Interesting thread, how I missed it can only be explained by being real busy at work and not spending as much time here on
Broke Straight Boys No excuses so I shall slap myself.
There are some quite emotive posts on here and most seem to be pro oral to anal which surprises me because there are lots more enjoyable things that can be done apart from those two. It all depends whether or not one is referring to interaction between 2 partners or one off sex between strangers such as the vids we watch in here.
If it's between 2 partners - aka what RunningScorpio was referring to, then if your partner truley loves and respects you, when it comes to anal he should be able to tell if it's hurting you and he should stop or take it a lot slower. My first anal experience was with my first long term partner of 2 years, he was kind and gentle, and never pushed me into anal sex, I just said I wanted it. However, prior to that there was lots of going to dinner, cinema, chatting, cuddling, kissing, going for walks, just general getting to know each other which cannot be faked - unlike some movies. Sex wise, the kissing and cuddling got more intense and progressed to getting to know each others bodies, finding out each others sensitive parts, an exploration into the unknow but highly enjoyable. Come penetration we were both so aroused that we didn't require too much lube but it did help. My bf took it nice and slow - he was quite big about 8" - and each time he pushed in a bit deeper, he kept whispering "are you okay" and things like that. So yes it was an enjoyable experience but only because of the aforementioned build up.
We had much more enjoyable anal in the following 2 years but also had a lot of non anal sex too. It all depends in what mood you both are in but if one didnt want to do anal then the other always agreed and we did something else just as enjoyable.
Sorry for longish post xx
