Have you ever cheated?

[betudidntknow]

With all of the discussions I've read on this forum over the years regarding sexuality of models. Granted, there tend to be more and more that tend to be more on the side of gay than perhaps models from the past, there is a question that comes to my mind any way.

How many members male or female have ever cheated or had an affair, tryst or sexual experience outside of their committed relationship? Did you say or think or insinuate to your partner, "it was just sex, it didn't mean anything to me"? And if so, were you able to get some real sexual pleasure from the experience but still felt like you were not giving the part of you that is reserved for that person you are committed to? Is that considered "compartmentalizing"?

Do you think that's possible? Is that even possible for models doing porn?

Just curious? Any thoughts?

 

[nickbrady]

I hesitate to be the first to respond to this. However... I am married to a very nice lady but have had a few sexual contacts with males over the years. Probably 3 or 4 anonymous encounters, and about that number with someone I have known for a long time and care about. My wife does not know about these encounters and if she suspects, I think would prefer not to know. While I found these adventures intensely erotic, they had none of the emotional attachment I feel for my wife.

I grew up in a time and place where homosexuality was seen as horrific and chose to live a straight life as best I could. Marriage, kids and now grandkids has been very rewarding, although the suppressed attraction to males is still there. I suppose I rationalize these rare encounters as simply expressing what is naturally part of me in as discreet a way as possible, although I do experience some feelings of guilt afterwards. This works for me because I suppose I am to some extent bisexual, and enjoy the companionship of a wife. I do love this woman. Were I a young man in the present time I might decide otherwise, but the die is cast for me.

Are some of Broke Straight Boys's models in the same position? Very probably. While an increasing number of recent models are likely gay, some are not primarily attracted to males but do this for the money. I understand human sexuality to be represented by some sort of a bell curve. Those who are exclusively heterosexual are not likely to be working here. For those who are almost exclusively homosexual, getting paid to have sex with a hot guy has to be a great way to make money.

For those who fall somewhere in the middle, there has to be some interest or curiosity about sex with another guy that brings them to Broke Straight Boys in the first place. Some of these guys do a few scenes and decide for one reason or another that it's not for them. Others discover that they like it a lot, and go on to do quite a few scenes. Of course these are the guys that we relate to and enjoy. I will leave it to others to assign the sexuality of specific models. Frankly, I don't care who is gay and who is not, nor do I care what they might say or do on social media. I am only interested in the fantasy of the scene and the effect it has on my libido.

Those of us who have chosen to play it straight, can find an outlet in gay porn, and are drawn to Broke Straight Boys for the quality of the work here. Getting off to the scenes here provides enough satisfaction to relieve ourselves in a safe and economical way. It is a way of coping with the dilemma we find ourselves in. Thus is of course only my opinion, but I suspect that quite a few who frequent this place will agree.

 

[johnny]

Well I can speck only for myself.I had a couple of great long term relationships. I mean I really loved my partners.BUT..lol
I was a Beautiful kid here in San Francisco. And it was like living in a giant candy store.I started very young. Before AIDs put a stop to it all.
Boys everywhere. Drugs party going on all the time. So I just could not help myself.The Baths were the place to go on
Saturday night. All night long.Party party party. I always felt guilty after. A Italian Catholic thing. But both my partners forgave me.
And it just was sex. When you ( or I ) was young I thought much more with my dick than my head. Caused me a lot of trouble.
But I just wanted more of everything all the time. And you had to be here. There was just so much to have. But it was just sex.
So many Beautiful boy's to have.
Do I regret it now? Yes..Every single person I knew from those days are Dead.Everyone..Why I am still here? I have no idea.
Maybe because I was a top? Maybe cause I did so much drugs I was not having as much sex as I thought?
If I had to do it over I would have worked harder on trying to have a good relationship. Saying ( Its just sex) is bullshit.
I can't see how doing porn would be good for a true relationship. Not for me at least. I am much to jealous. I don't think I would be able to sleep nights.
Knowing my partner was going to fuck or be fucked tomorrow. But that is just me. Saying much to much again.
I might have gone I just talk way to much...But I am just sitting here waiting for a plumber. Who was supposed to be here a hour ago.
.Hmmm A plumber. lol I saw that movie.....Did I answer your question Betu? What was it again???

 

[oldfart63]

.Those of us who have chosen to play it straight, can find an outlet in gay porn, and are drawn to Broke Straight Boys for the quality of the work here. Getting off to the scenes here provides enough satisfaction to relieve ourselves in a safe and economical way. It is a way of coping with the dilemma we find ourselves in. Thus is of course only my opinion, but I suspect that quite a few who frequent this place will agree.

