Hey everyone! Ian Dempsey Here!

[IanDempsey]

You sure did answer it well Ian. lol That was a great response. Thank you! So honest and all-encompassing! You've also quickly caught on to every dilemma Clay faces in directing a scene.

If the models do too good of a job with a passionate, no-holds-barred scene, (or if they stay hard the whole time, as you say) then some will say this proves that the models are actually gay. If the models play it too straight, cold and aloof, then the scenes will get bad ratings for being so flat and lacking in chemistry or passion. Or to some it will look like one model or another is just being a jerk. But then sometimes a model really is being a jerk and needs either an attitude adjustment or needs to be let go. lol Other times he's just over-acted the role he was told to play. We viewers will never know with certainty which one it is without being on the set ourselves at the time.

"What the members have to understand is that the models are essentially actors. And that the actors will only be as good as the members allow them to be."

That's actually one of my favorite quotes of your whole response. It's very true. Yet "good" is also very subjective. Indeed. You can't make everyone happy in this business. lol

I happened to enjoy this scene immensely. You did a wonderful job here Ian and can be really proud of yourself here. It reminded me of a good CF scene. (CF is another porn site out there which I also like a lot but only visit ocsassionally) I enjoyed this scene because Paul is a favorite among many of us. And also of course because you looked so good and did so well here. This was more of a College Dudes scene or a CF scene. Once in a while a no-holds-barred sex scene can be fun. Even in here.

Yet I would also not like to see this kind of scene become the norm in here because if Broke Straight Boys tries going really commercial, they would risk becoming just another also-ran in the business. I like the introductory parts of scenes where you guys get to talk a little bit about yourselves and your lives. That sense of connection between model and viewer adds so much more to the viewing experience. For instance would you rather be known among your fans as the cute guy who's a lifeguard and always seems so polite and sweet? Or would you rather be known just as "That guy with the green eyes and the big dick"? You see the difference?

For the straight purists, they won't care for this latest scene very much. For the members who don't care if the models are straight or gay, they'll love it. I'm more of a straight purist myself here on Broke Straight Boys but I liked it and gave it a 5.

You also get brownie points in my book Ian for your writing skills. I'm very impressed that you know the contraction of (you are) is spelled "you're" and NOT "your". LOL What can I say? It's one of my peeves. haha

Hahaha, yeah I can't stand bad writing. Especially when people message me on Facebook and abbreviate everything, or don't use full complete sentences. I'm like, "what is this, 2nd grade?" After a while it gets hard to understand what people are trying to say, and then I get frustrated because I have to ask them to repeat it in a manor that I'll understand. Lol.

I do like the variety of how the scenes go in terms of intros and whatnot. And I was actually surprised when Clay told us to just start without a, "Hey we're here with Paul Canon and Ian Dempsey, say hi guys," That was different and I think it's a good mix, but like you said, we can't make everyone happy. Which brings up another thing I want to talk about. I wasn't expecting the gay community to be so judgmental about the whole, "gay for pay" thing. When I was at Denver Pride I was taken aback by how many people came up to us and were like, "oh theres no way you're straight, you all are gay!" and, "Just keep telling yourself you're straight if it makes you happy," it was weird. I was expecting they would think it was cool that straight guys would do that kind of stuff for money, because I know a lot of guys who would rather be homeless than do gay for pay porn.

 

[Youngandconfused22]

I am Completely obsessed and excited to have Ian among the Broke Straight Boys stables. Ian has made such progress in such an short time and has shown huge potential. The scene with Paul was beyond amazing and is one of the best Broke Straight Boys scenes I've ever seen and the rating on it shows that the majority of Broke Straight Boys members love Ian. I hope Ian has a long career ahead of him and if his last scene is any idea there should be many awesome scenes to come.

 

[tampa24]

...Which brings up another thing I want to talk about. I wasn't expecting the gay community to be so judgmental about the whole, "gay for pay" thing. When I was at Denver Pride I was taken aback by how many people came up to us and were like, "oh theres no way you're straight, you all are gay!" and, "Just keep telling yourself you're straight if it makes you happy," it was weird. I was expecting they would think it was cool that straight guys would do that kind of stuff for money, because I know a lot of guys who would rather be homeless than do gay for pay porn.

I'm so sorry you had that experience Ian. I hope you didn't take it too personally. It's not right for people to be so catty and rude. The only thing I can figure is that there is a natural cynicism out there nowadays (everywhere, and not just in the gay community) in regards to "truth in advertising". When we are constantly bombarded with dubious claims about products in the marketplace, like those advertised in late night infomercials for instance...one feels like it would be foolish to take every company's claim as gospel.

If there were some supernatural way to prove that each of you were straight to people at those same events...I do think they would all be in awe and appreciation that you guys would even attempt gay for pay porn. Let alone do it well.

