Have you ever cheated?

[johnny]

Do tell all!

That was one of my saying to much posts. I do have a reputation to uphold.. You Know? The sweet Johnny thing.....
We All have a past....Some things are best unsaid....

 

[peterh6308]

That was one of my saying to much posts. I do have a reputation to uphold.. You Know? The sweet Johnny thing.....
We All have a past....Some things are best unsaid....

Yep that's why I'm not commenting.... lol

 

[Repareur]

I really have Repareur..When I have time I'll tell you some of it.Never had a Straight boy. I knew of.There were so many gay boy's.
It was so wild I am afraid I might shock a few people. But I do feel silly not having a straight boy. Just never had the need.Think I may be the only one on this site not too.
But got to say it was something.lol I live in San Francisco and there were so many Beautiful boys just
for the pickings....It was wonderful..For a while. Hint.. Loved gangbangs and fisting. Bad Johnny.lol May turn a few people off. Oh Well.Thinking o deleting this. But what the Fuck?

I would definitely like to hear all and it's very hard to shock me. Ditto to all the above! I've had lots of gay boys as well but I like a challenge and climbing up on top of a big straight boy is pretty fun. I hear straight guys like having thier dick sucked. I've done lots of that trying to work my way around back.

 

[mikeyank]

Can I ask a question? What does "Repareur" mean????? I don't know what it means or even how to pronounce it. I like you and your stories, perspectives on straight guys and your opinions but I am curious if there is a significance to your screen name that I am missing. Thanks.

 

[johnny]

I would definitely like to hear all and it's very hard to shock me. Ditto to all the above! I've had lots of gay boys as well but I like a challenge and climbing up on top of a big straight boy is pretty fun. I hear straight guys like having thier dick sucked. I've done lots of that trying to work my way around back.

I guess because I came out early 15 or 16. I went to my first gay bar early And low and behold there were hundred or so Beautiful gay boy's just like me.That was it.I was hooked. Beautiful asses every where. lol
So why even think of a Straight boy? Even in the shower in High School. I looked of course.
That's when I first notice the beauty of asses.
But why go through the hassle? All I thought of what would be that night.Where I wouldn't have to worry about someone thinking I was a Fag.
We were all fags. I really didn't think of Straight boys till I joined Broke Straight Boys Four years ago next week. And started hearing
peoples stories about Straight boys.When I first joined I really did think there were some Straight boys on the site. THEN..
The more I watched the more I realized gay boys were slipping in. Nothing like now. But I can understand some of the old timers defending Broke Straight Boys of the past.
I think Broke Straight Boys started off with the right intentions.
But like Mark say's it's just harder getting them now.I went off track again.lol Now I notice Straight boy's much more. lol
Only thing I will be 62 soon and the Straight boy's I notice seem younger and younger. Well so are the gay boys. I would not do well in jail.
So they would have to be 18 at least. And you guy's have got me thinking of straight boys . A lot more.
Maybe I will buy myself one for my Birthday. lol I wish Tanner were for sale.
Or like some of the models do I will make a wish list...And You can all chip in? And Repareur I would love having tea. Bet we could really share some wild fun stories.. Another silly Johnny Post...xo But I will submit it any way.

 

[mikeyank]

I guess because I came out early 15 or 16. I went to my first gay bar early And low and behold there were hundred or so Beautiful gay boy's just like me.That was it.I was hooked. Beautiful asses every where. lol
So why even think of a Straight boy? Even in the shower in High School. I looked of course.
That's when I first notice the beauty of asses.
But why go through the hassle? All I thought of what would be that night.Where I wouldn't have to worry about someone thinking I was a Fag.
We were all fags. I really didn't think of Straight boys till I joined Broke Straight Boys Four years ago next week. And started hearing
peoples stories about Straight boys.When I first joined I really did think there were some Straight boys on the site. THEN..
The more I watched the more I realized gay boys were slipping in. Nothing like now. But I can understand some of the old timers defending Broke Straight Boys of the past.
I think Broke Straight Boys started off with the right intentions.
But like Mark say's it's just harder getting them now.I went off track again.lol Now I notice Straight boy's much more. lol
Only thing I will be 62 soon and the Straight boy's I notice seem younger and younger. Well so are the gay boys. I would not do well in jail.
So they would have to be 18 at least. And you guy's have got me thinking of straight boys . A lot more.
Maybe I will buy myself one for my Birthday. lol I wish Tanner were for sale.
Or like some of the models do I will make a wish list...And You can all chip in? And Repareur I would love having tea. Bet we could really share some wild fun stories.. Another silly Johnny Post...xo But I will submit it any way.

