While doing some really serious teaching in Barcelona from 1997 to 2006 I acquired guru status at the university. I'll tell ya, fuckin' gurus get all they want. Added to that, the guys noticed a tendency to subversive laughter vis-a-vis the establishment that they really liked as well. I think the only reason I was so lucky really was that I didn't go after them all that much but was always glad to see them if they came after me.
Money? I once paid an extremely cute guy's ticket to come see me in Palma.
I found that seems to work for me too. Slim, I am a pretty good listener. I just try to keep boundaries between being a counselor and a friend. Sometimes, it can be very tough. I find that most younger guys like to be able to express themselves and their own view points without being shot down or being told they are wrong. They will engage in debate and be open to new ideas too when they feel they are heard. Nothing sends them running like lectures about manors, and telling them they are wrong. They can get that from their parents. I guess what I am saying is they like to feel like they are somebody and that they are being heard and valued. Most young feel like they are just a voice in the chorus of life until they are acknowledged...
Let me see one time I bought a guy a pair of sneakers because he needed them. Another time I helped a college student with buying a pair of glasses his mom could not afford. I never asked for anything in return in either case. The guy I bought the glasses for finally cam e up to me one day and said, "Dude, are you gay?"
I said, "Hummm, not actually, I am bisexual."
So, he said, "I though so. would you give me a blow job some day if I asked you to ." I told him that I only do that for people I really like and if they really like me. He said, "Cool...,, and left."
He used to stop by my apt. regularly for help with school work or to share a meal and joke around. One day he asked if I had any porn he could watch. I showed him my straight porn. He said, "I don't think I am gay but I would love to borrow some gay porn and or bisexual porn if you have it." I let him pick two videos.
He came back two weeks later and said, "will you teach me about gay sex?"
I said, "I am a little old for you."
He laughed and said, "I just want to experiment to see what it is like."
I said, "why me?"
He said that there was a guy in school that hit on him. He said, at first it was a turn off but he has fantasized about making out with him.
So, I said, "what do you want to do with me then."
He said, "I want to know what it is all about with some one who I know and trust before I make up my mind about this guy."
So, I said OK, but you need to let me know if you are uncomfortable with anything. We messed around for about three days.
He said it was wonderful and he was going to take the guy up on his offer. I guess I felt kind of bad at first. But I remembered what brought us to that moment. They hooked up for a few weeks. Then they broke up. Until graduation he would come by regularly to hang out and cuddle. Occasionally we would have sex if he was in the mood or sometimes if I was. He graduated 5 years ago and he is now married with 3 kids. He e-mails weekly and calls once in a while still. It has been a great friendship all in all.
