Beauty is in the eye of the beholder honey.. I'm surprised at you.
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Well, I don't know, guys. . . .
Rob Lowe is, of course, famously handsome. (I met him in passing once, when he was filming a TV movie at our building: and it's just preposterous how beautiful he is. . . Lowe and I are just about the same age, but I look like Winston Churchill, and he looks like. . . ROB LOWE. *I am sure he has an horrible, scarred, portrait of himself, decaying in an attic, somewhere ;-)))
On the other hand, lads, to quote that great purveyor of wisdom and enlightenment - George W. Bush ;-) - we should never
misunderestimate the problems of the extremely BEAUTIFUL, either!!! People who are exceptionally physically beautiful often have problems that mirror (and not in a GOOD WAY) the problems common to the likes of ME. . .
I have a lovely friend (a dear friend), a Canadian, who used to be a model on a site a little like this one - though not as large or celebrated (he is gay, BTW): and he said, "'A' - most of the guys I WANTED were scared off either by my looks, or by the fact that they recognized me from my work. . . which was really ONLY something I did to GET THROUGH SCHOOL. It HURT that I couldn't just date someone and get to know someone, as MYSELF." And Mr. K., who is pretty cute - on a par with Danny - has basically told me the same thing: he said he got sort of tired of just being treated as a "piece of meat", and the best "one-night stand" EVER - only to be left alone and forgotten, the next day.
Surprisingly enough (or not???) the same thing happened to Rob Lowe, in his career. As best he TRIED, he got turned down for a lot of serious, and important parts, in motion-pictures, because. . .
he was just too damned pretty. Now, that is an odd sort of tragedy that MOST of us (particularly me!) never have to face. . . but it's a
real tragedy, nonetheless. That someone's talent, and intelligence, and heart, shouldn't be RECOGNIZED, just because of the
way he (or she) LOOKS.
No kidding - we ALL have an eye for beauty - and for the things that appeal to us. . . in our eyes and ears and ALL our senses. I'm not blameless: I do, too! But it's very important always (I think) to try and take a little time to get to know a person on the INSIDE, as well, and to realize that's the most important thing, and that's what makes a person REALLY worth loving. If I didn't have a lot of wonderful friends (including some here), and Mr. K., who hadn't realized that about ME. . . I guess I'd be napping quietly in some columbarium, by now - instead of harassing you with all these notes ;-)
Peter: I don't know if Rob Lowe's son will turn out to be as handsome as Rob is, when he's 25 or 30. Who knows? For the moment, I'd say, he's a cute kid, and that's all I can say. People's looks change a lot, over time. I don't know if any of you has ever seen a photo of Cary Grant, when he was 25 ~ but he looked like a callow and unimpressive teenager, with no cheekbones, and a very weak chin. By the time he was
40, however, he was the romantic idol of the planet. So. . . you just NEVER KNOW. (Not that any of that, matters.)
What I would like to send you, though, is a very touching excerpt from Rob Lowe's latest book (only in North America, Jon, are people SO conceited that they write autobiographies - let alone TWO of them! - before they're 75): in which Lowe explains HOW MUCH he LOVES the boy in that picture. It's a little self-indulgent, and a little silly (for sure): but it still made me cry a little, when I read it at my desk, at the office.
LOVE is ALWAYS more important than LOOKS - and LOVE defeats all outward appearances. And LOVE is the ONLY thing, that makes life HAPPY.
"A" XOXOXOXOXOXO
http://www.slate.com/articles/life/...off_to_college_an_excerpt_from_love_life.html