Wow Nick, thanks for being so open and honest about such a personal part of your life.

 

[mikeyank]

I hesitate to be the first to respond to this. However... I am married to a very nice lady but have had a few sexual contacts with males over the years. Probably 3 or 4 anonymous encounters, and about that number with someone I have known for a long time and care about. My wife does not know about these encounters and if she suspects, I think would prefer not to know. While I found these adventures intensely erotic, they had none of the emotional attachment I feel for my wife.

I grew up in a time and place where homosexuality was seen as horrific and chose to live a straight life as best I could. Marriage, kids and now grandkids has been very rewarding, although the suppressed attraction to males is still there. I suppose I rationalize these rare encounters as simply expressing what is naturally part of me in as discreet a way as possible, although I do experience some feelings of guilt afterwards. This works for me because I suppose I am to some extent bisexual, and enjoy the companionship of a wife. I do love this woman. Were I a young man in the present time I might decide otherwise, but the die is cast for me.

Are some of Broke Straight Boys's models in the same position? Very probably. While an increasing number of recent models are likely gay, some are not primarily attracted to males but do this for the money. I understand human sexuality to be represented by some sort of a bell curve. Those who are exclusively heterosexual are not likely to be working here. For those who are almost exclusively homosexual, getting paid to have sex with a hot guy has to be a great way to make money.

For those who fall somewhere in the middle, there has to be some interest or curiosity about sex with another guy that brings them to Broke Straight Boys in the first place. Some of these guys do a few scenes and decide for one reason or another that it's not for them. Others discover that they like it a lot, and go on to do quite a few scenes. Of course these are the guys that we relate to and enjoy. I will leave it to others to assign the sexuality of specific models. Frankly, I don't care who is gay and who is not, nor do I care what they might say or do on social media. I am only interested in the fantasy of the scene and the effect it has on my libido.

Those of us who have chosen to play it straight, can find an outlet in gay porn, and are drawn to Broke Straight Boys for the quality of the work here. Getting off to the scenes here provides enough satisfaction to relieve ourselves in a safe and economical way. It is a way of coping with the dilemma we find ourselves in. Thus is of course only my opinion, but I suspect that quite a few who frequent this place will agree.

Thanks for that great and super honest post, Nick. And when you speak of "human sexuality to be represented by some sort of a bell curve. Those who are exclusively heterosexual are not likely to be working here......", I totally agree as that is the basic premise of the Kinsey scale, as well.

And while I've always been exclusively gay, never having any sexual feelings for a female, so there was never a choice for me to make, I know of many forumites here over the years who were at one time or still were married at the time they were a member of the forum. And so I understand that it can be a huge dilemma of choosing to fit in with society or being true to yourself, or perhaps in your case being truly bisexual and loving your wife and married life, but also having the urges that need to be fulfilled either with clandestine encounters or with porn.

And it is probably not a coincidence that I've encountered so many once married guys on this particular site, who might have more interest in the "straight boy" angle than other typical gay guys. Maybe I'm wrong but it's a theory I have.

 

[mikeyank]

Well I can speck only for myself.I had a couple of great long term relationships. I mean I really loved my partners.BUT..lol
I was a Beautiful kid here in San Francisco. And it was like living in a giant candy store.I started very young. Before AIDs put a stop to it all.
Boys everywhere. Drugs party going on all the time. So I just could not help myself.The Baths were the place to go on
Saturday night. All night long.Party party party. I always felt guilty after. A Italian Catholic thing. But both my partners forgave me.
And it just was sex. When you ( or I ) was young I thought much more with my dick than my head. Caused me a lot of trouble.
But I just wanted more of everything all the time. And you had to be here. There was just so much to have. But it was just sex.
So many Beautiful boy's to have.
Do I regret it now? Yes..Every single person I knew from those days are Dead.Everyone..Why I am still here? I have no idea.
Maybe because I was a top? Maybe cause I did so much drugs I was not having as much sex as I thought?
If I had to do it over I would have worked harder on trying to have a good relationship. Saying ( Its just sex) is bullshit.
I can't see how doing porn would be good for a true relationship. Not for me at least. I am much to jealous. I don't think I would be able to sleep nights.
Knowing my partner was going to fuck or be fucked tomorrow. But that is just me. Saying much to much again.
I might have gone I just talk way to much...But I am just sitting here waiting for a plumber. Who was supposed to be here a hour ago.
.Hmmm A plumber. lol I saw that movie.....Did I answer your question Betu? What was it again???

