Hey Everyone,
Since the forum has been pretty dead for a couple days I figured I would try to stir up some conversation that doesn't involve models or porn. Most of us have at least the basics of the Sandusky scandal. People will be free to correct on any details of the story that I don't have right or that are in some dispute. For instance it's no surprise to me that the assistant coach is now changing his story to say that he went to the police and they didn't follow up.
Anyway... As I understand it there were at least 2 instances in which there was a witness to what Sandusky did. One was by a janitor and the other was by the assistant coach. As I understand it, and I could be wrong...the janitor walked in and saw a rape in progress. He did not stop it personally. I imagine that it stopped when Sandusky saw another adult in the shower area. The exact details don't matter as much for the direction I am taking this.
I had this conversation at a dinner party with some much older gay friends last week. I thought I would share some of the conclusions of our conversation. What galls me the most about the behavior of the 2 witnesses to 2 different crime scenes...was that both men waited 24 hours at least before they reported it to anyone in some kind of authority. The janitor saw it, went home, thought about it overnight, maybe talked to his father, and then told his boss later the next day.
As reported in the news the assistant coach saw it, and "supposedly" stopped the crime in progress. Then he dutifully went home, called his father, thought about it overnight, and then went and told coach Paterno. Now he says that he went to the police. But I'm very skeptical of that.
Long story short I'm sure that that would be such a shock to walk in on, that any sane person would be at a momentary loss. One would think, "What the hell am I supposed to do about this?" I know the answer now is that you put all that fear and revulsion aside and you dial 911. Plain and simple. Whether you're straight, gay, bi, tri or whatever...the answer is that you immediately involve the police and law enforcement. You don't go home and leave that child traumatized with no grownup to stand up for his rights. You don't go to your dad. You don't go to your priest or pastor. (Until later maybe) You don't go to your boss the next day... You call 911.
I admit that I would have fears about being sucked into a scandal with my name in the papers as a witness. And the thought of having to testify in criminal court is not a pleasant one for most law abiding people. But the course of action of immediately involving the police is the right thing to do. Having an ethical quandary like the one on display in this instance is illuminating. I want to be angry at these 2 men who didn't report this. And I am. Because it was stupid not to. It was criminal not to.
On the other hand I must admit to myself that the only reason I know for certain that calling the police is what I would do if this ever happened to me...is because I have had the opportunity to be the Monday morning quarterback and think the whole thing through. These 2 guys did not have that luxury.
Any thoughts?
Since the forum has been pretty dead for a couple days I figured I would try to stir up some conversation that doesn't involve models or porn. Most of us have at least the basics of the Sandusky scandal. People will be free to correct on any details of the story that I don't have right or that are in some dispute. For instance it's no surprise to me that the assistant coach is now changing his story to say that he went to the police and they didn't follow up.
Anyway... As I understand it there were at least 2 instances in which there was a witness to what Sandusky did. One was by a janitor and the other was by the assistant coach. As I understand it, and I could be wrong...the janitor walked in and saw a rape in progress. He did not stop it personally. I imagine that it stopped when Sandusky saw another adult in the shower area. The exact details don't matter as much for the direction I am taking this.
I had this conversation at a dinner party with some much older gay friends last week. I thought I would share some of the conclusions of our conversation. What galls me the most about the behavior of the 2 witnesses to 2 different crime scenes...was that both men waited 24 hours at least before they reported it to anyone in some kind of authority. The janitor saw it, went home, thought about it overnight, maybe talked to his father, and then told his boss later the next day.
As reported in the news the assistant coach saw it, and "supposedly" stopped the crime in progress. Then he dutifully went home, called his father, thought about it overnight, and then went and told coach Paterno. Now he says that he went to the police. But I'm very skeptical of that.
Long story short I'm sure that that would be such a shock to walk in on, that any sane person would be at a momentary loss. One would think, "What the hell am I supposed to do about this?" I know the answer now is that you put all that fear and revulsion aside and you dial 911. Plain and simple. Whether you're straight, gay, bi, tri or whatever...the answer is that you immediately involve the police and law enforcement. You don't go home and leave that child traumatized with no grownup to stand up for his rights. You don't go to your dad. You don't go to your priest or pastor. (Until later maybe) You don't go to your boss the next day... You call 911.
I admit that I would have fears about being sucked into a scandal with my name in the papers as a witness. And the thought of having to testify in criminal court is not a pleasant one for most law abiding people. But the course of action of immediately involving the police is the right thing to do. Having an ethical quandary like the one on display in this instance is illuminating. I want to be angry at these 2 men who didn't report this. And I am. Because it was stupid not to. It was criminal not to.
On the other hand I must admit to myself that the only reason I know for certain that calling the police is what I would do if this ever happened to me...is because I have had the opportunity to be the Monday morning quarterback and think the whole thing through. These 2 guys did not have that luxury.
Any thoughts?
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