I loved reading your story Johnny but the part I keep thinking about is all the naked straight boys in the shower in high school with the beautiful asses, but that's just me.........lolololol

But seriously it is fascinating for me, reading all the different ways the various members of the forum expressed our sexuality over the years, particularly in our formitive years, while you seem to be the "rare bird" on this forum, a 100% gay guy who was always interested in other gay guys, among the apparent majority of us who joined this site because of our curiosity about having a "taste" of the forbidden fruit! But you were just a well adjusted gay guy who always knew who you were and who you wanted, and often got the pretty gay boys of San Francisco, until you got "corrupted" by perv's like me. lololol

 

[Beth]

I don't want to be presumptuous with someone else's relationship but I've known situations like this where the wife agreed to watch or be there which eliminated the cheating aspect. I have a very liberal friend who is a girl and she hired a prostatute as a gift for her husband and they were both with her in Vegas. It's also fairly common for men to hire a hustler to fuck thier wife while they watch. It would be an interesting twist to watch a guy fuck your husband. Of course married guys are known to come out even when older. I knew one that went pretty wild making up for lost time. But there are straight guys that like to bottom. My partner for instance is very turned on by being fucked by a woman with a strap on. He likes the idea of being tied up and forced to take it by a weaker person. The next best thing in his fantasy is to have a gay guy do it. In his mind still the weaker person making him do it. It's very interesting how minds and fantasies work. I've been interested in this my whole life. I used to mess around with lots of hustlers and I would talk to them about thier own situation and issues and unusual situations with other clients etc. I've even known a couple of guys who were raped who even though terrified at the time, became arroused and wanted to replay this type of situation. one of these guys was married and in construction. He met me and we would go to lots of trouble to help him act out his fantasies, often by finding others to participate.

I would do anything to make/see Steve happy...that is love to me. I am not okay with rape, but fantasies of consensual adults can be quite fun and entertaining.

 

[betudidntknow]

I loved reading your story Johnny but the part I keep thinking about is all the naked straight boys in the shower in high school with the beautiful asses, but that's just me.........lolololol

But seriously it is fascinating for me, reading all the different ways the various members of the forum expressed our sexuality over the years, particularly in our formitive years, while you seem to be the "rare bird" on this forum, a 100% gay guy who was always interested in other gay guys, among the apparent majority of us who joined this site because of our curiosity about having a "taste" of the forbidden fruit! But you were just a well adjusted gay guy who always knew who you were and who you wanted, and often got the pretty gay boys of San Francisco, until you got "corrupted" by perv's like me. lololol

That is an interesting perspective to me. I actually don't see it as being rare though? While I know that I joined this site and many others like it with the idea or fantasy, but mostly intrigue, of seeing straight guys having sex with other guys, I know that I am too a gay man who's always enjoyed having sex with guys that I found appealing to me whether gay or having sexual identity conflicts. To me, being that I identify as gay simply means that I am mostly Attracted to guys. With that comes the desire to have a guy as my partner, as my friend as my soul mate. And someone who having a sexual relationship with goes far beyond just "having sex" more on the level of sexual fulfillment. While having NSA sex with a straight guy is exciting, so is NSA sex with another guy who is gay! I have had sex with straight guys. Just like many other gay men, it can be a sexually charged challenge sometimes. But for me, if all I ever pursued were straight guys though out my life, or only experienced having sex with a straight guy, then I would probably be the one in conflict? I would really never know what it's like to have it ALL as a gay man. Someone to Love, care about and someone who reciprocates that on the same level? And of course, there are the Rare occasions when one can find that in a guy who is and always has identified as straight Right Peter?.....oh yeah, me too! LOL

 

[mikeyank]

