Wow. Thank you for the post David. There is so much to unpack here. Thank you for sharing all of this. While I intuitively knew or at least suspected that much of what you say about the state of our society was true...I admit I'm a little shocked at just how bad it really is as far as how many homes and families are still so dysfunctional in the 21st century. Namely "parents" of course. The fact for instance that you have so many guys who are totally oblivious to the concept of sitting down at a dinner table to eat and having deep and warm family-like conversations over a good, decent balanced meal. You've made it sound like so many of these guys are shocked or even give some push-back at the concept of sitting down at a table to eat with everyone else. Maybe because what they're used to is that dad (or the live-in boyfriend) is drunk or high and yelling and cussing up a storm, beating up on mom, or any kids unlucky enough to be within reach, or whatever. So everyone grabs a plate and finds a favorite corner of the home to go hide and hopefully eat their meager meal in peace and relative quiet?
You're right David. Some of the so-called "parenting" out there is absolutely atrocious. So bad that it's pretty close to non-parenting. I wouldn't treat a dog the way some of these supposed adults treat their precious innocent kids. Like for instance single mom has a 7 or 8 year old... She gets her monthly check, neither buys nor leaves any new groceries in the house with the money, and just flees out to the bars to score drugs and get drunk and high. No babysitter of course. Then she finds some men to whore around with for a few or several days. Then finally she comes home (with no more money) to a starving, malnourished, scared and traumatized 7 year old kid. And if you think I'm exaggerating or making up hypothetical scenarios...I've been told this story personally by a Broke Straight Boys model. And I'm sure David can top that story several times over with what he's heard over all these years.
I remember another conversation we had (with David) where we were discussing how tough some of these models had it trying (unsuccessfully) to live on their own as adults over 18. We talked about the actual hunger these guys suffered trying to rent an apartment or keep a roof over their heads...and how some of these guys (models) would show up on your doorstep in truly malnourished states. I will name names here and bring up "Danny Blue Eyes". I could actually pick up on the fact that his frame was not just skinny, but skinnier than it should have been for his height and proportion. Yes. Many guys who eat well are naturally skinny or even very skinny through nothing but genetics. Other people though you can kind of tell and you can visualize that they've probably lost weight and are skinnier than they should normally be because of mild to moderate malnutrition. Then you shared with us that Danny showed up at your door literally hungry and malnourished because he had been trying to substitute meat in his diet (which he couldn't afford on his very tight grocery budget).....with eggs. When you told us how thrilled and grateful Danny was to be getting to eat real meat while staying at your house, I was both overjoyed and heartbroken for him at the same time.
And he's not the only one. A Broke Straight Boys-2 semi-model called "Desperate Mike" was a poster child of a guy who showed up in an obvious state of not just hunger, but a more advanced stage of prolonged malnutrition. He was not just very skinny. He also had that unhealthy pastey white tinge to the skin that you see in people from really rough and poor neighborhoods.
That last part in particular is very heartwarming to me personally. Thank you so much for all you and Eddie have done to help many of these wayward souls who were lost and broken, maybe with untreated mental health issues or addictions, or simply just rather clueless on how to change the course of their present and futures because their childhood and upbringing were such a mess. If your guidance helps to inform or teach even one guy how to make something of himself, get useful help for any addiction and mental health issues, become a productive member of society and be a truly good and decent parent to his own children...when his own role models were totally dysfuctional, neglectful and abusive...(and I suspect you have accomplished this many times over already)...then you and Eddie can know when you finally leave this world, that you left it in better shape than you found it.
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