Jon, I understand that many folks here do not care if a model is truly gay, or if he has appeared on other sites prior to BSB. I know that list includes yourself, Ambi, Peter, johnny, Betu, Beth, Benben and probably most of the forum. And for me it's not a matter of "principle" or "integrity" when a model lies, but instead it is a matter of what gives me a "boner". My reason for initially gravitating toward BSB as a source of sexual pleasure is because of my fetish of getting excited watching hot young guys who I can believe are basically straight engaging in gay sex. That scenario turns me on and I can get off to guys like that. That is what a fetish is all about.
The Merriam-Webster on line dictionary defines "fetish" as
Full Definition of FETISH
a : an object (as a small stone carving of an animal) believed to have magical power to protect or aid its owner; broadly : a material object regarded with superstitious or extravagant trust or reverence
b : an object of irrational reverence or obsessive devotion : prepossession
c : an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression.
And so when speaking of the recently introduced and "exposed" Jake Tipton, the knowledge that he appeared on another gay website and was anally penetrated on that site interferes with the "real or fantasied presence that is psychologically (necessary) for my sexual gratification" from a model on BSB. It has nothing to do with if he did the "right thing" or told a little white lie or a big lie, and his future employment on the site is up to management and I do not care either way, for there are many more models here who do not interest me than models who do, and I understand that my fetish for believably straight guys is in a minority, even among membership of this site.
But in the case of Tommy, he appeared as a broke straight boy in 2007 and if in 2014 he now appears on college dudes, a site where straight or gay is not an issue. I see Tommy as a totally opposite situation from Jake. Just as David Adamson told us in his final days on the forum reflecting back on the boys he directed, that Tank Shane had later become bisexual and had a gay lover. I think that is sweet, and has nothing to do with the "Tank Shane" who visited the futon many times, before he admitted to himself that he enjoys sex with guys.
My belief is that ALL guys who appear on BSB, other than a few who did a solo and decided that they could do no more, are at least incidentally gay or bisexual, but may not admit it to themselves at the time of their initial scenes, and that is what makes the difference to me.
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Hey, Mike,
*HUGS* ~
I DO get where you're coming from, as regards the whole fetish thing. My gay friends (IRL) laughingly refer to me as "the man of a thousand fetishes": but I'm lucky - most of my fetishes are easier to satisfy, than the fetish of a straight guy gradually "converting" to like having sex with men, MORE. (That's pretty damned complicated, but I do know where you're coming from.)
I apologize for having been a little pissed-off and HARSH, when I've perceived that gorgeous models are getting the "cold shoulder", because they don't fully live up to the site's criteria. Because I've seen those lapses on every site I've ever attended, over many years. And. . . I think a pretty face, and a beautiful body. . . is a TERRIBLE THING to WASTE!
On the other hand, Mike, I get where you're coming from. This site is named "
Broke Straight Boys" - so it is the natural home for
precisely the fetishes and fantasies that mean MOST to YOU. My hope is that, while
Broke Straight Boys will not turn down any models who are truly gorgeous and SEXY, because of sexual orientation or previous experience - - - they will continue to HUNT HARD FOR, and FIND, many great models who ARE real "newbies", so that we can share in the excitement of their "training".
And, while I understand that Jake doesn't work for you, personally - I am hoping that people who share the fetish for straight guys WILL give him a chance - because I think he is (paradoxically, and notwithstanding his previous
resume) one of the "straighter" guys we've had debut as a new model, in quite some time!!!
Hugs, Mike, and lots of love:
"A" XOXOXOXOXOXO