That is an interesting perspective to me. I actually don't see it as being rare though? While I know that I joined this site and many others like it with the idea or fantasy, but mostly intrigue, of seeing straight guys having sex with other guys, I know that I am too a gay man who's always enjoyed having sex with guys that I found appealing to me whether gay or having sexual identity conflicts. To me, being that I identify as gay simply means that I am mostly Attracted to guys. With that comes the desire to have a guy as my partner, as my friend as my soul mate. And someone who having a sexual relationship with goes far beyond just "having sex" more on the level of sexual fulfillment. While having NSA sex with a straight guy is exciting, so is NSA sex with another guy who is gay! I have had sex with straight guys. Just like many other gay men, it can be a sexually charged challenge sometimes. But for me, if all I ever pursued were straight guys though out my life, or only experienced having sex with a straight guy, then I would probably be the one in conflict? I would really never know what it's like to have it ALL as a gay man. Someone to Love, care about and someone who reciprocates that on the same level? And of course, there are the Rare occasions when one can find that in a guy who is and always has identified as straight Right Peter?.....oh yeah, me too! LOL

I was actually thinking of you and Peter, Betu, among others to whom I was referring when making my somewhat farcical, but also real observations about Johnny, who has told us that he never had a relationship or even sexual contact with a self identifying straight guy, so to me, you and Peter are exactly among those who I am referring.

I've been a member of this site for nine years and a participant on the forum since it's inception, and I've had personal contact through private messages, emails, and even in person meetings with quite a few members, including you and Peter, and with the exception of Johnny, just about every other guy who I've met through membership on the site has either had, or desired sexual contacts with straight guys, which makes a lot of sense to me, as I would expect for guys who enjoy at least the fantasy of sex with straight guys to have joined this particular site.

Johnny is indeed the rare exception in my experience, who just stumbled upon the site for hot guys without the emphasis on the straight in broke straight boys!

 

[Repareur]

I was actually thinking of you and Peter, Betu, among others to whom I was referring when making my somewhat farcical, but also real observations about Johnny, who has told us that he never had a relationship or even sexual contact with a self identifying straight guy, so to me, you and Peter are exactly among those who I am referring.

I've been a member of this site for nine years and a participant on the forum since it's inception, and I've had personal contact through private messages, emails, and even in person meetings with quite a few members, including you and Peter, and with the exception of Johnny, just about every other guy who I've met through membership on the site has either had, or desired sexual contacts with straight guys, which makes a lot of sense to me, as I would expect for guys who enjoy at least the fantasy of sex with straight guys to have joined this particular site.

Johnny is indeed the rare exception in my experience, who just stumbled upon the site for hot guys without the emphasis on the straight in broke straight boys!

The first guys I ever had gay sex with were teanagers experimenting with each other. My best friend and I started playing around and he actually started it. Today he is married with 5 kids and is completely straight as far as I can tell. So I guess I just got a taste of it early. I was very turned on by the guys in the shower in junior high. I got to play around with one now and then. I think there was an excitement to the forbidden fruit aspect of it as well. When I went away to college, I discovered my first cruise route quite by accident and I met some older gay guys who took me to the bar! Omg I had no idea there were actually more of "us". I was like a kid in the candy store! I had lots of gay friends and sex with gay boys but the really nelly queens never really turned me on. They were all trying to be girls and I was interested in "men". The stronger more masculine the better. I think I also liked the challenge aspect as well. How much can you get them to do. I often got off to doing very little with a very straight guy, just because I got as far as I could with him. It would often take a great deal of effort and time to have my way with some of these guys. I think the challenge aspect was as big a turn on as the sex. I never really liked bringing a guy home from the bar who just threw his legs up. No challenge in that! I think there is something of the primeval sex drive in the hunting aspect of gay life and chasing after straight guys, the forbidden fruit is just a bit more challenging. I am also really attracted to tops. If I'm watching straight porn I'm thinking about fucking the man, in gay porn I want to fuck the top. I guess it's just more of a challenge. That's one thing I really like about Broke Straight Boys and some members seem not to like. They try to get everyone to bottom. Some members seem undone when thier top guy bottoms but I'm all about the top guy at least trying it. I'm a firm believer that if you are going to be a good top you need to bottom just so you understand both perspectives. And it makes you a better top. I don't just enjoy conquering a guy I, I really like it when they discover they can get off to something they really didn't want to try. I've done the I'll do it if you let me do it to you thing in real life many times and it's a believable thing to see in porn as well. Rownan is one of those guys who seems really great at both roles. Cage Kafig is a guy that really seems to be a top but to me his bottom scenes are by far the best. Dakota is a straight boy that found out gay sex wasn't too bad and seemed to really like to bottom. You could watch this progression in the scenes. I've known so many guys in real life that were very much the same. That's what attracted me to the site. It's also why I hope they try to keep to thier mission statement, "Broke Straight Boys," as hard as it may be to do.

