video of a couple I like to watch; they're in their mid-20s. As they said, using the internet is now just part of our lives. After meeting on Facebook, they started dating.
Now, do I spend too much time on the computer? Could be, but I don't I don't mind...got to let that vibrator cool down and recharge sometime! (And yep, I knew, you knew, I was going to say that).

 

[joninliverton]

The Broke Straight Boys forum is somewhat addictive but also what the Germans call a Trefpunkt - or meeting place. I have been away from Broke Straight Boys twice since I first joined and the main reasons I returned was the forum and it's people. Definitely not the films.

 

[danleeh1984]

Well I have to say to me its become a bit of both, I only discovered the forums a couple of days ago and since then I just keep coming on to check what others have written and to write on the threads when anything comes to mind. My excuse is that I'm disabled so I can't leave my house and on the average day all I normally have to talk to is my carer which also happens to be a family member so this truly has become both as everyone has something else to say so it makes interesting reading and a lot to comment on. Not forgetting getting to watch the scenes as well win win.

 

[Beth]

The BSB forum is somewhat addictive but also what the Germans call a Trefpunkt - or meeting place. I have been away from BSB twice since I first joined and the main reasons I returned was the forum and it's people. Definitely not the films.

Shut up, don't you have someone on Grindr to fuck?!

 

[Beth]

Shut up, don't you have someone on Grindr to fuck?!

Oh guys, I'm gonna apologize for this one; it was meant as a joke...and I told Jon it was.
I just read that a man was killed after using the Grindr app. I am very sorry for my remark.

 

[mikeyank]

Dear Louis,

As a relative newcomer, (no Beth, I didn't say "new cummer" ) to the forum, you've developed your addiction within a couple of months of joining us here in forumland. It is something I've had for many years now, and as Diana Ross once said, "If there's a cure for this, I don't want it". And yes it is an escape too, but the cool thing is that so many current and former forumites have turned out to be really great people, many who have transformed from virtual friends into real friends, through written words and phone conversations, and I've already met Tampa in person, and I'm hoping to meet Peter, perhaps during this upcoming summer. Betu lives upstate a ways but hopefully we too shall meet, perhaps at a Broke Straight Boys pride event if they ever come back to New York.

So yes Louis, I am the exact same way about the forum, and I always thank Mark for adding this feature to the site that keeps me and others too here, way more than the episodes do. I am addicted to the forum, and it is an escape as well as a place to make real friends too for me. Thanks Mark.

 

[nickkk1881]

Dear Louis,

As a relative newcomer, (no Beth, I didn't say "new cummer" ) to the forum, you've developed your addiction within a couple of months of joining us here in forumland. It is something I've had for many years now, and as Diana Ross once said, "If there's a cure for this, I don't want it". And yes it is an escape too, but the cool thing is that so many current and former forumites have turned out to be really great people, many who have transformed from virtual friends into real friends, through written words and phone conversations, and I've already met Tampa in person, and I'm hoping to meet Peter, perhaps during this upcoming summer. Betu lives upstate a ways but hopefully we too shall meet, perhaps at a BSB pride event if they ever come back to New York.

So yes Louis, I am the exact same way about the forum, and I always thank Mark for adding this feature to the site that keeps me and others too here, way more than the episodes do. I am addicted to the forum, and it is an escape as well as a place to make real friends too for me. Thanks Mark.

While I havent made any real friends on here, the forum is the ONLY reason I stay with Broke Straight Boys since Adam and others left. I just enjoy hearing what all of you have to say whether I agree with you or not. I log in about once a day and check up on things...

 

[johnny]

Great post Louis.
You sound like a real nice man. I find it to be a little of both. I don't get up as early as you.. maybe 6 or 6;30 turn on my computer. Pee. Feed the cat.
Then it's Broke Straight Boys I have had many addictions cost me plenty. One of the things I gave up was coffee. lol. I have been in many
12 step programs . I live alone with a kitty. Who I love more than anything. But I love the forum. I have been real lucky have made some wonderful friends.
Is it and escape ?? Maybe...But I love it. Nobody's business but mine . I do everything I have to do to keep my life going .
And have finally come to realize that is all that counts. I have never been a great writer. But the forum and the people
on it have given me a whole new happiness and a feeling of being a part of something special .Your a good man Louis and
we are a part of something special. You are not alone....
Just keep writing.
xo Johnny
And You Cook. That is a good thing. And were not hurting anyone.

 

[joninliverton]

Oh guys, I'm gonna apologize for this one; it was meant as a joke...and I told Jon it was.
I just read that a man was killed after using the Grindr app. I am very sorry for my remark.

