Can you have sex with other men and still identify as straight?

[BrokeStraightBoys]

I've read quite a few articles about this but this has an interesting perspective. I thought this would be good to share and discuss because this is always a discussion with Broke Straight Boys

Can you have sex with other men and still identify as straight?

Ed Dyson meets a new generation of straight men who are keeping an open mind when it comes to same-sex sexual encounters.

www.attitude.co.uk

 

[chac54]

I skimmed the article and IMHO, there is no wrong answer, for some people it may be black and white, others shades of grey.

As a gay man I can appreciate the beauty of women, but I don't have any sexual urges when I see a pretty gal; but for the right price would I have sex with a lady (straight-for-pay and it wouldn't be cheap ), does that make me bi? I don't know. All I know is me and that when I see a shirtless hunk jogging down the street I nearly have a rear end collision with the car in front of me that stopped to make a turn. I have no right to judge how someone else labels themselves.

 

[kgmets2]

As Mikeyank has stated and I agree, any straight gay for pay guy who hits the fifty gay porn scene mark is officially bisexual!

 

[br6205]

As Mikeyank has stated and I agree, any straight gay for pay guy who hits the fifty gay porn scene mark is officially bisexual!

Does it really matter. I may have been married and had three sons but still only liked guys. In a physical sense that made me bi but in my urges & mental sense I was always gay.

 

[Jaybifla]

The one guy with the tattoos on his arm, Jacob, was on a site called “the casting room” and did a fuck scene with a guy on a site called “the fucking room”. His name is Fred on both.

 

[mikeyank]

The one guy with the tattoos on his arm, Jacob, was on a site called “the casting room” and did a fuck scene with a guy on a site called “the fucking room”. His name is Fred on both.

Thanks Jay. You are the man!

 

[mikeyank]

Does it really matter. I may have been married and had three sons but still only liked guys. In a physical sense that made me bi but in my urges & mental sense I was always gay.

It does matter here because this is the forum for a website called Broke Straight Boys I thank Mark fit bringing this article to our attention

 

[mikeyank]

As Mikeyank has stated and I agree, any straight gay for pay guy who hits the fifty gay porn scene mark is officially bisexual!

In my opinion, there are degrees on the spectrum of sexuality. Big Cliff who only appeared here in a solo and got sucked off by Chad and fucked a girl in a bonus clip, which Mark posted and later removed, is as close to straight as we’ve had had here on Broke Straight Boys

 

[br6205]

Whatever fits your view is the correct one.

 

[Enchantedlover]

You don't have to be gay to get your Dick sucked but sticking a dick in your ass or putting it in an ass means you're bi. That's my old school way of thinking. There is a new breed out there!!! However, I've asked my straight friends is there any amount of money that can make you have gay sex! I was really trying to get my hot friend to answer so I could take out a loan and make it happen!!!!! They did all say no!!!! Rude!!!

 

[Arckangel]

I guess so. Some men may prefer women but agree to have intercourse w/ men just for fun.

 

[mikeyank]

You don't have to be gay to get your Dick sucked but sticking a dick in your ass or putting it in an ass means you're bi. That's my old school way of thinking. There is a new breed out there!!! However, I've asked my straight friends is there any amount of money that can make you have gay sex! I was really trying to get my hot friend to answer so I could take out a loan and make it happen!!!!! They did all say no!!!! Rude!!!

I am old school as you are, Enchantedlover. And I’ve always thought that a guy who considers himself straight and allows a man to suck his dick is my kind of straight guy. Remember, the largest sex organ in our body is our brain. And we all process sexuality through that organ.

 

[legend0007]

I identify as gay.

But saying that, I don't think it should really exist.

Why are we different to another guy based on such an arbitrary factor such as who we're attracted to? It is surely arbitrary, in day to day life, because it's not as important, as for example, do you prefer sugar in your coffee? It's far more important to know this about somebody than if they prefer cock or pussy, because that's the information people are more likely to need.

I've said this before and people have gotten offended, as I know we like to have a collective identity. I appreciate that. I hope nobody is offended.