 

[Repareur]

Can I ask a question? What does "Repareur" mean????? I don't know what it means or even how to pronounce it. I like you and your stories, perspectives on straight guys and your opinions but I am curious if there is a significance to your screen name that I am missing. Thanks.

I was wondering if anyone would ask? Lol. I am an artist and student of history when I'm not watching porn or chasing after straight guys! One of my big hobbies is as a ceramic artist and there are two archaic terms from this discipline that I really like. One is Arcanist: "a person professing special secret knowledge concerning ceramics, especially concerning the making of porcelain." In 17th and 18th century Europe true porcelain as from China was a complete mystery and figuring out the formula was a big mystery similar to alchemy, but the Arcanist did eventually find the secret. One of the most famous trials along the way was at Vincennes and later Sevres where they discovered a form of artificial porcelain now called soft paste porcelain that was very hard to work with. The skilled artist who assembled this difficult material into elaborate finished pieces were called "Repareur." It's a French term wich is close to it's English translation which is repairer or preparer. To me much of the work envolved in a complicated ceramic piece, especially a porcelain piece, is the putting together wich often envolves constant repairs to the difficult material. It's a term and name that I identify with so I chose it as my rather cryptic nom de plume.

 

[mikeyank]

I was wondering if anyone would ask? Lol. I am an artist and student of history when I'm not watching porn or chasing after straight guys! One of my big hobbies is as a ceramic artist and there are two archaic terms from this discipline that I really like. One is Arcanist: "a person professing special secret knowledge concerning ceramics, especially concerning the making of porcelain." In 17th and 18th century Europe true porcelain as from China was a complete mystery and figuring out the formula was a big mystery similar to alchemy, but the Arcanist did eventually find the secret. One of the most famous trials along the way was at Vincennes and later Sevres where they discovered a form of artificial porcelain now called soft paste porcelain that was very hard to work with. The skilled artist who assembled this difficult material into elaborate finished pieces were called "Repareur." It's a French term wich is close to it's English translation which is repairer or preparer. To me much of the work envolved in a complicated ceramic piece, especially a porcelain piece, is the putting together wich often envolves constant repairs to the difficult material. It's a term and name that I identify with so I chose it as my rather cryptic nom de plume.

Thank you very much for the explanation. As you guys all know, I do love this forum very much, and getting to know my fellow forumites as "three dimensional people", and not just connoisseurs of porn makes it all the more interesting for me. If you are at all interested there is a thread going on the non-porn side of the forum called "10 random facts about you", that has been going on since January of 2009. If you feel like sharing any more, please feel free to add a post.

http://members.brokestraightboys.com/forum/showthread.php?357-10-random-facts-about-you

 

[mikeyank]

The first guys I ever had gay sex with were teanagers experimenting with each other. My best friend and I started playing around and he actually started it. Today he is married with 5 kids and is completely straight as far as I can tell. So I guess I just got a taste of it early. I was very turned on by the guys in the shower in junior high. I got to play around with one now and then. I think there was an excitement to the forbidden fruit aspect of it as well. When I went away to college, I discovered my first cruise route quite by accident and I met some older gay guys who took me to the bar! Omg I had no idea there were actually more of "us". I was like a kid in the candy store! I had lots of gay friends and sex with gay boys but the really nelly queens never really turned me on. They were all trying to be girls and I was interested in "men". The stronger more masculine the better. I think I also liked the challenge aspect as well. How much can you get them to do. I often got off to doing very little with a very straight guy, just because I got as far as I could with him. It would often take a great deal of effort and time to have my way with some of these guys. I think the challenge aspect was as big a turn on as the sex. I never really liked bringing a guy home from the bar who just threw his legs up. No challenge in that! I think there is something of the primeval sex drive in the hunting aspect of gay life and chasing after straight guys, the forbidden fruit is just a bit more challenging. I am also really attracted to tops. If I'm watching straight porn I'm thinking about fucking the man, in gay porn I want to fuck the top. I guess it's just more of a challenge. That's one thing I really like about Broke Straight Boys and some members seem not to like. They try to get everyone to bottom. Some members seem undone when thier top guy bottoms but I'm all about the top guy at least trying it. I'm a firm believer that if you are going to be a good top you need to bottom just so you understand both perspectives. And it makes you a better top. I don't just enjoy conquering a guy I, I really like it when they discover they can get off to something they really didn't want to try. I've done the I'll do it if you let me do it to you thing in real life many times and it's a believable thing to see in porn as well. Rownan is one of those guys who seems really great at both roles. Cage Kafig is a guy that really seems to be a top but to me his bottom scenes are by far the best. Dakota is a straight boy that found out gay sex wasn't too bad and seemed to really like to bottom. You could watch this progression in the scenes. I've known so many guys in real life that were very much the same. That's what attracted me to the site. It's also why I hope they try to keep to thier mission statement, "Broke Straight Boys," as hard as it may be to do.

