You know what? I'm sorry I got so "hackled". It's no excuse, but I'm tired and had a stupid day in business. Shouldn't be working on a Sunday anyway. I reread my post before posting and thought it said what I wanted it to say, so I am glad to read your reply and see you take the time to very kindly explain yourself. Now--my turn: The truth is, I at times agree with you, but I think I've had the tendency to lump a lot of the anti-jimmy sentiments into one big basket. You do seem to try to be kind in your more recent comments to/about him, but I think that a lot of folks commenting here want something out of straight boys/men that sometimes just isn't there. When it is there, we get a little spoiled and seem to want all straight guys to show a real willingness to try hard to take a dick up the butt or down the throat, show tenderness to another guy, and even express emotion (great kissing scenes) with another guy, like we think "why not--it's not going to kill 'em". I'm one guy who goes kind of crazy when a hot straight dude all of a sudden reaches over and starts groping another guy's dick, or even just his crotch through his pants, much less anything ELSE! Like probably anyone else visiting this site, I REALLY LOVE that stuff. But if a guy just hasn't got it in him to do that and be that way, I don't feel we should rake him over the coals for that. Unnecessary roughness isn't even tolerated in the NFL, and it does not turn me on to see it in a gay sex site, straight guys or no. Sure I think Jimmy's got it in him to be real roughneck, but I think a lot of what we see isn't all his doing and we should maybe express our disapproval to admin instead of getting so vitriolic with the performer. And I guess folks may realize by now that for some reason I have kind of a soft spot for Jimmy. I don't really know why for sure; I like his looks, his manner in general, and the fact that he has, at times, shown some ability to relate in a humane way with his performance partners. He's certainly capable of defending himself so he doesn't really need me or anyone else to come to his aid, but he has expressed appreciation for some of the things I have said. I truly hope admin doesn't give him the boot because of a few really loud members on this forum. I think he's a fairly nice guy, actually. And I'm not really attracted "nice" people, per se. Maybe he just strikes some kind of balance for me.
It does seem to me that you've been trying to offer advice, solicited or un-, in a kind way lately. I just never thought of this forum as a place to tell performers what they should or shouldn't be doing. That, to me, is the director's job. If we don't like it, tell the director. I really feel a little embarrassed for some folks who get on a high horse and think they're in a spot to ridicule, admonish, and sometimes very crudely criticize a performer.
Like I said, I tended to lump all the negative commentary in the same basket. I think most of yours was probably well-intended.
Peace to you. Friends?
PS--It's entertainment to me, as well. I never thought I'd spend this much time writing anything to anyone "on some porn site". I guess I've thought people should just try to get a real life. But you know what? I find myself caring about what other members say and feel, and certainly the performers, who are the reason we're all here, deserve to be treated with a degree of respect and not be put in a position of dodging the mud-slinging.