boy friends and BSB

[efa]

How many of you have boy friends?
Do they mind that you come to this site?

As most of you know i got a boy friend and have been with him for a little over 5 years. He does not mind that i come on here he would just rather that i not.

Any advice on what i should do?

Feel free to post on my page or send me a mail ill get to it when i can.

 

[rifle]

Two things.

(1). If he'd rather you not, he minds.
(2). Does he read or watch porn? Do you mind?

You've got to decide exactly why you come here and let him know. Exactly. You've got five years invested in him. He's also got five years invested in you. And he needs some reassurance something else's not moving in on him. When my family discovered snowmobiling I hated the noisy, dangerous goddamn things. I honestly considered they were riding them to get away from me. Around supper one night they got so excited telling me how much fun they had that afternoon, that I realized they weren't getting away from me, they were having quality time together. Now, when they're gone, I bake. I have fun, too. And when they get back, I get appreciated. It makes a wonderful day for all of us.

 

[BrokeStraightBoys]

I'm currently single but when I had a boyfriend he never cared I was on here. He pretty much had to be ok with it because I own the site though. Every guy looks and it is natural and healthy to look at porn. It is much better to get those things out of your system rather than actually act on them with another guy. I would try to talk to him and tell him how you feel, communication is so important.

Mark

 

[parisnoyd]

Mark, your situation is quite a bit different from Efa's.
My guy used porn to turn me on. He didn't need it.

I do know that unless a girl lets you watch it while having sex, you had better not get caught watching it! You will feel the wrath!

Rifle, I love snowmobiles. Haven't driven one in years, but back in my youth my buddies and I hauled them all over and had a blast! One of the funny now, not then, things that happened; my guy and I were climbing hills with our buds. He went up, and I followed him. He turned around and came down right at me! We both turned the same way and had a head on. We weren't hurt and minor damage to the sleds. Our buds were on a hill across the valley. We got off to survey the damage before our buds heard the impact! Fun times!

 

[slimvintage]

How many of you have boy friends?
Do they mind that you come to this site?

As most of you know i got a boy friend and have been with him for a little over 5 years. He does not mind that i come on here he would just rather that i not.

Any advice on what i should do?

Feel free to post on my page or send me a mail ill get to it when i can.

Since he's your top and you're his bottom (fuckin lucky guy that he is) the Straighties on here probably remind you of him. Maybe that would make him feel better about your coming on, if he knew you did it only because you were thinking of him...

 

[joninliverton]

He does not mind that i come on here he would just rather that i not.

.

Interesting comment. Does the fact that you use this site cause arguments or friction when perhaps the time spent on here could be spent with your b/f ?

It's a difficult call.. It's not as if this site is a gay chat room or hook up site such as gaydar but one can get addicted to the forum and thus spend a lot of time getting involved in topics both sex and non sex related.

Hope you get it sorted, but 5 happy years is a lot of time to risk for the sake of 20 bucks a month.

 

[thomas1023]

Efa -

Here's some advice from someone who has never been in a relationship with another man....so, take it as you will.

A friend has told me several times after he died from one of his 11 heart attacts (the first one at age 36), was: 'Truth first, Love second'. That was the simple message. I've thought about it for several years, and think that is a wise believe.

You've shared 5 years of your life, body and soul with someone else! Let them know how and what you really are. If there are secrets, then there can not be Trust I(or Truth). And with out Trust(or Truth), there can be no Love.

I say lay it all on the line! Tell him what you think and feel and open yourself to them. Will they really love you if you don't tell them the Truth?!?

Just typing what I'm feeling in the moment.

Thomas

 

[efa]

thank you for all the great comments and mails on this!

ill hop on here tomorrow after work and let everyone know how its going.

oh i also have new pics ill put up

 

[LesterM]

efa , let me share what we do There are times we use it for our fantasy and play out the various scene that have happened on the futon try it it is a lot of fun and can be something you share

 

[slimvintage]

thank you for all the great comments and mails on this!

ill hop on here tomorrow after work and let everyone know how its going.

oh i also have new pics ill put up

You looking the way you look efa, the pix should go up on the Friday Hotties thread, not onto your profile page.

 

[i2ina69]

I totaly agree with everyone. I hope everything work's out for you and your guy.