Thanks again Repareur for your further explanations about your past experiences and what you look for on Broke Straight Boys

When you said, "Some members seem undone when thier top guy bottoms but I'm all about the top guy at least trying it. I'm a firm believer that if you are going to be a good top you need to bottom just so you understand both perspectives. And it makes you a better top.", I freely admit that I am one of the members who gets "undone" but the point is that we all come to this site with our own unique perspective, based on our own life's experiences on what is hot and what is not.

For me, the hottest guys Broke Straight Boys ever had were the "believable" straight tops who never wanted to bottom, and they include Mike Robbins and Shane, (the original now called Tank), who both did it once each, both reluctantly because they had to to remain employed by Broke Straight Boys, and Abram who also did it once and hasn't been seen here since and of course Jimmy Johnson, who never did it on Broke Straight Boys, for which I have tremendous respect, lol. But as I always say, the variations in human sexuality are endless and I do understand the perspective of those who want to see all Broke Straight Boys bottom, and you almost always get your wish! One more of my repeated "truisms" that I often repeat,

"There is no right or wrong in sex or in porn", (as long as no one gets hurt against their will, and it is legal of course. lol).

 

[betudidntknow]

The first guys I ever had gay sex with were teanagers experimenting with each other. My best friend and I started playing around and he actually started it. Today he is married with 5 kids and is completely straight as far as I can tell. So I guess I just got a taste of it early. I was very turned on by the guys in the shower in junior high. I got to play around with one now and then. I think there was an excitement to the forbidden fruit aspect of it as well. When I went away to college, I discovered my first cruise route quite by accident and I met some older gay guys who took me to the bar! Omg I had no idea there were actually more of "us". I was like a kid in the candy store! I had lots of gay friends and sex with gay boys but the really nelly queens never really turned me on. They were all trying to be girls and I was interested in "men". The stronger more masculine the better. I think I also liked the challenge aspect as well. How much can you get them to do. I often got off to doing very little with a very straight guy, just because I got as far as I could with him. It would often take a great deal of effort and time to have my way with some of these guys. I think the challenge aspect was as big a turn on as the sex. I never really liked bringing a guy home from the bar who just threw his legs up. No challenge in that! I think there is something of the primeval sex drive in the hunting aspect of gay life and chasing after straight guys, the forbidden fruit is just a bit more challenging. I am also really attracted to tops. If I'm watching straight porn I'm thinking about fucking the man, in gay porn I want to fuck the top. I guess it's just more of a challenge. That's one thing I really like about Broke Straight Boys and some members seem not to like. They try to get everyone to bottom. Some members seem undone when thier top guy bottoms but I'm all about the top guy at least trying it. I'm a firm believer that if you are going to be a good top you need to bottom just so you understand both perspectives. And it makes you a better top. I don't just enjoy conquering a guy I, I really like it when they discover they can get off to something they really didn't want to try. I've done the I'll do it if you let me do it to you thing in real life many times and it's a believable thing to see in porn as well. Rownan is one of those guys who seems really great at both roles. Cage Kafig is a guy that really seems to be a top but to me his bottom scenes are by far the best. Dakota is a straight boy that found out gay sex wasn't too bad and seemed to really like to bottom. You could watch this progression in the scenes. I've known so many guys in real life that were very much the same. That's what attracted me to the site. It's also why I hope they try to keep to thier mission statement, "Broke Straight Boys," as hard as it may be to do.

I really enjoyed reading your post Repareur! I definitely was able to relate to a lot of what you said, especially regarding the "challenge" as being more the thrill of the hunt so to speak! Also, the thing I notice in porn, when I see two models together, in my mind, I've already isolated the one who I want to see bottom. Whether that's their masculinity, or their demeanor, I usually pick the one who looks like "they would be least likely bottom" and it's...........game on!

