Why do straight guys do it???

[BSBGraham]

Listen dude, if you have sex with another guy you are at least bisexual, just by the nature of the meaning of the word. Otherwise we will have to reinvent the meaning of straight.

No, not all the time. Just depends how you look at it. Their straight, but they like to have an encounter here and there.

 

[joninliverton]

No, not all the time. Just depends how you look at it. Their straight, but they like to have an encounter here and there.

Well in that case the meaning of the word straight in the US is a lot different to straight or heterosexual in the UK - mind you we did invent English.

 

[BSBGraham]

Well in that case the meaning of the word straight in the US is a lot different to straight or heterosexual in the UK - mind you we did invent English.

They're*** LOL. I guess it is different ha.

 

[Beth]

They're*** LOL. I guess it is different ha.

Oh labels...as Jinx has on her Avatar, "labels are for clothes, not people."
As I have said before, Steve is straight, but the biggest bottom I've ever had! Most time even when I blow him, he likes one of his toys in him!

 

[BSBGraham]

Oh labels...as Jinx has on her Avatar, "labels are for clothes, not people."
As I have said before, Steve is straight, but the biggest bottom I've ever had! Most time even when I blow him, he likes one of his toys in him!

Yeah, see there you go. Just because he likes that doesn't classify him as being gay. He just likes what he likes, nothing wrong with that at all. And as his wife you please him however the way he likes it. .

 

[tampa24]

Stimpy;
Hey thank you for your warm and caring comments about me. I like to think and in fact I know I have a great heart and I am 100% loyal to those I share trust with. My Mom told me many times when I was a little kid on through high school that you will have many friends in life, but will only have maybe a handful of "true friends" in life, and that I will know who they are. She was right and I hope I have a least a few more in my life ahead! Thanks again for your kind words!
Have a super day!

Hugs,
Ricky

I'm sure your friends were very fortunate to have had you in their lives Ricky. You each did the other a good deed.

Not every child and teen grows up in am idyllic family and household of healthy domestic tranquility. Some households are dealing with bad marriages, alcoholism, drug abuse, physical and/or sexual abuse, mental illness, great financial hardships and so on. I'm blessed to have had a much more stable upbringing.

Knowing you as I do Ricky from what I've gathered over the last 5 years, you are a very caring person who genuinely wants to help others in need. While you may have gotten some pleasure out of the sex you had with your friends back then...it seems to me that that was secondary to the goal for which you and your straight friends sought it. It was really a cry for love. They wanted validation that someone cared about them and how much emotional pain they were in. They wanted validation that they were not only likeable but also worthy of love...and worthy of being treated well.

Many of us have been at points in our lives when due to whatever circumstances, our self-esteem was low. We wanted to know we had others in our lives who loved us. In your cases the need was so great that the tender sex probably was a way to show that you could be naked and at your most vulnerable with each other, and yet you were absolutely safe, cared for and loved. It reinforced the idea that not only were you each worthy of love in general, but that you were also all deemed by each other to be handsome, sexually attractive and desirable. You don't find many safer and nurturing places emotionally than that. So much of it was about the healing and rebuilding of self-worth rather than just the pleasure of the sex being an end in itself. I'm sure those camping trips, coming as they did in the midst of so much turmoil and trauma in your lives, were some of the highlights of all of your youths.

That is indeed one of the scenarios in the human experience where straight men will sometimes quite willingly have gay sex more than once...and then move forward to lead a completely heterosexual life.

Thank you for sharing such a lovely story Rick.

Big hugs!

 

[BSBGraham]

I'm sure your friends were very fortunate to have had you in their lives Ricky. You each did the other a good deed.

Not every child and teen grows up in am idyllic family and household of healthy domestic tranquility. Some households are dealing with bad marriages, alcoholism, drug abuse, physical and/or sexual abuse, mental illness, great financial hardships and so on. I'm blessed to have had a much more stable upbringing.

Knowing you as I do Ricky from what I've gathered over the last 5 years, you are a very caring person who genuinely wants to help others in need. While you may have gotten some pleasure out of the sex you had with your friends back then...it seems to me that that was secondary to the goal for which you and your straight friends sought it. It was really a cry for love. They wanted validation that someone cared about them and how much emotional pain they were in. They wanted validation that they were not only likeable but also worthy of love...and worthy of being treated well.

Many of us have been at points in our lives when due to whatever circumstances, our self-esteem was low. We wanted to know we had others in our lives who loved us. In your cases the need was so great that the tender sex probably was a way to show that you could be naked and at your most vulnerable with each other, and yet you were absolutely safe, cared for and loved. It reinforced the idea that not only were you each worthy of love in general, but that you were also all deemed by each other to be handsome, sexually attractive and desirable. You don't find many safer and nurturing places emotionally than that. So much of it was about the healing and rebuilding of self-worth rather than just the pleasure of the sex being an end in itself. I'm sure those camping trips, coming as they did in the midst of so much turmoil and trauma in your lives, were some of the highlights of all of your youths.

