Top? Bottom? or Side?

[elyot1]

Read an article that concludes there are three different kind of gay men...Top, Bottom, or Side. (What about Versatile?) A Side is someone not into anal sex. I know guys like that. Just didn't know they were called Sides. What a waste of time reading that article was. They're all just labels anyway.

 

[Jaybifla]

Uggh! No offense to any sides reading this. LOL. As far as I’m concerned, sides need not apply with me. I’m very much versatile, equally happy to do either.

 

[Repareur]

I’ve never heard it described as sides but I know a couple. I’m with you guys though top or bottom is where it’s at with me also. I’m mostly a top but I do appreciate the advantages of being versatile.

 

[mikeyank]

I've never heard of the expression, "sides" but if the definition is "A Side is someone not into anal sex", then I am a "side". I've said many times on this forum that I am not primarily into anal sex either in my porn or in my personal life. I am very much into oral sex, mainly giving it. I've seen the expression of being an "oral bottom". A more common word is being a "cocksucker". lol. My special turn-on is giving a blowjob to a hot young straight guy, hence watching a cute straight guy on Broke Straight Boys getting sucked off is my favorite here as well. But in porn, watching a straight guy fuck a guy can be hot for me to watch as well.

I belong to a free forum called menwhoswallow.net. There are "feeders", guys who like to be sucked, "eaters", guys who do suck, and guys who do both. I've found it interesting over the years, reading that site to discover that being a "cocksucker" is not necessarily the same as being gay. There are many men who've posted there over the years who are married, or in committed relationships with women, say that they love them, and have sex with them who are also cocksuckers. There are also guys who are married and like to fuck their wives, but who enjoy getting sucked by other guys. And there are gay men on that site who enjoy both oral and anal, but we focus on the oral over there.

I've read the following phrase so many times both on that site and in other online reading over the years where a guy says, "I am not attracted to a man. I don't want to kiss them or be in a relationship with them. But I like to suck cock". That is not me. I do find men very attractive and I've been in relationships and enjoy kissing, holding and hugging a guy. But even when in relationships with men, but I am not particularity into anal. I've done it to keep my partner happy, but first and foremost sexually, I like cock and to me a fine ass is great for admiring and touching and even kissing or tasting, but not for fucking.

The longer I have lived my life, the more I keep discovering that there are endless variations to human sexuality. Yes, I am most definitely a gay man, but not a typical gay man in many respects, including not being into topping or bottoming as my primary way of having sex. Human sexuality is very complex and there is no label that defines any one human being.

 

[Repareur]

Sides sound like what you order to go with your meal. That’s what I think about cock sucking. A side thing for me or perhaps a side dish. Lol. I tend to think of it as a appetizer before the meal. Mikeyank, I guess you are an al la cart kind of guy. Choosing a side dish for the main meal. That in a way makes sense to me.

I’ve certainly sucked a straight guy. It can be very hot. Of course I’m always trying to push the boundaries and get them to do more but it doesn’t always work. You get them real hot from a blow job and if you can get a finger up their ass and it feels good they may get the idea that a dick up there would feel pretty good. I definitely understand the attraction and turn on to a blow job only situation.

 

[mikeyank]

Sides sound like what you order to go with your meal. That’s what I think about cock sucking. A side thing for me or perhaps a side dish. Lol. I tend to think of it as a appetizer before the meal. Mikeyank, I guess you are an al la cart kind of guy. Choosing a side dish for the main meal. That in a way makes sense to me.

I’ve certainly sucked a straight guy. It can be very hot. Of course I’m always trying to push the boundaries and get them to do more but it doesn’t always work. You get them real hot from a blow job and if you can get a finger up their ass and it feels good they may get the idea that a dick up there would feel pretty good. I definitely understand the attraction and turn on to a blow job only situation.

Sides can be mighty tasty too Rep! LOL

 

[kgmets]

Sides sound like what you order to go with your meal. That’s what I think about cock sucking. A side thing for me or perhaps a side dish. Lol. I tend to think of it as a appetizer before the meal. Mikeyank, I guess you are an al la cart kind of guy. Choosing a side dish for the main meal. That in a way makes sense to me.

I’ve certainly sucked a straight guy. It can be very hot. Of course I’m always trying to push the boundaries and get them to do more but it doesn’t always work. You get them real hot from a blow job and if you can get a finger up their ass and it feels good they may get the idea that a dick up there would feel pretty good. I definitely understand the attraction and turn on to a blow job only situation.

"Sides sound like what you order to go with our meal." Very funny.

 

[tampa24]

I don't think "side" is a term I will ever take on as a useful part of my vocabulary. haha

 

[mikeyank]

I don't think "side" is a term I will ever take on as a useful part of my vocabulary. haha

To tell you the truth Tampa, I am accepting it and starting to embrace it. lol

 

[tampa24]

But I am cantankerous and refuse to budge with the times. haha

 

[Repareur]

But I am cantankerous and refuse to budge with the times. haha

You still didn’t say if you were a side guy like our esteemed mayor or a main course guy like most of us?

 

[mikeyank]

You still didn’t say if you were a side guy like our esteemed mayor or a main course guy like most of us?

Rep & I could share a good meal, as he takes on the steak and I nibble on the sides. lol

And by the way, "share a good meal" has more than one meaning, you know.

 

[kgmets]

I've never heard of the expression, "sides" but if the definition is "A Side is someone not into anal sex", then I am a "side". I've said many times on this forum that I am not primarily into anal sex either in my porn or in my personal life. I am very much into oral sex, mainly giving it. I've seen the expression of being an "oral bottom". A more common word is being a "cocksucker". lol. My special turn-on is giving a blowjob to a hot young straight guy, hence watching a cute straight guy on Broke Straight Boys getting sucked off is my favorite here as well. But in porn, watching a straight guy fuck a guy can be hot for me to watch as well.

I belong to a free forum called menwhoswallow.net. There are "feeders", guys who like to be sucked, "eaters", guys who do suck, and guys who do both. I've found it interesting over the years, reading that site to discover that being a "cocksucker" is not necessarily the same as being gay. There are many men who've posted there over the years who are married, or in committed relationships with women, say that they love them, and have sex with them who are also cocksuckers. There are also guys who are married and like to fuck their wives, but who enjoy getting sucked by other guys. And there are gay men on that site who enjoy both oral and anal, but we focus on the oral over there.

I've read the following phrase so many times both on that site and in other online reading over the years where a guy says, "I am not attracted to a man. I don't want to kiss them or be in a relationship with them. But I like to suck cock". That is not me. I do find men very attractive and I've been in relationships and enjoy kissing, holding and hugging a guy. But even when in relationships with men, but I am not particularity into anal. I've done it to keep my partner happy, but first and foremost sexually, I like cock and to me a fine ass is great for admiring and touching and even kissing or tasting, but not for fucking.

The longer I have lived my life, the more I keep discovering that there are endless variations to human sexuality. Yes, I am most definitely a gay man, but not a typical gay man in many respects, including not being into topping or bottoming as my primary way of having sex. Human sexuality is very complex and there is no label that defines any one human being.

This is new terminology for me: I thought that "sides" were side dishes to a meal, and "eaters" either consumed the meal or gave a blow job and swallowed!

 

[mikeyank]

This is new terminology for me: I thought that "sides" were side dishes to a meal, and "eaters" either consumed the meal or gave a blow job and swallowed!

I both enjoy consuming a good meal and swallowing a good load!