And you sweet Johnny, just stumbled upon this site for the pretty boys, never ever having been in any way closeted about your sexuality, and I for one am thrilled that you stumbled into this forum and became such a great forumite and my friend.

 

[johnny]

And you sweet Johnny, just stumbled upon this site for the pretty boys, never ever having been in any way closeted about your sexuality, and I for one am thrilled that you stumbled into this forum and became such a great forumite and my friend.

Thanks mike. And You know I feel the same. Back at You...

 

[mikeyank]

Thanks mike. And You know I feel the same. Back at You...

Thanks Johnny, but wait until Peter wakes up for work and sees this, and we'll both get "beat up" pretty good. lolololol

 

[johnny]

Thanks Johnny, but wait until Peter wakes up for work and sees this, and we'll both get "beat up" pretty good. lolololol

lol...

 

[Repareur]

I think this is a great question. I like Johnny started pre-AIDS and I think being a top saved my life as well. My first boyfriend who was gorgeous and a real slut bottom has been gone a long time. I didn't feel guilty in the old days having sex in or out of a relationship but I do now. I have been in a committed relationship for several years now to a straightish former married guy with kids. I don't even try to screw around much but in the rare occasion I feel guilty as hell. Even a bit sick to my stomach. So lots of porn and tons of good memories take the place of cheating now. We have done a couple of three ways or he did a girl and I did a guy situations and that was fine. The behind the back stuff is what gets me. He knows I watch porn and I'll even say I sure would like to fuck this one or that one. But I'm honest about it and don't really do it. I've done lots of straight or bi curious guys in my time. That's what attracted me to this site and some of the others with that theme. I like masculine men if I wanted one of these girly boys I might just do a girl. I like men. I have found many of them will try bottoming. Many are curious and say they want to know what the girl feels like. I even had one big masculin hairy bubble butt ex football player that wanted to watch straight porn and for me to fuck him in the same position the girl in the movie was being fucked. Some of those positions aren't that great but lifting and spreading those huge hairly legs was really worth it. Some of these guys would want to flip and some like my guy are just bottoms with men but they can fuck the hell out of some pussy. I've watched a few times! So anyway those guys are out there. But back to the cheating thing. I really don't try any more. As much as it surprises me I have changed and don't really try any more. But back in the day I knew lots of straight hustler types that would use money as the thier excuse to have gay sex. Some of them really wanted it and it was just a way they could mentally handle it. Some had drug or other financial issues and really were doing it for the money. I knew one really hot guy that lived with a man who fucked him but he would only do it for money. The man wouldn't pay him so he left. I didn't mind he was hotter than hell and he only wanted 20 bucks for that hot ass. But that's what he had to do to justify having gay sex. I would guess that at least in the early days Broke Straight Boys was getting hold of these type of guys.

 

[mikeyank]

But back in the day I knew lots of straight hustler types that would use money as the thier excuse to have gay sex. Some of them really wanted it and it was just a way they could mentally handle it. Some had drug or other financial issues and really were doing it for the money. I knew one really hot guy that lived with a man who fucked him but he would only do it for money. The man wouldn't pay him so he left. I didn't mind he was hotter than hell and he only wanted 20 bucks for that hot ass. But that's what he had to do to justify having gay sex. I would guess that at least in the early days Broke Straight Boys was getting hold of these type of guys.

While you are a top, Repareur and I get my pleasure from orally servicing a straight guy, I totally agree with your premise about straight identifying guys who use money as the justification for getting their pleasure with a guy while maintaining the illusion within themselves of being totally straight. And yes, that same phenomenon held true here, at least in the early days, as well. Great post, Repareur!

 

[Beth]

Oh Betu, you do "cum" up with some hot things to talk about!
For myself, I have been married 29 years and been with Steve 36 years; neither of us have cheated. I used to have random sex often but after I met Steve, that was it. I think Steve would like to try a guy (Steve being the bottom) but the "hole" cheating thing would eat away at him...even though I have given my permission. So for us, it's pegging; we both enjoy it thoroughly!

 

[tampa24]

Thank you for sharing all these wonderful and insightful responses everyone.

 

[Repareur]

Oh Betu, you do "cum" up with some hot things to talk about!
For myself, I have been married 29 years and been with Steve 36 years; neither of us have cheated. I used to have random sex often but after I met Steve, that was it. I think Steve would like to try a guy (Steve being the bottom) but the "hole" cheating thing would eat away at him...even though I have given my permission. So for us, it's pegging; we both enjoy it thoroughly!