But, I must digress because, you reminded me of an experience I had when living in San Diego California. I learned that Balboa Park was the Ultimate Cruise spot! I remember one sunny day, just walking around enjoying the scenery when I met this guy, Terry Bradshaw. He was bigger than me but, proportioned. He had a masculine, big butt, for the sake of a visual, Conner Chesney build. We talked for a while and it quickly became apparent that....he was interested in a hook up! I was a bit surprised and still a little naïve to the whole process, not to mention I enjoyed the role of pursuing, wasn't quite used to being pursued but, we did go back to his place. Now in my 20 something mind, I'm thinking: "This should be interesting because, I hope he doesn't think he's going to FUCK ME, but, I certainly wouldn't mind getting into that big ass of his". We fooled around and when it came time to get busy......Much to my surprise and chagrin a little bit, he was a BIG OLE BOTTOM! LOL. Turns out, (we did have a great time btw) that he was in a relationship with a much smaller (diminutive) guy and he was the top in that relationship. His decision to cruise me was no accident or coincidental thing. I reminded him of a more masculine version of his partner and he really wanted to bottom but, that wasn't the way it was in their relationship, I guess. So, needless to say, I became his/their alternative to that particular dilemma for quite some time afterwards! LOL....They USED me! LOL and I enjoyed it

 

[johnny]

I really enjoyed reading your post Repareur! I definitely was able to relate to a lot of what you said, especially regarding the "challenge" as being more the thrill of the hunt so to speak! Also, the thing I notice in porn, when I see two models together, in my mind, I've already isolated the one who I want to see bottom. Whether that's their masculinity, or their demeanor, I usually pick the one who looks like "they would be least likely bottom" and it's...........game on!

But, I must digress because, you reminded me of an experience I had when living in San Diego California. I learned that Balboa Park was the Ultimate Cruise spot! I remember one sunny day, just walking around enjoying the scenery when I met this guy, Terry Bradshaw. He was bigger than me but, proportioned. He had a masculine, big butt, for the sake of a visual, Conner Chesney build. We talked for a while and it quickly became apparent that....he was interested in a hook up! I was a bit surprised and still a little naïve to the whole process, not to mention I enjoyed the role of pursuing, wasn't quite used to being pursued but, we did go back to his place. Now in my 20 something mind, I'm thinking: "This should be interesting because, I hope he doesn't think he's going to FUCK ME, but, I certainly wouldn't mind getting into that big ass of his". We fooled around and when it came time to get busy......Much to my surprise and chagrin a little bit, he was a BIG OLE BOTTOM! LOL. Turns out, (we did have a great time btw) that he was in a relationship with a much smaller (diminutive) guy and he was the top in that relationship. His decision to cruise me was no accident or coincidental thing. I reminded him of a more masculine version of his partner and he really wanted to bottom but, that wasn't the way it was in their relationship, I guess. So, needless to say, I became his/their alternative to that particular dilemma for quite some time afterwards! LOL....They USED me! LOL and I enjoyed it

I just liked your post Betu.So I thought I would put it back up in the number one spot
for a minute. lol Good hearing You were naive once..xo

 

[mikeyank]

I remember one sunny day, just walking around enjoying the scenery when I met this guy, Terry Bradshaw. He was bigger than me but, proportioned. He had a masculine, big butt, for the sake of a visual, Conner Chesney build.

Not, "the Terry Bradshaw", I trust??????

 

[betudidntknow]

Not, "the Terry Bradshaw", I trust??????

No...but, I think that's why after 30 plus years, I can still remember his name, I thought, and asked him at the time and he laughed, he shared the same name I too share the name of a sports player Ricky Henderson. But....I only let my Grandmother ever call me Ricky, may she R.I.P.

 

[Repareur]

I really enjoyed reading your post Repareur! I definitely was able to relate to a lot of what you said, especially regarding the "challenge" as being more the thrill of the hunt so to speak! Also, the thing I notice in porn, when I see two models together, in my mind, I've already isolated the one who I want to see bottom. Whether that's their masculinity, or their demeanor, I usually pick the one who looks like "they would be least likely bottom" and it's...........game on!