But I don't think people are different based on their sexuality, and just wanted to throw this into the discussion. I think when the current revolution has finished, in a few years, there won't be a gay or straight. I'm not saying people will all mix, but if you like guys, you'll feel fine flirting with other men safe in the knowledge that they won't be offended if they're not attracted to you. I can see it happening, hopefully in my lifetime.

So I think in answer to the question, people can have sex with whoever they want and they shouldn't bother identifying as anything.

 

[br6205]

I identify as gay.

But saying that, I don't think it should really exist.

Why are we different to another guy based on such an arbitrary factor such as who we're attracted to? It is surely arbitrary, in day to day life, because it's not as important, as for example, do you prefer sugar in your coffee? It's far more important to know this about somebody than if they prefer cock or pussy, because that's the information people are more likely to need.

I've said this before and people have gotten offended, as I know we like to have a collective identity. I appreciate that. I hope nobody is offended.

But I don't think people are different based on their sexuality, and just wanted to throw this into the discussion. I think when the current revolution has finished, in a few years, there won't be a gay or straight. I'm not saying people will all mix, but if you like guys, you'll feel fine flirting with other men safe in the knowledge that they won't be offended if they're not attracted to you. I can see it happening, hopefully in my lifetime.

So I think in answer to the question, people can have sex with whoever they want and they shouldn't bother identifying as anything.

Agree. It is not what you call yourself but how you use what your have! As the saying says it is a terrible waste to not use your mind and equally so concerning your body.

 

[peterh6308]

I guess I'm a little "old school" as well. I think everyone is curious about same gender sex, but I believe the majority have just thought it about but don't act on it! I think the ones who have experimented have done so once and they're done. I feel anytime over once then you're Bi/Bi curious. My personnel experience is my partner of 20 years. We were best friends, I was married but knew I was gay inside and I had a secret boyfriend. William was as straight as you could be and was just fine with my secret side. After about a year of me teasing him about us fooling around we got drunk one night and he let me suck his dick and that led to him fucking me. He made it clear that this was a one time thing, but my love for my best friend quickly turned into "in love with him". I eventually told him my feelings for him and he brushed it off and told me to get over it. I also confessed to my wife about the real me. She was upset, but somewhat relieved it was another man and not a woman! I moved into my own apartment and my boyfriend and I no longer had to sneak around. However William didn't like him and told me it was because he was pretty and kind of fem and to needy. I am naturally masculine and William and I had the same interests as you can imagine that best friends do. We fished, hunted, golfed, played tennis and shooting pool drinking pitchers at the tavern. I couldn't let go of my feelings I had for my friend, and one day I told him. I knew it was a possibility that this confession could end our friendship, but he had to know how I felt. He told me that he was straight and I know that so I have to stop this shit! A few months later we planned a dudes 3 day weekend at my apt and the second night he initiated contact. I told him to stop it would really fuck up my mental state, but we continued. He never left after that weekend and we built a life together as partners. It wasn't easy defining us in the beginning, but we took care of each and that friends love never left and that was the foundation for him eventually falling in love with me. He told me "I don't know all about this, but I know that know one will ever love me as much as you" So I'm gay and my partner was Bi.....

 

[br6205]

I guess I'm a little "old school" as well. I think everyone is curious about same gender sex, but I believe the majority have just thought it about but don't act on it! I think the ones who have experimented have done so once and they're done. I feel anytime over once then you're Bi/Bi curious. My personnel experience is my partner of 20 years. We were best friends, I was married but knew I was gay inside and I had a secret boyfriend. William was as straight as you could be and was just fine with my secret side. After about a year of me teasing him about us fooling around we got drunk one night and he let me suck his dick and that led to him fucking me. He made it clear that this was a one time thing, but my love for my best friend quickly turned into "in love with him". I eventually told him my feelings for him and he brushed it off and told me to get over it. I also confessed to my wife about the real me. She was upset, but somewhat relieved it was another man and not a woman! I moved into my own apartment and my boyfriend and I no longer had to sneak around. However William didn't like him and told me it was because he was pretty and kind of fem and to needy. I am naturally masculine and William and I had the same interests as you can imagine that best friends do. We fished, hunted, golfed, played tennis and shooting pool drinking pitchers at the tavern. I couldn't let go of my feelings I had for my friend, and one day I told him. I knew it was a possibility that this confession could end our friendship, but he had to know how I felt. He told me that he was straight and I know that so I have to stop this shit! A few months later we planned a dudes 3 day weekend at my apt and the second night he initiated contact. I told him to stop it would really fuck up my mental state, but we continued. He never left after that weekend and we built a life together as partners. It wasn't easy defining us in the beginning, but we took care of each and that friends love never left and that was the foundation for him eventually falling in love with me. He told me "I don't know all about this, but I know that know one will ever love me as much as you" So I'm gay and my partner was Bi.....

