I found this quite interesting too. As far as the straight married dude with a family who Richie got along with so well to the point that he gave him a massage and cuddled with him sleeping in the same bed... My thoughts went to Johnny Cox. I know that that was not one of his highest rated scenes. The one with Benjamin Dover rated higher. But unless I missed something I thought Ben was portrayed as single while he was here, whereas Johnny was definitely married if memory serves. So while Ben may totally be the right answer, I don't think we can rule out Johnny.