THANK YOU DCKevin, nice to have some reasonable person who understands something about the Kinsey scale and not needing to apply labels to people because they don't fit a stereotypic behavior. I think people on this site forget how hormones can take over, and once someone overcomes an ingrained behavior (prevalent, depending on geographic location, generation, upbringing and values, because it's hard for people to change), that the fun and 'feel good' factor can kick in.
One thing I've learned in my years is that people should watch out for assumptions--it gets them in trouble, sets up miscommunication and misunderstanding in their lives/relationships. Who would really know someone's intent/feelings unless one goes to the source to ask? Although people can hide behind secrets or try to adhere to expectations, the only reliable way of understanding a situation or a person's motives is to ask directly 'from the horses's mouth.' And if the answer doesn't fit your hope or assumption, let it be--it's that person's "reality," and we have no right to judge someone or force them to be any different than where they are currently at in their life.
Your response was a breath of fresh air, thanks for responding as you did