slimvintage
BSB Addict
When I was bullied at age 13, the 3 older and bigger guys who couldn't stand the sight of me for at least half a dozen reasons, none of them probably even to do with sexual preference, said nary a word as they silently pummeled me, slapped me around and twisted my arm right before geometry three times a week. It only took half a minute, and made all four of us miserable. They obviously weren't any better off afterward and couldn't even look at each other as they fell back to get their breath, arrange their ducktails, tuck their shirts in and move into class. This drama took place in the backstage of the auditorium of the small town Missouri school I sometimes went to when I could (down with asthma a lot). And since it was an elective available to several grades, alternative space had to be found for the class. I learned my theorems under spotlights, with the proscenium curtains closed to the auditorium, my attackers in the front so they wouldn't have to look at the touseled, stung and disarranged victim of the anger they barely understood themselves.
My assailants never called me names for some reason. Some victims of bullying suffer the added indignity of nomenclature. But in a discussion of bullying, and hate crimes, to lose track of what a tyrant does, in favor of his vocabulary, is shortsighted. Among some overstimulated heterosexual males it seems there is a visceral, basic, unlearned repugnance toward homosexuality, almost instinctual, as in snakes and spiders. If these people are also violent and aggressive, their feelings spur them on to actions. I'd rather not sound too jesus-y, but I feel sorry for poor damned devils who hurt others out of unhappiness and rancor. I hope there is a more effective way to help them be better human beings than by silencing their ugly speech.
On the other hand I recognize that I live in a society where people are no longer beaten up and killed because of their sexual preferences. Spain has many faults but sexual tolerance is pretty widespread, marriage and all that, and gayness mostly isn't a stigma.
I wish for the country of my birth a climate in which kids like Matthew Wayne Shepard aren't executed by conflicted righteous dullards intolerant of differences among people. It seems to me there's a long way to go.
My assailants never called me names for some reason. Some victims of bullying suffer the added indignity of nomenclature. But in a discussion of bullying, and hate crimes, to lose track of what a tyrant does, in favor of his vocabulary, is shortsighted. Among some overstimulated heterosexual males it seems there is a visceral, basic, unlearned repugnance toward homosexuality, almost instinctual, as in snakes and spiders. If these people are also violent and aggressive, their feelings spur them on to actions. I'd rather not sound too jesus-y, but I feel sorry for poor damned devils who hurt others out of unhappiness and rancor. I hope there is a more effective way to help them be better human beings than by silencing their ugly speech.
On the other hand I recognize that I live in a society where people are no longer beaten up and killed because of their sexual preferences. Spain has many faults but sexual tolerance is pretty widespread, marriage and all that, and gayness mostly isn't a stigma.
I wish for the country of my birth a climate in which kids like Matthew Wayne Shepard aren't executed by conflicted righteous dullards intolerant of differences among people. It seems to me there's a long way to go.