The "Top/Bottom" dilemma - anyone else ever experience this????

[Ambivalent]

Hi, guys, I HOPE this is not the wrong place to post this. . . . but it sort of relates to video production, and the way our favorite models are cast. . . and I wonder if you have any thoughts?

I'm constitutionally (I mean in terms of my emotions, not the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms - LOL!) a bottom. So, I like to IMAGINE my favorite models topping, the most.

BUT, I have ALSO noticed that, when a model is "bottoming", you typically get a whole lot better LOOK at him, in all his glory ~ from head to toe ~ than you usually do when he is "topping": because he is all spread out there, T.S. Eliot-style, "upon the table." (Well, not aetherized, of course, though when some of the guys are topping, I'm sure it might HELP. . . ;-)

So, I sometimes don't even know what to ASK for!!! If I see one of my favorite guys topping, I get the sweet FANTASY, of imagining I'm the guy underneath. . . . But if I seem him BOTTOMING, I get to dream about his physique and beauty, from head to toe!

Anyone else ever experience this? I bet NOT. I bet I might not even get ONE response to this note, but I've been thinking about this odd little dilemma for the past 20 years, watching gay erotic video. . . and you are all so nice, I thought I would risk seeming silly, by mentioning it, here!

LOL, your sheepish,
"A" ;-)))))

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PkGrkNu6mDg

 

[joninliverton]

Indeed I do Mr Ambivalent. Furthermore I have honoured your Youtube clip to the Members Favourite Music thread on the other side. It's a bloody classic which means so much to me. If people took the title onboard then maybe the world would be a better place and people wouldn't be so greedy.

Don't feel silly mentioning anything on here, even if you don't get any responses. Yes I have imagined myself being underneath Jason or being double fucked by Jason and Max Flint Who wouldn't lol

 

[Ambivalent]

Kisses, Jon - - -

Well, I am SO glad that someone else feels that way! (I am sure that there are likely MANY who do, but sometimes people can be a little shy about SAYING SO, in public ;-)

Thanks, also, for liking the music I chose as an accompaniment to this note. As you likely know, Walter Pater (who was one of Oscar Wilde's great intellectual heroes) famously said that, "All art constantly aspires to the condition of MUSIC." (Having read Stimpy's recent, beautiful recollection about his life in music, I know he agrees with this sentiment, too. . . )

I simply find that, however eloquent I might TRY to BE - no WORDS that I can ever adduce (or produce) are ever HALF as good as the very right. . . SONG.

Thank you so much, for your kindness: it is always a genuine pleasure to speak with you, and learn from you, too.

Sincerely, and with much love ~
"A" XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

P.S. This is, actually, my favorite piece of music in the whole world. I sang a little part of it, as a chorister, when I was 16. . . and I felt I was levitating from the risers, and ASCENDING, directly, to heaven. It is, to me, the most beautiful five minutes of music, ever written. . . . (And to Stimpy, I would say that, in the famous phrase, a day without Jason, OR a day without Mozart, IS like a DAY without sunshine. . . . )

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yDpcbUNC2f4

 

[tangogent]

Dear Ambivalent,

First of all, I'm glad to know you better from reading your erudite
contributions here. You are just another example of the exceptional
nature of Broke Straight Boys Forumites. (What's that about; any ideas?)

As the world knows, I'm a total top --except that I'm versatile orally,
using the lingo-- so I don't experience the heart-wrenching dilemma
that motivated you to post this thread.

However, I was enchanted by your description of the aesthetic impact
of seeing a desirable young man bottom. For me, having sex/making
love is definitely an expression of my creative self. I dated a woman
in the long ago, and she felt our love-making was like dancing; there's
a young Anglo=Indian chap I see, and with him our love-making is
like sculpture. But a celebration of the beauty of the human form drives
the action.

I'm just nuts about (young male) beauty.

Let's hear more at this level, please, Ambi (if I may use a nickname;
do let me know if it offends in any way).

All the best,
TG
x

 

[Beth]

Oh yes Ambivalent,
I agree with you fully; I may not have the dick, but I have got the ass to be a total bottom. Sometimes when Steve is feeling more dominant, he likes to fuck my "other white hole" while I am on my back...'you go, boy!' But I really wonder whose the dominant here? A little shift in my hips or a thrust up from me and Steve is putty in my "hole." I think when two, or more, are engaged in "the best thing going," both are equally in control and enjoying all there is to offer and see.
Maybe we should have the bottom strap a camera to his head (on his shoulders) to see what he sees...just sayin'