It's ok Beth I knew your first post was a joke. There are a few "bad meet" stories about Grindr hanging around, but that is to be expected for a chat and date app in this wierd and dangerous world.

 

[betudidntknow]

......communicate with others.

What say you. Addictive or an escape?

Louis

Nice thread Louis! When I first started viewing scenes on Broke Straight Boys, it was a while before I discovered the forum and began to participate in it! I do find my self, intrigued, fascinated, drawn into...and a host of other components associated with pre-addictive tendencies! I do find that, having an outlet to discuss "all things sexual" a great benefit as, there aren't a lot of people in my "circle of friends" to do this with! Due mostly to my schedule of work as well as geographical location! I've formed connections with a few people here that I would never have been able to do had it not been for the forum! I am sure this venue serves many in different ways but, for me.....it's become my "gay alternative to FB" which I use strictly for: friends, work and family!

 

[peterh6308]

I like this site for the "gay sex"!!! lol but have gotten addicted to the forum and it's many interesting people. It is a site I visit daily for the forum aka "gay facebook" thanks Betu... I have too gotten close to a hand full of you formites. I have said many times over the years that "some of you are close friends whom I haven't met yet". Keep posting members and models!! xoxoxo Peter

 

[louis33705]

Wow. What amazing responses. I have been a member of a few nudist web sites for quite a few years. I have made friends from all over the world. There is one site where we used to get on group cam chat and chat about anything and everything. Often, the was one guy in South Africa who would play African music while we watched him cook. The most memorable experience I had was one day with Nina in London. She had her cam pointed to her while she painted (her hobby) a portrait of a sun flower. I turned on some new age music, piped it through my cam microphone, and we just listened to the music and watched her paint for about an hour. No one chatted during this time. I get a very calming feeling when I think of that day.

I have a very good nudist friend who lives in Pennsylvania. We skype often, at least 2-3 times a week. We have developed a bond between us. We share the same Ancestral relationship. I have been with him through some of his hardships when he lost his job and got evicted. Recently, during Easter week I had a confrontation with my sister-in-law on Easter and then my landlord a couple of days later. He contacted me later in the week to check in. I told him I was on the verge of tears. He asked if I needed a shoulder. When I said that I did, he told me he was turning his cam on. We talked for a very long time and I felt so much better when our conversation ended. Our expectations are to meet in person some time in the future.

As for meeting cyber friends in person, I have met three. I have had the pleasure of hanging out with them nude (in a non-sexual way) and just spend quality time together.

I see the internet as a life-saving experience, a safe haven to exist in. The thoughts of who and where I was prior to it's inception is a part of my life I do not wish to return to. Cruising risky and sleazy public areas are where one usually found me such as public beaches, parks, filthy out of the way toilets, and not to mention the cheap bars in the dark side of town.

I thank Broke Straight Boys for this forum. I thank the other sites I still belong to. Most especially, I thank you people here for allowing me to be a part of your family in such a short period of time since I joined.

Happy "hump" day ya'll. I am having left overs tonight. Need to finish up the beef stew I made on Monday. I have a couple of containers to walk over to my ex-wife's place in a little while. Tomorrow I will be cooking corned beef and cabbage.

Yes, I do have a life. The best part is that I live in a nudist community and live clothes free all the time. This is what I call "Total Freedom!"

Peace,
Louis

 

[tampa24]

Happy Hump Day Louis! haha

 

[louis33705]

Ok, I just saw a new posting in the forums. My heart sank.

 

[Ash Parker]

Alright Louis!

I don't believe i'm addicted to the forum, but your thread title has definitely got me thinking about why I come here. Obviously I love the site as a whole but I stick my head round the forum door cos I enjoy seeing people's comments and reactions, I enjoy the interaction and I've enjoyed adding to it. And, for the most part, the people here are characters whose voices I can hear in my head when i'm reading their posts. So,in sum,i guess it's my escape. Another community away from my own community. Where everyone happens to love cock.

 

[tampa24]

Ok, I just saw a new posting in the forums. My heart sank.

I know. I don't think it will last. They will take of it I'm sure.

 

[johnny]

I know. I don't think it will last. They will take of it I'm sure.

I pray it has been taken care of. My heart sank too.

 

[joninliverton]

I pray it has been taken care of. My heart sank too.

Sticks and stones etc etc...

 

[johnny]

Ok, I just saw a new posting in the forums. My heart sank.

Looks like it was taken care of Louis.Be Happy..