Hey Guys,
I was wondering how those of you who were or are in long term relationships prefer to handle your finances. Who thinks that if a partner wants to pool both incomes into a joint account that you should go running and screaming in the other direction? Who thinks that it's not a bad idea with the right person? Who thinks that buying a house together is okay but prefers to keep separate accounts at the bank?
I'd like your input on this as I have not been in long term relationships and I would truly like the benefit of your experiences. Do you guys think it works well to split the common bills down the middle? Or set up a system where one pays the rent or mortgage and the other pays the utilities? Have any of you made a mistake where a boyfriend or partner was able to clean out a bank account?
I am genuinely curious about these issues for my own future reference when I get into a relationship. And quite honestly I'm hoping for some good conversation out of the topic. I'm tired of talking about only porn. The mind gets restless after a while. If some choose to just give an opinion on how they think money issues should be handled in a relationship that's fine of course. If some want to tell personal stories of the benefits and pitfalls of different courses of action, that's great too.
I was wondering how those of you who were or are in long term relationships prefer to handle your finances. Who thinks that if a partner wants to pool both incomes into a joint account that you should go running and screaming in the other direction? Who thinks that it's not a bad idea with the right person? Who thinks that buying a house together is okay but prefers to keep separate accounts at the bank?
I'd like your input on this as I have not been in long term relationships and I would truly like the benefit of your experiences. Do you guys think it works well to split the common bills down the middle? Or set up a system where one pays the rent or mortgage and the other pays the utilities? Have any of you made a mistake where a boyfriend or partner was able to clean out a bank account?
I am genuinely curious about these issues for my own future reference when I get into a relationship. And quite honestly I'm hoping for some good conversation out of the topic. I'm tired of talking about only porn. The mind gets restless after a while. If some choose to just give an opinion on how they think money issues should be handled in a relationship that's fine of course. If some want to tell personal stories of the benefits and pitfalls of different courses of action, that's great too.