 

[IanDempsey]

I'm so sorry you had that experience Ian. I hope you didn't take it too personally. It's not right for people to be so catty and rude. The only thing I can figure is that there is a natural cynicism out there nowadays (everywhere, and not just in the gay community) in regards to "truth in advertising". When we are constantly bombarded with dubious claims about products in the marketplace, like those advertised in late night infomercials for instance...one feels like it would be foolish to take every company's claim as gospel.

If there were some supernatural way to prove that each of you were straight to people at those same events...I do think they would all be in awe and appreciation that you guys would even attempt gay for pay porn. Let alone do it well.

I didn't take it personally at all, they were complete strangers, I was just shocked. But I guess that's how some people are these days.

 

[lovelumps]

I didn't take it personally at all, they were complete strangers, I was just shocked. But I guess that's how some people are these days.

That's not the first time I've heard models express their frustration when people question their sexuality. I'm not surprised it happened here in Denver, because I've had friends express their disbelief. Maybe we're a tough crowd? I don't know. I just know how much I enjoyed meeting you and how delightful I found you to be. I don't care who you love, and I don't question your sexuality. I wonder if a certain percentage of people just hope you are gay, either because they can't understand, or because they just want to bone you

 

[joninliverton]

The only time we will truly know if a model is gay or bisexual is when he comes out with it in public. We don't have any officially gay models at Broke Straight Boys at the moment although we do have a bisexual model and a pansexual model.

 

[BrokeStraightBoys]

I'm so sorry you had that experience Ian. I hope you didn't take it too personally. It's not right for people to be so catty and rude. The only thing I can figure is that there is a natural cynicism out there nowadays (everywhere, and not just in the gay community) in regards to "truth in advertising". When we are constantly bombarded with dubious claims about products in the marketplace, like those advertised in late night infomercials for instance...one feels like it would be foolish to take every company's claim as gospel.

If there were some supernatural way to prove that each of you were straight to people at those same events...I do think they would all be in awe and appreciation that you guys would even attempt gay for pay porn. Let alone do it well.

I definitely agree and I don't understand how gay people can be so judgmental when gay people are judged constantly. It really makes me want to beat my head against a wall. :/

 

[mikeyank]

I'm so sorry you had that experience Ian. I hope you didn't take it too personally. It's not right for people to be so catty and rude. The only thing I can figure is that there is a natural cynicism out there nowadays (everywhere, and not just in the gay community) in regards to "truth in advertising". When we are constantly bombarded with dubious claims about products in the marketplace, like those advertised in late night infomercials for instance...one feels like it would be foolish to take every company's claim as gospel.

If there were some supernatural way to prove that each of you were straight to people at those same events...I do think they would all be in awe and appreciation that you guys would even attempt gay for pay porn. Let alone do it well.

I definitely agree and I don't understand how gay people can be so judgmental when gay people are judged constantly. It really makes me want to beat my head against a wall. :/

Mark, I cannot speak for the people who met Ian at the Gay Pride event, as I was not there, but my issue with the new focus of the site is if the model/actors are so convincing in their scenes that they enjoy gay sex, while they may be actually straight in their private lives, then what is the point of having real straight guys appear here any longer?

For me, the whole point of Broke Straight Boys is to feature believably straight guys performing gay sex acts because they are broke, and if nothing is said or makes it appear that they are straight, then how does Broke Straight Boys differ from College Dudes or the other slick gay porn sites that are sometimes mentioned here?

And if people who meet Ian or others at an event and think that they might be gay, what is wrong with that? I am gay, you are gay, and I don't see how one gay man thinking that another man is gay is a bad thing. Gay is good!

 

[mactee]

Hi Ian,

As I posted in the thread about your scene with Paul, you guys have set the Broke Straight Boys Bar very, very high in total performance. Your are so personable in your acting I know you have to be very good at improv.

I hope you have taken the time to read some if not all of the reviews. I think it is one of the most positive posting from us forumites.

Thanks man, you are just terrific.

 

[IanDempsey]

Mark, I cannot speak for the people who met Ian at the Gay Pride event, as I was not there, but my issue with the new focus of the site is if the model/actors are so convincing in their scenes that they enjoy gay sex, while they may be actually straight in their private lives, then what is the point of having real straight guys appear here any longer?

For me, the whole point of Broke Straight Boys is to feature believably straight guys performing gay sex acts because they are broke, and if nothing is said or makes it appear that they are straight, then how does Broke Straight Boys differ from College Dudes or the other slick gay porn sites that are sometimes mentioned here?

And if people who meet Ian or others at an event and think that they might be gay, what is wrong with that? I am gay, you are gay, and I don't see how one gay man thinking that another man is gay is a bad thing. Gay is good!

You do realize though that in real life, two straight guys would NEVER have sex with each other, right? That's just something that doesn't happen. If it may seem that we enjoy the sex, it's because we care about the ratings. Most scenes with no interactions and no relationship between the models, gets a shit awful rating. And having someone think that you are gay isn't a bad thing, I never said it was. I didn't go home and cry like a little baby because people were calling me names, it was just something I noticed and wasn't expecting.

