Hi Abe,
I appreciate your willingness to continue discussing this. I'm not trying to be difficult here, though I'm sure many probably see it that way. I totally understand what you are saying about integrity in the persona portrayed while performing and one's personal life. Again, though, I would just point out that many people would say Jimmy *is* gay, without any doubt, just for appearing on this site. For many, a guy having *any* kind of intimate interaction with another guy constitutes them "being gay." As a result, one of my main points is that if one were to assume that there is some "ultimate truth" to the situation, perhaps that truth is to be found elsewhere--as in the label of "gay" is too subjective and shouldn't be pinned to some specific act (like enjoying anal stimulation, regardless of the gender of the "giver") because sexual practice is as varied as the people who engage in it. And, again, what interests me about this site is seeing how the participants change over time. Not to take away from the purity of the porn, but to me this site is an incredibly fascinating study in human psychology--I really wish the people behind the camera were a bit smarter about this and asked more probing, interesting questions if they really insist on talking during the shoots.
I have to take exception with some of the comments you made, though. You spoke of
Diesal's bottoming scene, how much he hated it, and how clear it was that he hated it. Unless there were some other comments made by
Diesal later, I didn't see any evidence that he hated it. In fact, I recall very clearly that he said it was not what he expected and "in a good way." That's hardly what someone would say if they hated an experience. It seemed to me that his senses were just flooded by the stimulation and he couldn't quite handle it at some point, but he got fucked for quite some time, and didn't make it seem (to me, at least) that he was hating the experience at all. I brought up in another thread how I really wanted to see
Diesal bottom again--because of my interest in seeing how the participants change over time--and I caught HOLY HELL for the suggestion. People were making really irrational comments like "
Diesal is only a top!" Well, says who? He's already bottomed. That can't be undone. "Top" is just a label, just as "gay" is just a label.
You also stated "But the reality is that Bobby is currently a gay porn actor who is 'versatile.'" Why? Is Bobby on other sites and identifying himself as gay? If you're saying Bobby is gay simply because he has gotten fucked and seems to be enjoying it, then that isn't "THE reality." That's simply your interpretation of the reality. It's much more realistic to me to assume that Bobby, who would have never considered anal stimulation before as a valid sexual act, has now discovered that anal stimulation is pleasurable, even if delivered by another guy. That doesn't make him gay, though, it just means he likes feeling good. No labels. Now, if he decided to buy a bungalow in Provincetown with Rocco and commit to a lifelong relationship with him, that could reasonably be grounds for declaring him gay. I would hope, though, that HE would identify HIMSELF as gay long before that happened, else the relationship would likely not last long.
I don't know if the points I'm trying to make are getting across. There are several people who seem to be in your camp on this, but I'm not convinced that what I'm saying is devoid of merit. This site has a unique opportunity to challenge stereotypes and labels. It throws a monkeywrench into the works to pigeonhole any of the performers in such a way that they aren't even allowed to undergo a personal transformation through this experience. It's not like Jimmy is the only "straight" guy in the world. Even if he decided to become a drag queen, there will be others to come along, so why insist on holding him back, or allowing himself to hold back?
A parting shot to consider: I'm certain that you would not deny that this is a "gay-for-pay" site, and the participants are well aware of that going in. Now, if, as you say, being "gay" means getting fucked, then should it not be MANDATORY that every model get fucked at least once, if not a few times?