Dear Jimmy,
Using rough locker-room language is either a coverup for "feelings of personal inadequacy" by overcompensating with uncivil language around your peers "to fit in" OR it is deliberate to be offensive and demean others around you. That is basically a "character flaw", as it shows little respect for your audience or those with whom you are interacting. I don't personally care if someone uses whatever language in the privacy of their own home, unless others are also present to hear it. This locker-room language is both abusive and keeps people at bay, a kind of verbal defense system of sorts. Why would anyone choose this language when one could just as easily choose to be polite and non-threatening. Being "Macho for its own sake" went out of fashion along with bellbottom pants, platform shoes, and leisure suits of the 70's. The use of coarse expressions like you use is intended to put others down and keep them down. This kind of language is used by bullies, too! After all, we do have women on this site and we have many others that have been bullied in the past on this site, too. They were bullied primarily because of being suspected as "GAY" many times before they knew what "Gay" was! Statistically, school age kids appearing to have gay characteristics have a much higher rate of bullying and the resultiing suicides than their counterparts--Straight kids. Your conscious choice of vocabulary just further reinforces unpleasant negative experiences they suffered from the past by bullies, whether it is your personal intention at the time spoken or not! Simply stated, you may think joking around as you do makes up for this negativity, but really in the long-run it doesn't and you have set yourself up to "not fit in" should better work opportunities become available to you. In general, no workplace today wants "foulmouthed employees trashing the workplace environment with their inappropriate language" in such a negative way! I say this, not as some "Jimmy hater" but, rather as brotherly advice..."adult responsibilities require us all to eventually grow up sooner or later". People allowing you to remain using this disrespectful kind of language are only holding you back! Respectfully, I would much rather you advance to your fullest potential as an adult, not implying anything sexually by this statement!
As far as..."the idea of paying a young man who has financial hardship MONEY to have SEX with MEN??? seriously just think about it...suck my fucking dick whore cunt bitch is offensive but a young man who is having sex with another man for money isnt offensive? It blows my mind real life MEN like yourself are offended by my WORDs but not offended by the overall premise of the site." Jimmy you said a mouthful and to a large extent I have to agree with you!!!! I, too, dislike the premise of this site, but I never joined this site in the first place with this in my mind. The title of the "site" is meaningless to me, while I realize its appeal for others. No, I don't enjoy the thought of anyone ever being "victimized" or otherwise having to compromise themself by "submitting to sex with other men" only for economic hardship or monetary reasons. I fail to see the victory in taking advantage of anyone when they are down!
Our legal system, thanks to Pres. Richard Nixon, has come to consider anyone age 18 and over to be an adult. Consequently, I consider BSB models all comply with this requirement and are not appearing here "under duress". In other words, they voluntarily agreed as an adult to these contractual agreements and requirements by their "free choice", just like anyone entering the armed forces agrees to risking their own life through potential combat duty. Obviously, all models are going to be compensated financially, otherwise this would be "sex-slavery". Every job in the workplace has some elements that are frequently unpleasant or even much worse, otherwise it wouldn't be defined as "WORK". No one in life gets a free ride as distasteful duties and obligations will naturally follow! Fortunately, you had the privilege to know "up-front" exactly, chosing to do gay porn at a higher rate than straight porn) what would be expected of you as a BSB model. This was not something kept as a secret from you. Countless workers nationwide have been subjected to intimidation by their superiors and faced the forced choice of choosing from either quitting their job with its financial consequences or have fallen into a position of submission to whatever whelm the boss expects just to hold on their job or to advance upward! No one made this choice for you but Jimmy and, possibly, your circumstances!
You accepted the terms of the BSB contract prior to ever appearing and accepted to abide by the directions assigned to you. This tells me that you were given the choice to accept or decline and probably could still back out at any time, just like Colin during your anal assault. Surely, I understand economic hardship personally and I know people with Masters Degrees, Engineers, and other highly educated professionals working for only $8.00 per hour, due to downsizing or the downturn of the economy, just to maintain some small trickle of income coming in to get by temporarily. After all these are some of the hardest times our nation has had in decades, and not just for you. I agree these are not really living wages but these people had to settle for a job, any job, at much below their former income level and training rather than living on the streets or worse.
But I reiterate and agree with you essentially, I hate the premise of this site and that is why I have always objected to Clay's and, earlier on, David's flashing cash under the noses of the models. In my opinion, this shows gross disrespect to the model and is the same by implication as calling them as a "slut" and a "whore". No, I do not view BSB models as either. I feel that, just like girls choose to be escorts in order to pay for their college education, any model appearing on BSB has come to this choice of making themself available sexualy for pay with other men. Today, we have mothers who need to take care of their children but, instead, must place them in day care in order to have an income, regardless of how good it is for their own children. Whether any BSB model is honestly financially needy or not, or just the script they were given, members have no objective way of determining who is "really desperate" or not.
LIFE IS FULL OF TOUGH CHOICES AND COMPROMISES THAT MOST PEOPLE REALLY PREFER NOT TO MAKE, IF WE LIVED IN A PERFECT WORLD!
First, I say make peace with yourself and then the world around you, but don't blame others for your informed choices made as an adult.
Best of luck to you Jimmy!
Sincerely
Stimpy