Thanks for sharing. How as the sex with your wife & did you have kids. I ask so I can compare your experiences with mine to widen my knowledge.

 

[peterh6308]

Thanks for sharing. How as the sex with your wife & did you have kids. I ask so I can compare your experiences with mine to widen my knowledge.

The sex was fine, I did love her. I will admit though I often imagined that she was a hot dude though.. 8-10 years into our relationship William told me he wanted kids, not adopted but his own. Logan was born in 1998 and Lily was born in 1999. I was there the day they were born and even though William has been gone for 14 years the kids and I are still in each other's lives.

 

[br6205]

The sex was fine, I did love her. I will admit though I often imagined that she was a hot dude though.. 8-10 years into our relationship William told me he wanted kids, not adopted but his own. Logan was born in 1998 and Lily was born in 1999. I was there the day they were born and even though William has been gone for 14 years the kids and I are still in each other's lives.

So your children where with your beloved husband . It is good you have the kids. I am sorry you lost your life partner.

 

[GoneWithTheWind]

I think there is being gay and “doing” gay. Any sexual activity between same sex is doing, and seeking out the same sex for intimacy to fulfill an emotional need is being gay.

Either one is possible without the other, such as you can be gay and not have sex and you can do gay sex without seeking out men to fulfill an emotional need.

The problem with my definition is the result depends on intent, and even the subject might not understand why they are doing something.

I find bi as the most interesting, since men and woman are so much different emotionally and somehow either can fulfill the same emotional needs.

Attraction is a whole different thing, and I feel it’s only needed to get the ball rolling. I very much see myself as demisexual but if things click real well I can feel that close emotional connection even tho it doesn’t actually exist, which I attribute to attraction. That attraction is very much in favor of men so it makes the likely hood of a relationship with a woman very small but not 0%.

Back to the main question tho, if a male is having sex with another male for any other reason then to fulfill an emotional need then I don’t feel like they are ever really gay.

Porn is funny, because they are only there for the money, there are a lot of jobs that I wouldn’t do. Porn isn’t easy work and the money isn’t super amazing, so I believe if they keep going back for more then they are getting some kind of emotional enjoyment out of the experience.

I wrote a lot.

 

[br6205]

I think there is being gay and “doing” gay. Any sexual activity between same sex is doing, and seeking out the same sex for intimacy to fulfill an emotional need is being gay.

Either one is possible without the other, such as you can be gay and not have sex and you can do gay sex without seeking out men to fulfill an emotional need.

The problem with my definition is the result depends on intent, and even the subject might not understand why they are doing something.

I find bi as the most interesting, since men and woman are so much different emotionally and somehow either can fulfill the same emotional needs.

Attraction is a whole different thing, and I feel it’s only needed to get the ball rolling. I very much see myself as demisexual but if things click real well I can feel that close emotional connection even tho it doesn’t actually exist, which I attribute to attraction. That attraction is very much in favor of men so it makes the likely hood of a relationship with a woman very small but not 0%.

Back to the main question tho, if a male is having sex with another male for any other reason then to fulfill an emotional need then I don’t feel like they are ever really gay.

Porn is funny, because they are only there for the money, there are a lot of jobs that I wouldn’t do. Porn isn’t easy work and the money isn’t super amazing, so I believe if they keep going back for more then they are getting some kind of emotional enjoyment out of the experience.

I wrote a lot.

I have come to realize there is no simply all inclusive answer. As each individual is different, so how & why they do things is different & may be complex. That certainly is true with sex. So instead of pondering on the question of sexuality I look at each porn scene involving men are they performing well & if so does it really matter what the personal preferences are. For sites like Broke Straight Boys the guys should seem to appear straight, not to say acting effeminate shows the natural preference of the individual.