That is indeed one of the scenarios in the human experience where straight men will sometimes quite willingly have gay sex more than once...and then move forward to lead a completely heterosexual life.

Thank you for sharing such a lovely story Rick.

Big hugs!

Yeah, I have to agree with you it def was an interesting story and shows you guys had a strong bond with each other. Bravo!

 

[rickbell19]

Hey Tampa and Graham;

Thank you for such a great and supportive reply. Yeah I am exactly as you say Tampa and very proud of who I am! I don't get to see these guys much because of all of the travel I have done in the past few years. I am enjoying a great life with a lot of hard work but love everything I do. I can honestly say that even though I have been only in two long term true gay relationships in my life (and I am still in one with Cam), the time I spent with my two straight buddies and the warmth and love we shared I think is the best part of my life so far, maybe forever. Yeah we had great sex and THEY loved it as much as I did. It did NOT start out as sex. Just warmth and caring and things just happened naturally when the time was right. I cherish just as much or really even more the times we laid together, just holding them for hours, talking, making them feel as safe and comfortable as possible with no sex involved at all. During the day sometimes and lots of nights together too. It was truly love of each other. And even when we did share sex, you know we NEVER really talked about it. They were so happy to have that love and trust, me mentally taking them away from even the thought of any hurt they had inside for just a few hours. It gave them the strength to keep moving on knowing I was there for them in every way possible. I just got to thinking about it and we never once talked about the sex we just had or anytime after that. Just a massive deep soul loving look in each others eyes and a smile afterward. Followed by some kissing and us usually falling to sleep in each others arms. Damn I miss them but will see them in the near future.
To kind of put what was going on in perspective for ya'all. Like I said we had pretty much been best friends since grade school and were like brothers. One of my buds had been to a party and was pretty drunk. I wasn't at that party but as he was driving home, he had a head on collision with another guy from high school who was also legally drunk. Sadly the other guy died in the crash. The police after a lot of accident investigating couldn't tell who was a fault.... really they both were but it seemed to look as the other guy went over the centerline and hit my buddy John. They just couldn't prove it as it was so close. My buddy almost died as well and was in intensive care for two weeks. They air lifted him to U of M hospital from the crash scene. When I heard the next morning what happened, I spent at least 6 hours a day with him 7 days a week. I was still in school too but left after classes and stayed until late evening. When he got out of the hospital, school was just out for the summer and he was alone at home because his parents both worked. So I would go get him and bring him to my house so he wouldn't be alone. He was physically doing OK, in three casts for a while and sore as hell but his body wasn't the issue. He suffered tremendous guilt for not only the accident but the fact he survived and the other guy didn't. Plus his parents were very pissed at him and very hard on him. They made him feel alone in his own home and in fact they have never been the same toward him. After a few weeks of dealing with their crap, he just moved in with me for the summer and I took care of him. Got him out of the house, we did some travel, spent lots of time on the water and all kinds of other stuff young guys do. Today he is 99% fine and is married and has two great kids and wife. He still says that I am the only one that can completely get in his head and soul and help him when things good or bad pop up. I love him SO much.
The other guy I love equally and he was diagnosed with a brain tumor that caused him a lot of vision and balance issues at first. They were able to do surgery and got it and he is now doing great. But it was a three year ordeal that he only had me for the most part to count on 100%. His friends bailed and his dad died when he was a kid. So his mom had to work 60+ hours a week to pay the house bills and the staggering hospital bill. So again, he was with me most of the time including usually 4 to 5 nights a week sleeping together! Today all is good, he got married two years ago, he is making great money as a design engineer and his mom only works a few hours as Mike is paying for her expenses now in return. Mike and John, both amazing guys I cherish! Thank you all for letting me tell you about them!

Hugs,
Ricky

I'm sure your friends were very fortunate to have had you in their lives Ricky. You each did the other a good deed.

Not every child and teen grows up in am idyllic family and household of healthy domestic tranquility. Some households are dealing with bad marriages, alcoholism, drug abuse, physical and/or sexual abuse, mental illness, great financial hardships and so on. I'm blessed to have had a much more stable upbringing.

Knowing you as I do Ricky from what I've gathered over the last 5 years, you are a very caring person who genuinely wants to help others in need. While you may have gotten some pleasure out of the sex you had with your friends back then...it seems to me that that was secondary to the goal for which you and your straight friends sought it. It was really a cry for love. They wanted validation that someone cared about them and how much emotional pain they were in. They wanted validation that they were not only likeable but also worthy of love...and worthy of being treated well.

Many of us have been at points in our lives when due to whatever circumstances, our self-esteem was low. We wanted to know we had others in our lives who loved us. In your cases the need was so great that the tender sex probably was a way to show that you could be naked and at your most vulnerable with each other, and yet you were absolutely safe, cared for and loved. It reinforced the idea that not only were you each worthy of love in general, but that you were also all deemed by each other to be handsome, sexually attractive and desirable. You don't find many safer and nurturing places emotionally than that. So much of it was about the healing and rebuilding of self-worth rather than just the pleasure of the sex being an end in itself. I'm sure those camping trips, coming as they did in the midst of so much turmoil and trauma in your lives, were some of the highlights of all of your youths.

