Memories

[peterh6308]

It's hard to believe but it's been 4yrs today since I lost my William. Man time does sure fly!! It's amazing how that crucial pain I felt the last 3 times on this day has turned into happy memories of the great times we had together. 18yrs together has filled my head and heart of these memories that will last me a lifetime. I even listened to The Cure without crying! The cliche that "times does heal" is so true. I am very lucky to have had a awesome relationship and I will never forget him.

 

[mikeyank]

Thank you for sharing both the sorrow of your loss, and your joy of 18 wonderful years with us Peter. It is so true that you will never forget your wonderful relationship. We are your friends and in a way your family too here, so please always feel feel to express yourself. We are here for you, my friend.

 

[Valentine]

I am sorry that you lost him after those 18 years. But so happy that you had him for those same 18 years. My thoughts and prayers are with you today.

 

[Ms. Kianna]

Peter, it seems that you have turned a page in the grieving process, and that could be an amazing gift to you. To be able to look back and smile with love, instead of tears. My thoughts are with you today, and I wish you well.

 

[Beth]

Memories are the best thing in a relationship; they allow us to relive the finest times! I am glad you have great memories of your "one." If you would like, please share a time when you and William laughed the hardest.

 

[rrhill]

For you Peter:

 

[JLipps4u]

You know Peter, it is also so true that William lives on! His body may be gone, but he will live on for ever, in your heart and soul. And every time you share something with us about William, then we too get to know the man you loved. I encourage you dear Peter, to share William with us, a bit at a time.

To start with, how did you two meet?

 

[grace17]

Peter, while you never ever forget loved ones who have passed on, as time goes by it does get easier to let the wonderful memories flow without the crushing feeling of loss. I'm so glad to hear you're reaching that place.

Loving so deeply does make you vulnerable to all sorts of losses but it is sooooo worth it

 

[joninliverton]

My thoughts are with you Peter and hugs too xxxxxhugsxxxxx. Those 18 years must have been real special and the fact that you can listen to the Cure without putting a rope around your neck proves you've turned a corner xx

 

[tampa24]

My deepest condolences Peter on your loss. The grieving process is different for all of us. I'm so glad that you can remember him with a few smiles.

 

[peterh6308]

Thanks everyone. And yes like Andy said "we are kind of an extended family". Beth tons of fun times swirl around in my head, what stands out as I remember him right now is the the things we did the last 6 months before he died. I posted that on Blakes bucket list thread! Laughing real hard 2 things come to mind. First of all we were best friends for a couple of years so his family just thought Williams best buddy was gay. We were golfing one day with his Dad and Brother and William had his one and only hole in one on a par 3. We were all jumping around and we "accidentaly" kissed in from of them. Well we stopped and what made us laugh so hard was the expressions on his dad and bros face (very classic)haha well we were OUT now I guess as more then just friends. Second was I guess about 10yrs ago we took his 4yo daughter to her first gay pride parade, he had her on his shoulders so she could see everything and everyone and the drag queens came by. She looked around with a puzzled look on her face and finally said " those girls are ugly". hahaha Everyone around us just rolled in laughter!!! Like I said I have tons of great stuff in my head and it's funny even the bad times we went through now seem so trivial. Thanks for listening my Formite Family. xoxoxo Peter

 

[lovelumps]

Love and kisses to you, Peter! <3<3<3

 

[Valentine]

Thanks everyone. And yes like Andy said "we are kind of an extended family". Beth tons of fun times swirl around in my head, what stands out as I remember him right now is the the things we did the last 6 months before he died. I posted that on Blakes bucket list thread! Laughing real hard 2 things come to mind. First of all we were best friends for a couple of years so his family just thought Williams best buddy was gay. We were golfing one day with his Dad and Brother and William had his one and only hole in one on a par 3. We were all jumping around and we "accidentaly" kissed in from of them. Well we stopped and what made us laugh so hard was the expressions on his dad and bros face (very classic)haha well we were OUT now I guess as more then just friends. Second was I guess about 10yrs ago we took his 4yo daughter to her first gay pride parade, he had her on his shoulders so she could see everything and everyone and the drag queens came by. She looked around with a puzzled look on her face and finally said " those girls are ugly". hahaha Everyone around us just rolled in laughter!!! Like I said I have tons of great stuff in my head and it's funny even the bad times we went through now seem so trivial. Thanks for listening my Formite Family. xoxoxo Peter

These memories are priceless. Hang on to them.

 

[underwear fun]

Peter, wishing you loads of happy memories of William.

I heard a quote on TV the other week: "people don't really die until their memories are forgotten" and I also think the relationships and acquaintances we make through our lives shape who we are so in effect people live on inside us.

Undie

 

[Beth]

Thanks everyone. And yes like Andy said "we are kind of an extended family". Beth tons of fun times swirl around in my head, what stands out as I remember him right now is the the things we did the last 6 months before he died. I posted that on Blakes bucket list thread! Laughing real hard 2 things come to mind. First of all we were best friends for a couple of years so his family just thought Williams best buddy was gay. We were golfing one day with his Dad and Brother and William had his one and only hole in one on a par 3. We were all jumping around and we "accidentaly" kissed in from of them. Well we stopped and what made us laugh so hard was the expressions on his dad and bros face (very classic)haha well we were OUT now I guess as more then just friends. Second was I guess about 10yrs ago we took his 4yo daughter to her first gay pride parade, he had her on his shoulders so she could see everything and everyone and the drag queens came by. She looked around with a puzzled look on her face and finally said " those girls are ugly". hahaha Everyone around us just rolled in laughter!!! Like I said I have tons of great stuff in my head and it's funny even the bad times we went through now seem so trivial. Thanks for listening my Formite Family. xoxoxo Peter

See, memories are the best! Thanks for sharing; I can just see William's dad tell the story of his hole in one...hahaha!

 

[peterh6308]

My thoughts are with you Peter and hugs too xxxxxhugsxxxxx. Those 18 years must have been real special and the fact that you can listen to the Cure without putting a rope around your neck proves you've turned a corner xx

Damn even 6 months ago I couldn't even listen to pictures of you without breaking down. I thought that was all I had left of him was pictures, but I was so wrong. The memories of each day the pictures were taken are priceless and they will never fade.

 

[peterh6308]

You know Peter, it is also so true that William lives on! His body may be gone, but he will live on for ever, in your heart and soul. And every time you share something with us about William, then we too get to know the man you loved. I encourage you dear Peter, to share William with us, a bit at a time.

To start with, how did you two meet?

I was 26yo and his brother and cousin were employees of mine. His brother got him a job working for the company that ours bought products from. I showed up there one morning to pick up my order and there he was standing on the loading dock with no shirt on. He was 20yo and his looks always reminded me of a young Matt Dillon and so of course I was drooling lol. We became friends and well the rest is history. Thanks again for everyones interest it fills my heart with love from my Broke Straight Boys forum friends.