Dearest
JASON,
Welcome back - and it is so wonderful to hear from you, again! As you know, you are the reason I returned to
Broke Straight Boys, after a long hiatus: and, I am so glad I did so. Every moment you have shared here on video, is rapturous - given that my boyfriend lives 1500 miles away, you have helped me survive many a long, arctic, night ;-) But even MORE, the gentle pleasure of enjoying your bright, witty, but still caring and lovely
conversation. . . has made this whole subscription, worthwhile, for me.
Though I am a little late to this party (I apologize - my furnace was malfunctioning, which is not a small matter in Canada, where it is presently minus 31 Fahrenheit): I, too, would like to congratulate you on your promotion. It's wonderful; I know it is entirely deserved; and, I am certain that there will be more to follow, in your career. You are bright; you are cheerful; you are articulate; you are skilled, and charming, and empathetic. It is no wonder that your employers want to make an increasing use of your talents.
Jason, I read Stowe's concerns about your future career with great appreciation and care, and am not quite certain what to say about it, at all. Yes, for most of us, for most of our lives, having been a model in erotic video was surely something that could have precluded a variety of careers. (And I think this is still the case, particularly in the realm of careers in elementary and secondary education. And likely will be the case for a good while to come, in such areas as the political arena, for example.) So - Stowe's concerns are definitely to be taken seriously: and, I appreciate his selflessness, in caring about you,
first. That is admirable.
My sense is that, as a (rather celebrated) model, with numbers of images and videos available online, this is an issue with which you may or will have to contend, either now or in the future - whether you choose to retire from modelling now, or in the future. As I know you know, there are a couple of things you must do. First, you must choose your employment possibilities with regard to these risks. Second, you must have an appropriate communications strategy in place (nothing mendacious, simply sincere, but effective) to deal with prospective employers who have questions.
I know you are capable of this, and furthermore: our society, in North America, has changed a good deal, lately. People (especially young people) are much more tolerant than they were, even 10 years ago. And honesty, sincerity, and talent, open a great many doors, that formerly were slammed shut. While I think I can guarantee that you might have difficulties if you ran in your local primary, to become the Republican nominee for the House of Representatives - even POLITICS is not completely off-limits for people who have worked in adult industries, these days.
(In my city, in the last civic election, there was a former erotic model - turned businessman - who was nominated on the "conservative" side of the ticket, for a certain ward. Granted, Canada is significantly more liberal than most of the U.S.A., and, he lost - but he was NOMINATED, and that never would have happened, even 10 years ago. Also, former Senator Scott Brown, of Massachusetts, was - famously - a former
Playgirl model!)
Jason, I am not meaning to give you a false sense of optimism about all this stuff: there is surely still a stigma in some people's minds (which I think is wrong) about being a model, especially on an erotic site. And it can be a problem - sometimes a BIG problem, depending on the field in which you work, and the attitudes of one's employers. But attitudes are changing, gradually but significantly, and I think that if you work hard, and explain yourself well, there will be good opportunities for you, in your career going forward.
At any rate, think about it hard, and make the best decision you can. Stowe is RIGHT to be concerned for you - and, in this respect, he is probably a better friend than I am! - but, I think that, having taken the plunge into adult work some time ago, you will be able to overcome the challenges to your future career.
Whatever you do, you know that I (and countless others) will always be on your side.
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Re: "Condomless videos" - I do not
want, or need to see
Jason Matthews, do one of those.
I know (and accept, and am GLAD) that
Broke Straight Boys management has promised to use the
best and most current testing available, in the
most stringent way. And I know that, in some instances, this may be even a safer option, for many models. And that's a good thing.
BUT - all of us OLD gay men, who lived through the worst of the AIDS crisis (and some of the younger ones, too, like James, the lovely young doctor from Ireland - I have a lot of doctor friends, too, and I know they would agree with James) know that condoms are the best first line of defence available: so why not make use of them?
As I said in another post, I really do not GET why people are so crazed for condomless videos, anyway: at MOST, you get TWO SECONDS before the PENIS ENTERS, and TWO SECONDS after it EXITS - how
thrilling is that??? I think the "bareback" thing, at least on video, is all a product of people's IMAGINATIONS, and recollections of things THEY have felt. If so (I think) let them do it with a partner THEY know and trust, and not ask for it as entertainment. . . . But, sexual fixations are, by definition, not rational, and people want, what they WANT.
Again, I think that, as described,
Broke Straight Boys's condomless testing regime is going to be both strict and effective - so people can watch these videos without guilt, or fear, for their favourite models.
HOWEVER, I wouldn't do it myself, not even with Mr. K., the man I LOVE - and I would never recommend it, for a friend. And, needless to say, Jason, I consider YOU a FRIEND. (Of course, you are an ICON and an IDOL, as well ;-) So, I hope you won't do it.
Not to mention, I really don't NEED this, in a
Jason Matthews video! Every video you have ever done has made me splooge four or five times in a row (your video with Blake made me HIT the CEILING,
literally!!!): so what difference does a few inches (or, in your case, MANY inches) of RUBBER that you NEVER SEE MAKE, in terms of that kind of BLISS????? I submit. . . .
NONE. . . AT. . . ALL!!!
So, Jason, come back, play safe, and please do ANOTHER scene with Blake - - - and take some time to teach
Adam Baer, and
Paul Canon, and
Johnny Forza, and
Tyler Blaze. . . . how
beautiful sex can be!!! (Mark, and Sha, and Clay - are you listening??? LOL!!!)
Hey, J. ~ Little Richard once said, "I am the
originator, the
emancipator, the architect of rock-'n-roll!!!" Well, I think the very SAME thing could be said of
Jason Matthews, as an inspiration on
Broke Straight Boys, and
College Dudes You are WILDLY sexy; incredibly sweet; magnificently intelligent; and. . . simply put. . . a
STAR.
I'm glad I got to live in the 21st century, just to know you a little, man ;-))) You ARE that old-time rock-and-roll ;-)
Your fan always,
"Ambivalent" XOXOXOXOXOXOXO
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SsSVcRYh8dE
P.S. In full disclosure, re: the clip: Yeah, I know that Tom Cruise is a MASSIVE jerk, these days, and have renounced him. (Scientology is pure EVIL, as far as I am concerned, and has got to be the nastiest and most expensive way of covering up for being gay - - - Tom, and John. . . )
But, back in the day, when I was 16 and first went to university, the first movie I went to was "Risky Business". I made the mistake of wearing khakis - wow, khakis are figuring so prominently in my recent posts, I think I should cut it out! - and, after I got done seeing Tom dance in his underwear, I had a big, HUGE, DARK, wet, spot on them. . . My friend Scott said, "A - liked the movie, huh? That Rebecca de Mornay was pretty cute, huh???" I mumbled, "yeah."
Still love Bob Seger, though!!! LOL!