 

[IanDempsey]

That's not the first time I've heard models express their frustration when people question their sexuality. I'm not surprised it happened here in Denver, because I've had friends express their disbelief. Maybe we're a tough crowd? I don't know. I just know how much I enjoyed meeting you and how delightful I found you to be. I don't care who you love, and I don't question your sexuality. I wonder if a certain percentage of people just hope you are gay, either because they can't understand, or because they just want to bone you

I loved meeting you, Lovelumps! It was really fun to get to talk to you and see how down to earth you are. There were quite a few people at pride that were really down to earth and I enjoyed talking to all of them. lol.

 

[tampa24]

I didn't take it personally at all, they were complete strangers, I was just shocked. But I guess that's how some people are these days.

And having someone think that you are gay isn't a bad thing, I never said it was. I didn't go home and cry like a little baby because people were calling me names, it was just something I noticed and wasn't expecting.

I'm glad you have the maturity and self confidence to be able to handle that kind of taunting Ian from some of the people at the events. And it was very childish and juvenile taunting. People need to be kinder to one another. Period. I feel sorry for any Broke Straight Boys model out at the events who works very hard to please the fans and then gets his feelings hurt. Unfortunately not every straight Broke Straight Boys model is in a place in his life where he can take comments like that without being affected by them.

All I can say Ian is please don't judge us members by a few rude people at the events. I don't think that the ones who were rude to you are necessarily awful people...as they are just very immature. While that doesn't mean we should condone it, we should to try to forgive it and move on. Fortunately in life, immaturity is usually a temporary condition.

The LGBT community can be a wonderful, vibrant, diverse, irreverent, funny, and respectful group of people, all trying to find their way in life. If I counted every hurt feeling, every life setback or inconvenience brought onto me by someone else's thoughtlessness or selfishness, and then attributed it to their "being straight"...how fair would that be to the straight community?

Mark is so right that people in the LGBT community face daily harassment, ridicule, prejudice, name calling...right up to the threat of physical harm and murder. So there's no good excuse for some gay people to be so rude either. Please don't judge us Ian by the words or actions of a few. If I were at the event and saw that, I would be standing up for you guys and trying to smooth things over in any way I could. If I sensed that a model was hurt by it, I'd be offering him words of support and encouragement. Just as I offer it to you again here Ian. I'm sorry you had that experience. I'm glad you were able to handle it well without taking it to heart and being hurt by it. xoo

 

[andy]

Ugh! Ian, you guys were harassed? Some people need to get a life! If it happens again, remind yourself that a lot of people are very ignorant and stick together.
Despite all its pride events blahblah, the US is a very homophobic country. Like Tampa said, members of that GLBT community are literally hunted down and killed. The fact that we have to fight for our rights is despicable and unacceptable.

 

[andy]

(sorry to post in batches but I'm still having issues with the connection or whatever it is)
When I left the US I self-identified as straight. When I came back gay (lol) my father's first words to me were "be damn careful". That's when it dawned on me that my home country is hostile and practically rejects homosexuality outright. "The land of the free" is pure bullshit. Anyway, I'll stop ranting. You guys take care of yourselves :/ (the models and everybody in this board of course)

 

[IanDempsey]

Back from vacation! Round two in just 8 days!

 

[tampa24]

I hope that means what I think it does Ian.

 

[IanDempsey]

I just wanted to take a moment to say that my favorite thing about Broke Straight Boys is the AMAZING staff! Mark, Sha, Ms. Sabrina, and everyone else behind the scenes, you are all the most down-to-earth people I've ever been able to work with and fun people to be around!

 

[tampa24]

Aww... Hey Ian!,

It's great to hear from you man! We've missed you both in the forum and onscreen. I was wondering just the other day if we were going to see more work from you. It sounds like my wish has been granted given your last post. They are indeed all a very special group of people. I'm so glad to hear that they treat you so well. It just reinforces all the wonderful things I know about them and hear from others.

 

[BrokeStraightBoys]

I just wanted to take a moment to say that my favorite thing about Broke Straight Boys is the AMAZING staff! Mark, Sha, Ms. Sabrina, and everyone else behind the scenes, you are all the most down-to-earth people I've ever been able to work with and fun people to be around!

Aw thanks Ian. It has been such a pleasure working with you. Ian might be the youngest model but the least amount of trouble. I knew you were a great guy when I met you and it's great to have you part of the Broke Straight Boys family.

 

[tampa24]

Ian might be the youngest model but the least amount of trouble. I knew you were a great guy when I met you and it's great to have you part of the Broke Straight Boys family.

Thanks for sharing that with us Mark. That's great to know about Ian. You da man Ian! xo

I know that Sabrina is fond of Paul because he cleans up his areas of the room and house nicely without being told. Plus I suspect that he is always happy and willing to help out in the kitchen. Those are always great ways to ingratiate yourself with the hostess.

Sabrina likes Brandon because she can speak German with him.

I'm almost tempted to ask you though that if Ian is one who causes the least amount of trouble...which one causes the most. Oops! I think I just did. haha