I don't want to be presumptuous with someone else's relationship but I've known situations like this where the wife agreed to watch or be there which eliminated the cheating aspect. I have a very liberal friend who is a girl and she hired a prostatute as a gift for her husband and they were both with her in Vegas. It's also fairly common for men to hire a hustler to fuck thier wife while they watch. It would be an interesting twist to watch a guy fuck your husband. Of course married guys are known to come out even when older. I knew one that went pretty wild making up for lost time. But there are straight guys that like to bottom. My partner for instance is very turned on by being fucked by a woman with a strap on. He likes the idea of being tied up and forced to take it by a weaker person. The next best thing in his fantasy is to have a gay guy do it. In his mind still the weaker person making him do it. It's very interesting how minds and fantasies work. I've been interested in this my whole life. I used to mess around with lots of hustlers and I would talk to them about thier own situation and issues and unusual situations with other clients etc. I've even known a couple of guys who were raped who even though terrified at the time, became arroused and wanted to replay this type of situation. one of these guys was married and in construction. He met me and we would go to lots of trouble to help him act out his fantasies, often by finding others to participate.

 

[johnny]

I don't want to be presumptuous with someone else's relationship but I've known situations like this where the wife agreed to watch or be there which eliminated the cheating aspect. I have a very liberal friend who is a girl and she hired a prostatute as a gift for her husband and they were both with her in Vegas. It's also fairly common for men to hire a hustler to fuck thier wife while they watch. It would be an interesting twist to watch a guy fuck your husband. Of course married guys are known to come out even when older. I knew one that went pretty wild making up for lost time. But there are straight guys that like to bottom. My partner for instance is very turned on by being fucked by a woman with a strap on. He likes the idea of being tied up and forced to take it by a weaker person. The next best thing in his fantasy is to have a gay guy do it. In his mind still the weaker person making him do it. It's very interesting how minds and fantasies work. I've been interested in this my whole life. I used to mess around with lots of hustlers and I would talk to them about thier own situation and issues and unusual situations with other clients etc. I've even known a couple of guys who were raped who even though terrified at the time, became arroused and wanted to replay this type of situation. one of these guys was married and in construction. He met me and we would go to lots of trouble to help him act out his fantasies, often by finding others to participate.

You sure have had an interesting life Repareur. Just Saying..xo

 

[SGVBOB]

lmao!!!!

:shitstorm: Lol...

 

[Repareur]

You sure have had an interesting life Repareur. Just Saying..xo

I have Johnny. I used to say if all the "straight" boys who swore they had never been fucked were telling the truth I should have been in the Guinness Book for the record in straight male cherry popping. Of course that depended on it being true they were straight and virgins. Which I'm sure was not always true. My other favorite saying was that, "my definition of a straight guy is someone who comes all over themselves while being fucked in the ass!" The reason being, they mostly said they were straight, mostly said I've never done this before, and mostly creamed all over themselves! Of course I went after the masculine straight ones. I once picked up a gorgeous oil field ruff neck in a record store. He drove a huge 4 door black pickup and looked a lot like Jeff Stryker. As we were going into my house he said how did you know I was gay? The truth was I didn't. I told him I didn't know. I figured we were going to fuck or he was going to beat me up but it was worth trying and it was!

 

[Repareur]

You sure have had an interesting life Repareur. Just Saying..xo

It seems you have also, I never got to cruise around San Francisco in the good old days. We should defiantly have "tea" some time and reminisce! I did have a little time in NY pre AIDS. Post Aids was scary as hell up there. All anyone could talk about was how many friends they had lost. The once wild clubs lost all thier excitement and we're very gloomy. It was awful.

 

[johnny]

It seems you have also, I never got to cruise around San Francisco in the good old days. We should defiantly have "tea" some time and reminisce! I did have a little time in NY pre AIDS. Post Aids was scary as hell up there. All anyone could talk about was how many friends they had lost. The once wild clubs lost all thier excitement and we're very gloomy. It was awful.

I really have Repareur..When I have time I'll tell you some of it.Never had a Straight boy. I knew of.There were so many gay boy's.
It was so wild I am afraid I might shock a few people. But I do feel silly not having a straight boy. Just never had the need.Think I may be the only one on this site not too.
But got to say it was something.lol I live in San Francisco and there were so many Beautiful boys just
for the pickings....It was wonderful..For a while. Hint.. Loved gangbangs and fisting. Bad Johnny.lol May turn a few people off. Oh Well.Thinking o deleting this. But what the Fuck?

 

[nickbrady]

Do tell all!