Dustin Actually was Gay

[parisnoyd]

I hope the guys he fucked with out a condom are ok............

Many of you saw those vids.

I saw a guy on the slippery slope. I'm not surprised this happened to him, but I do think it is a tragedy. A tragedy that a human being had so little respect for his life, or that of any other human being.

David has described who and how Dustin was as a person. Some good. Quite a bit not so good.

He reminds me of the guys that called me faggot and queer and hated that girls they couldn't have had sex with me...

I hope he is at peace in the after life, far more than he was in this one....

 

[ctbigbear]

David, the fact that you actually care about the models comes across in the videos, and that may be a reason I keep subscribing to this website. As a rule I don't like off-camera voices in porn, but I always appreciate yours. You remind me of coach, pushing them to do more, but still repecting them.

 

[buttsniffer]

Same here.. I ended up trying to help my buddies escape back in the day, and we all ended up helping each other.. I would find my vid partners OD'ing coming to work, and we'd have to try to sober them up before we could shoot. How many nights have I sat up with a cute boy, who's crying his eyes out because his mind is fucked up---he's straight as hell, but the gay sex sells tons of money. My number when I was at UCLA was in somebody's wallet, and I would get calls in the middle of the night from the cops.. I'd race all over West Holly trying to get to my boys, and they'd be gone when I got there. 3 days later, they'd show up at a shoot bruised and beat up. It hurt me to the bone. The drugs, the idol worship, all of it. The best thing me and my buds did was all slowly, but surely.. migrate away from So Cal. The biz out out there ate us up, and spit us out. Of the 25 or 30 of us that made that stupid studio its money, only 7 of us remain. SEVEN. And we're all in our 50's now. Only one is still out west (he is a news reporter in Sacramento), I'm in Chattanooga, another is in Charlotte, another in Atlanta, still another in the Raleigh-Durham area, and one is in the Cincinnati area. More than half of our original crew is dead.. overdoses, AIDS, 6 of them were shot to death (both in drug situations and domestic situations), 2 stabbed to death.. etc. The list reads like an obituary of the damned.. nice, rock-gorgeous, cocky-as-hell, know-it-all boys who thought the world should be on its knees at their feet. The real world ended up crushing them beneath its feet.

I did gather from your managerial posts about Andrew, that someone was trying to "school" him, but you just never know what which head is listening..the big one or the little one. I'm glad to know that you all did talk to him and warn him about the dangers of getting too cocky. You did your job.. you could not live his life for him. When I modeled in So Cal, NOBODY told us a thing. We got paid for a few hours' work, and that was the end of it, until the phone rang again. It is, after all, a business. But it is good to know that times have changed, and that somebody out there on the managerial side, does care about the guys. Back in my day, we had to console each other. Our group made a ton of money.. I don't even know if any of our films and vids are still out there.. we were transitioning to tape, but our management types were getting crowded out fast.

I still dabble with vids sometimes with redneck friends of mine here in the South, got tons of tape, but none for sale (you know.. once a queer, always a queer).. but along the way, I've had to bail out some of my friends because they can't seem to separate fiction from reality. The best thing me and a few of the guys I played with, was get away from So Cal. We all talk frequently and are the best of friends.. all single, a few of us divorced.

What I'm afraid of, the teen and 20-something Andrew's of the business are still out there, still partying, still vulnerable, making tons of money, still not believing their "good fortune," and still fucking up. Please... you and Eddie.. don't stop making the vid's.. they're hot. I enjoy the hell out of them. But please.. don't give up talking to these boys about the consequences of letting the fame and fortune go to their heads. If you all don't do it, nobody else will.

I wish I could help you talk to them. Maybe let them hear it from somebody who's been at the bottom, looking up. You and Eddie cannot reach all of them, but if just ONE of them starts talking about life in the fast lane and what it's doing to him, trust me.. that's the time to jump in and take them aside. I know.. I've been through it, back when there was no helpful advice at all. It's kinda sad in a way. The sex is good, the vid's sell, but if Dude cannot handle the success.......

Sorry to bend your ear so long, but this stuff takes me way back. And it still scares the hell out of me that some really wonderful, good-looking dudes that you think can take the pressure, can't. And you don't know it.... until it's too late to help them.

 

[tampa24]

Wow!

 

[remi46420]

To David and all Broke Straight Boys affiliates

I Knew this was going to happen and I anticipated that the assumption were going to fly....when Dustin started filming with our studio he came to us like many of the models you see here on the site. The apply and they come here as curious models...Dustin, was with plenty of females but had an interest in doing stuff with males.

Just like many models and I have stated many times on various threads, some models come here, they are curious and when we place them in front of the camera, we film them having sex with guys and they make the money, some models feel very comfortable doing gay sex and become "gay for pay". This is very common in the porn world. Straight guys or Curious guys or Bi guys want to ulitimatily do straight porn, but when the realize the pay in straight porn sucks, they think they can do gay porn.

Some guys do well and feel comfortable doing gay porn and discover a side of them that they never felt before and go to other studios and do gay porn. Some just try it once and never to be seen again.