But, I must digress because, you reminded me of an experience I had when living in San Diego California. I learned that Balboa Park was the Ultimate Cruise spot! I remember one sunny day, just walking around enjoying the scenery when I met this guy, Terry Bradshaw. He was bigger than me but, proportioned. He had a masculine, big butt, for the sake of a visual, Conner Chesney build. We talked for a while and it quickly became apparent that....he was interested in a hook up! I was a bit surprised and still a little naïve to the whole process, not to mention I enjoyed the role of pursuing, wasn't quite used to being pursued but, we did go back to his place. Now in my 20 something mind, I'm thinking: "This should be interesting because, I hope he doesn't think he's going to FUCK ME, but, I certainly wouldn't mind getting into that big ass of his". We fooled around and when it came time to get busy......Much to my surprise and chagrin a little bit, he was a BIG OLE BOTTOM! LOL. Turns out, (we did have a great time btw) that he was in a relationship with a much smaller (diminutive) guy and he was the top in that relationship. His decision to cruise me was no accident or coincidental thing. I reminded him of a more masculine version of his partner and he really wanted to bottom but, that wasn't the way it was in their relationship, I guess. So, needless to say, I became his/their alternative to that particular dilemma for quite some time afterwards! LOL....They USED me! LOL and I enjoyed it

I didn't mean to imply that bigger guys don't like to bottom. Or that sometimes they don't come on to smaller guys. I'm a smaller guy, I specialized in bigger guys. I've had some really big masculine guys be big old bottoms. I think it's often us smaller guys that don't want to look like the bottoms that others may assume we are and hold out! I'm sure most people who would suspect I was gay and saw me with any of my boyfriends they probably thought I was the big old bottom when in reality the roles would have been reversed.

Also straight guys usually have lines they won't cross because it's too gay. It's often not bottoming that they are worried about. I for one think it's a bit more gay to suck dick and I've met straight guys that won't. Some also won't kiss. That's a bridge too far. That didn't bother me because I've kissed very few of them. Often straight guys are curious about bottoming. The quote I got most often is they want to see what it's like to be the girl or want to know how my girlfriend feels when I'm pounding the hell out of her etc. if you think about it, it makes since. It's the only thing you can't really do with a girl that you can with a man. She can suck thier dick. They can fuck her in the ass. But only with a strap on could she fuck them and it's my general feeling they don't want the girl to think they might even consider that because she would think they were gay. So if they are curious, an anonymous encounter with a gay guy is the way to try this out.

As for the site pushing them to bottom, it's only natural because the idea is to see what straight guys will do for money. The farther they will go the more money. (In the old days when they quoted prices, it always paid more to bottom). The more versatile they can be the more scenes they can be in and run up thier total cash. If they are reluctant and finally bottom and don't do it again that's fine. They tried they were ones that didn't like it or couldn't handle the idea mentally which is probably more correct. But it's hot watching them try. I love the hold outs and it's fabulous when they really do it. Long time hold outs like Jimmy Johnson and Christian Wilde. Etc etc. it's all part of the game.

 

[Bartirah]

Hi...
Well I think labels are so complicated... What exactly means to be gay? To kiss someone of the same gender? To have sex? To like it? Have a serious relationship with this same gender person? Feel disgusted about the other gender?

I am sorry if I used any offensive word, remember English is not my first language... I promise I am not trying to be rude.

But answering the question about separating love and sex, I think it's totally possible. I think feeling sexually attracted to a person doesn't mean you love this person and doing something about it doesn't mean you love more or less the person you are committed to... I think open relationships word very well IF both parts agree about it. And in this case it's not cheating.

 

[oldfart63]

Hi...
Well I think labels are so complicated... What exactly means to be gay? To kiss someone of the same gender? To have sex? To like it? Have a serious relationship with this same gender person? Feel disgusted about the other gender?

I am sorry if I used any offensive word, remember English is not my first language... I promise I am not trying to be rude.

But answering the question about separating love and sex, I think it's totally possible. I think feeling sexually attracted to a person doesn't mean you love this person and doing something about it doesn't mean you love more or less the person you are committed to... I think open relationships word very well IF both parts agree about it. And in this case it's not cheating.

Bartirah, I agree with you completely. You have to remember that American culture is really prudish and regressive when it comes to sexuality. Very often, anything enjoyable sexually is frowned upon, and often used as a means to shame people while those doing the shaming are the same enjoyable things, only secretly. You may say that it is hypocritical, to which I will respond, "Welcome to the religiously hypocritical American culture". While that is slowly changing, we are still years behind most other cultures.