That is indeed one of the scenarios in the human experience where straight men will sometimes quite willingly have gay sex more than once...and then move forward to lead a completely heterosexual life.

Thank you for sharing such a lovely story Rick.

Big hugs!

 

[BSBGraham]

Hey Tampa and Graham;

Thank you for such a great and supportive reply. Yeah I am exactly as you say Tampa and very proud of who I am! I don't get to see these guys much because of all of the travel I have done in the past few years. I am enjoying a great life with a lot of hard work but love everything I do. I can honestly say that even though I have been only in two long term true gay relationships in my life (and I am still in one with Cam), the time I spent with my two straight buddies and the warmth and love we shared I think is the best part of my life so far, maybe forever. Yeah we had great sex and THEY loved it as much as I did. It did NOT start out as sex. Just warmth and caring and things just happened naturally when the time was right. I cherish just as much or really even more the times we laid together, just holding them for hours, talking, making them feel as safe and comfortable as possible with no sex involved at all. During the day sometimes and lots of nights together too. It was truly love of each other. And even when we did share sex, you know we NEVER really talked about it. They were so happy to have that love and trust, me mentally taking them away from even the thought of any hurt they had inside for just a few hours. It gave them the strength to keep moving on knowing I was there for them in every way possible. I just got to thinking about it and we never once talked about the sex we just had or anytime after that. Just a massive deep soul loving look in each others eyes and a smile afterward. Followed by some kissing and us usually falling to sleep in each others arms. Damn I miss them but will see them in the near future.
To kind of put what was going on in perspective for ya'all. Like I said we had pretty much been best friends since grade school and were like brothers. One of my buds had been to a party and was pretty drunk. I wasn't at that party but as he was driving home, he had a head on collision with another guy from high school who was also legally drunk. Sadly the other guy died in the crash. The police after a lot of accident investigating couldn't tell who was a fault.... really they both were but it seemed to look as the other guy went over the centerline and hit my buddy John. They just couldn't prove it as it was so close. My buddy almost died as well and was in intensive care for two weeks. They air lifted him to U of M hospital from the crash scene. When I heard the next morning what happened, I spent at least 6 hours a day with him 7 days a week. I was still in school too but left after classes and stayed until late evening. When he got out of the hospital, school was just out for the summer and he was alone at home because his parents both worked. So I would go get him and bring him to my house so he wouldn't be alone. He was physically doing OK, in three casts for a while and sore as hell but his body wasn't the issue. He suffered tremendous guilt for not only the accident but the fact he survived and the other guy didn't. Plus his parents were very pissed at him and very hard on him. They made him feel alone in his own home and in fact they have never been the same toward him. After a few weeks of dealing with their crap, he just moved in with me for the summer and I took care of him. Got him out of the house, we did some travel, spent lots of time on the water and all kinds of other stuff young guys do. Today he is 99% fine and is married and has two great kids and wife. He still says that I am the only one that can completely get in his head and soul and help him when things good or bad pop up. I love him SO much.
The other guy I love equally and he was diagnosed with a brain tumor that caused him a lot of vision and balance issues at first. They were able to do surgery and got it and he is now doing great. But it was a three year ordeal that he only had me for the most part to count on 100%. His friends bailed and his dad died when he was a kid. So his mom had to work 60+ hours a week to pay the house bills and the staggering hospital bill. So again, he was with me most of the time including usually 4 to 5 nights a week sleeping together! Today all is good, he got married two years ago, he is making great money as a design engineer and his mom only works a few hours as Mike is paying for her expenses now in return. Mike and John, both amazing guys I cherish! Thank you all for letting me tell you about them!

Hugs,
Ricky

We're happy to listen and give support ha. You have a strong bond with them as I do with my friends. It's a great feeling knowing that you love them so much and would do just about anything for them as if they were your own family. Wait...They are family ha. I feel you 100% . By the way how old are you?

 

[BSBGraham]

We're happy to listen and give support ha. You have a strong bond with them as I do with my friends. It's a great feeling knowing that you love them so much and would do just about anything for them as if they were your own family. Wait...They are family ha. I feel you 100% . By the way how old are you?

If I may ask you? Forgot to add that part out haha. You dont even have to tell me ha.

 

[rickbell19]

Hey Graham

Thanks man. I am a Halloween baby! Born 10-31-1988

You can always ask me anything bud!

Hugs,
Ricky

 

[tampa24]

Another Scorpio. Yay! haha

 

[BSBGraham]

Hey Graham

Thanks man. I am a Halloween baby! Born 10-31-1988

You can always ask me anything bud!

Hugs,
Ricky

Nice, great holiday to have a birthday on ha. )