I think that all too often we (the self acknowledged GLBT populous) become enamored with our iconic figures and those affluent people that we place up on pedestals for their public performances leading to their celebrity status. We have an intrinsic motivation to seek self-acceptance (which is an inside job) as well as acceptance from society that we often look for role models that we can identify with on a public level to promote ourselves as being normal or just as good as this person or the other. I am often saddened when a celebrity is living a picture perfect story book kind of life and their train is proverbially derailed by public gossip and hurtful media sensationalism aimed at discrediting their celebrity status. Freudian slips do happen and they are not always intentional. I understand all of that. Regardless of how a person is outed, it is always an opportunity for personal and professional growth on celebrity’s part as well as ours. We need to be mindful that our sexuality is just one aspect of our outward manifestation of our inner feelings and emotions. We should always remind ourselves daily that we are perfect whole and complete just the way we are. We were born unique and although we may share some personal traits and sexual habits with others but we are indeed unique as individuals. I do believe that the coming out process is also unique to each individual. Unfortunately sometimes we can be labeled by society for one sexual act whether it by experimentation or not.
I love the whole
Broke Straight Boys concept not because they pay straight guys to have gay sex. I love the concept that they provide a vehicle by which straight men can experiment with gay/bisexual sex and have the opportunity to explore this aspect of their personal sexual nature while having a little fun and making some money in the process. Fortunately, these guys have elected to do this in a public venue so we can watch and rediscover our selves and watch these guys grow as a person and literally too. LOL. I realize that many of these guys may only ever do this on the
Broke Straight Boys set or with a very close and trusted friend. That is fine. We grow and learn through exploration and experimentation. (Smiley, your series about you and Mike messing around is a perfect example of this.)
I cannot control how society reacts or responds to gossip whether it is factually accurate or not. I can only be responsible for my own actions and I can help others see my point of view. I cannot change anyone other than me ultimately. In the case of a public outing; it is just as much about us as it is about the person being forced to reveal private aspects of their life through public peer pressure and media sensationalism. Face it gossip sells. So, publishing hot gossip is more about selling advertisement space than it is about trashing someone's reputation in the media. Our knee jerk reactions to the gossip is entirely representative of our own personal view points, inner daemons, and our own unique and dynamic paradigm as we relate to life in general. We are here to learn the Divine lessons of unconditional love. The media prays on those our inherent nature of not feeling worthy and our self-deprecation when it outs people regardless of celebrity status or not. If we accept and respect ourselves and accept and respect that others have a right to explore their life as it is intended for our own personal growth we take our first true steps towards Divine unconditional love.
In other words I think it is great that someone had sex with someone of the same sex or opposite sex. Sexual encounters are part of our whole human experience that allows our soul to evolve. I really don’t understand how this is breaking news. Yeah!!! for them. So, I kind of have mixed emotions when someone is outed. A large part of me wants to laugh and just say sit back and relax. This too shall pass and by the way welcome to the human race. The other part of me wants to be there while they are processing their feelings and emotions of being publicly outed. I guess that is why the
Broke Straight Boys Forum allows us to use avatars and is kind enough to keep our personal information as private as they can. Being outed could destroy many aspects of our personal lives through guilt by association and public perceptions of ignorance. Face it it is hard enough to get a job these days. Do we really need to deal with public peer pressure emanating from the small percentage of the fear based populus and their negative propaganda. I believe this is why so many people are still fighting for equality and GLBT rights. (QM, MarkyMark, thank you for all of your efforts for GLBT rights. Also, Gaymusic, thank you for your efforts in helping the world find peace and acceptance by overcoming bigotry and hatred of others.)
Bless your hearts and thank you for letting me share.
haha And Judith Light has been a huge supporter and ally of the gay community for many years. Even though she is straight. 