In Dustin's case, he came to use curious...he worked with us for a year. We filmed him and he really didn't care for doing gay sex. He wouldn't bottom, he never bottomed, he didn't like sucking dick and his cum shots were awful. We liked Dustin a lot because off camera he was a charming individual and since he was getting his fame and glory here on Broke Straight Boys, he would go to both straight and gay bars. In the gay bars all the femme gay boys would throw themselves to Dustin and he loved the attention and the femme gay boys would fall in love with Dustin. The truth of the fact was Dustin was a "player", he was a nice guy...but he had more then one boyfriend and had several girlfriends while filming here on Broke Straight Boys He would piss off the boys because he would play them for fools, the gay boys would be in love with Dustin and he fuck them, have them suck his dick and then leave them for the next boy that would fuck him and suck....he didn't love the boys, he didn't care for the boys he fucked. It was just fucking to him. His romantic side was with females and he had plenty of females as well and he treated the females the same way. Dustin was afraid of commitment and didn't want to settle down. Dustin loved to be in the fast lane, play hard and party hard and he charmed a lot of people. Dustin was a great guy to be around and party with. He loved to drink and get super drunk, he loved smoking pot and getting real high and he was the attention and the life of the party. He also loved bringing attention to himself, he didn't want to work or go to school. He had a "sugar daddy" that paid for his house and car and other things as well. Dustin was a type of person, that he would do anything for you and he was a cool guy...but if anyone would offer him money or if there was a way for him to get money, he was there. It didn't matter to Dustin if he had a sugar daddy or a sugar momma, just as long as his rent was being paid...he didn't care. Just as long Dustin was able to party and have his fun...he didn't care.

Dustin growing up didn't come from a rich family, he was a troubled kid and was in & out of juvi several times. He was street smart and knew how to survive. Unfortunately since he wanted to party hard, play hard and live life and the fast lane, it caught up with him as a result an untimely death.

When Dustin first came to us, he was raw, but the fame, the glory and the attention got to him and that was his addiction. He wanted his fame and glory and party hard and in the porn life, he was able to do it. We recognized Dustin's path when we filmed for us at Broke Straight Boys..he got "cocky", rude, nasty, all he wanted to do is party, drink and smoke pot...after a while, he started getting bald, he was getting fat and he was becoming arrogant towards Eddie and I and the other models...he really didn't want to do gay sex anymore so when his contract was up, we didn't renew it and we sent him on his way.

Apparently, he just couldn't get a job and/or go to school, he had to continue living the fast life. He figured since he was so popular on Broke Straight Boys that he would be able to work with other studios. That is were he found an agent, the agent had a difficult time finding him work. When he did work with other gay studios, again he was arrogant and nasty thinking he was some gift from god. The other studios used him but never had him back, the agent dumped him and then he went to another agent and that agent dumped him as well. He did get some work by himself doing some minor porn gigs here and there but nothing major...he turned to selling drugs, thus leading him to what happen to his life.

Although I love Dustin and he was a wonderful person, he was a lazy dumb ass for not getting his life in order. Dustin was a smart guy and he had some money in the bank. His mother wanted him to move back home and go to school, but he refused and he couldn't live a normal life and get a job and go to school so that is why I say he's a dumb ass for not getting his life in order and leaving us the way he did. Its sad but this is what happens to some of the porn models in this industry....it can gobble you up, and spit you out.

If you don't die, you get into trouble with the law, you get arrested or some crazy shit happens...this is not the case for most models...most models do porn, make money, have fun and go to school or get a job...but some just love the fame, glory, the porn life and the fast life and all its glory...and its sad.

I havent posted on here in a while because to be honest I don't have a perfectly consistent membership with this site. That said this is my favorite site however I am a college student and I have tuition, rent etc to pay for, so I cant afford an extra bill all the time.

However, I must say, the past few days I've come to the forum and checked a couple of things out, but when I saw this post from you David I must say I was nodding my head in agreement the whole time. Its very good that when needed, management in a site can step in and offer these detailed explanations to members. Especially when they have great insight like this one from david did. When I see these down-to-earth postings telling it like it is it makes me happy because you realize that there are people who care.
Obviously David would not have had as much to say if he didnt care.

As far as Dustin's progression towards his death, it would be an interesting thing to know what was going on in his head. I am a Psychology and Sociology major in college and I must say that through my studies and life experience, the way David describes the situation in this post is excellent. It provides a good basis for us to understand how Dustin's story progressed. Now of course, they say they didnt have much contact with him in the last year, but David did such a good job of explaining everything that I think we can all see where he was headed at this point.

I have seen these types of things happen to many people, not necessarily in the porn industry but as a teenager and young adult growing up in Brooklyn, NY, I knew a lot of people who died, went to rehab, or went to jail. David is right. Some people you can help and some you cant. I've had friends that I've been able to help stop taking ecstasy, coke, etc. but not everyone is a fix. I know people who always said yea ur right I should stop but they never do. Some people are harder to get to than others. This may have been the case with Dustin.

Thank you David for giving us your take on these events and others and for being an excellent voice for Broke Straight Boys and a listener as well.

 

[LesterM]

I owe my life in part to his and others' activism. I share his anger, his isolation from the gay establishment, his loathing of the bullshit of the Human Rights Campaign, his frustration that the closet still exists, and his view that the biggest obstacle to gay equality is the self-doubt of so many homosexuals. The gay community is also, alas, criminally indifferent to its history. The memory of the plague has been wiped clean in millions of young minds. Because we do not have our own children, the lessons of our collective past are far more vulnerable. And the kids have moved on. That they barely know who Kramer is any more tells you a lot about their callowness, shallowness and also the success of the movement he helped galvanize. If all political careers end in failure, Larry's is no exception. But it is the failure of all those who helped bring about success.-- Andrew Sullivan on Larry Kramer