Ambivalent
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Hey, guys,
I guess I am (to a certain extent) "rising to the bait", but. . . I have noticed that, since I was last regularly posting, a few "trolls" have popped up. (And I don't mean lovable garden-gnomes, either ;-)
To those trolls *and they know who they are* ~ while this is no doubt exactly the kind of your response you were looking for. . . just, think again. Think about what you're doing. Think about where you're going. Think about who you are.
Trolls, no one here is listening to you, apart from feeling a moment's irritation at the nasty comments, you write. (It's like a mosquito that bites you - it hurts, and you slap it, and kill it. Or, at worst, like a wood-tick: that you have to pry from your skin, with a needle, or an ignited match. And SQUASH, while you drain your own ill-gotten blood, from it.)
People here are (mostly) nice; and (mostly) kind; and just want to be friends, and enjoy life and each other's company, a little more. This is a pretty generous forum. Sometimes people like particular scenes; sometimes they don't. And no one is ever afraid to say so.
However, I think it is always important to respect the models who are here for us, on this site. You might love some; feel indifferent to others; and really dislike, still others.
But, it is important to remember that all these people, these models, are people ~ they're human beings, just like us. Maybe they are not perfect, maybe they have problems, maybe they need a little income. . . but. . . isn't this true of all of us??? Anyone who has signed up for this site is not here because his life is PERFECT - he is here because he wants a little inspiration, and a little company.
My maxim in life is: treat another human being AS a human being, and you will enjoy a little more happiness, than you EVER had before, just by opening up to him. Get past your worries and fears and anger, and just be DECENT - and however many years you have left in your life, they will be better ones.
Our models are not products; they are people. They are human beings with families and friends, hopes and dreams, loves and sorrows, just like our own. I have never had the good fortune to meet any of our models from Broke Straight Boys, as some members have - - - but I have met and known some very beautiful models from both Canadian and Russian sites: and, you know what?
They were mostly ordinary, very nice people, working their way through university or community colleges, and desperate to get a better life, for themselves. Some of them were straight (and some of them are now happily married, with kids, and with good jobs, too): some of them were gay (and have likewise found good partners, and gotten educational credentials, and made wonderful lives for themselves). In all cases, being an "Internet icon" was never their first choice ~ but it helped them get through a tough time, in their lives.
And let's be clear, "trolls" - if you didn't need the help of our models, or want it: you wouldn't be here. You'd be happily drinking endless fizzy carafes of Veuve Clicquot, with your statuesque boyfriend (or boyfriends), in a palace, in Monaco ;-)))
I get it, and it makes me sad. Some aging guys, who have been rejected in love (again and again) become thoroughly and completely EMBITTERED by life: and seek to embitter everyone else, too, with their cynicism and pain.
"Trolls", I GET this. I might very well have been one of you, too. I had a very tough time, and was rejected in every opportunity I had, for. . . hmmmm. . . about 30 years. Only in the last THREE years have I met someone who has truly loved me, and who is dedicated (in his beautiful words) to "mending my heart."
But, "Trolls", I will tell you something. Even if I had not found this wondrous man - I would not be taking my anger and disappointment out, on OTHERS. I think this is the wrong way to go ~ the way that you are going ~ and I'll tell you why:
MAKING OTHER PEOPLE SAD, will NEVER MAKE YOU HAPPY. Sure, you can succeed in this task - it's simple as pie! But, at the end of the day, what you're left with, is YOUR being sad and angry; a lot of nice people who met you and got to know you, being sad and angry, too; and EVERYONE (generally) left in a state of despair :-((( I do not think this is the best way to proceed.
"Trolls", if you need a good cry - go and HAVE a good cry. (I've been there.) If you think your life is hopeless, because you're so old and ugly and unappealing that you could never even venture to give the LEAST of the models on Broke Straight Boys a hug, without him pushing you aside - I've been there, too. And if you think these guys are ALL bad, just because they are too young and beautiful to be attainable, for YOU. . . just take a step, back. And, give yourself a chance to know that some of THEM are nice people, too.
"Trolls", I am guessing y'all won't take my advice, because (as trolls) you KNOW you are smarter than I am, and you have invested a lot of effort in making other people unhappy, so far, and proving that EVERYONE has got to be just as unhappy, as you are, now. . . . but, come on, think about it.
Making other people wretched with your hurtful and awful words might make you feel a little glimmer and a little joy in your heart, for an hour or two. But next week, next month, next year. . . you are going to have to go on to find OTHER people to hurt, on still other sites, to make yourself feel better - because this little "high" you get, from slagging Broke Straight Boys models and members, isn't going to LAST. (And, you know, at this rate, when you shuffle off this mortal coil - who's going to mourn you? Maybe - hopefully - some family and friends who didn't KNOW all the awful things you said: but NOBODY GAY, LIKE YOU.)
Where are you going to go next??? To fashion-week, in Milan, or Paris??? IF YOU CAN GET A TICKET, to sit in the front row, and spit upon the models, and shout at them, that they are only beautiful, for MONEY???
The sad fact is, "Trolls", you are making yourself SAD for MONEY ~ and choosing (as part of the bargain) to make OTHER PEOPLE sad, as WELL. I feel very sad and very worried for you, because, while I will doubtless die YOUNG, you will die miserable, unhappy, and friendless, if you keep this stuff UP.
"Trolls", I would suggest that you go home, have a nice dinner, and a glass of wine - and re-think your approach. Have a good sleep, and then re-sign here under different name(s). And then - see (however hard life is for you) if you can find a little JOY in being kind to the models, and other members, and letting a little of that cynicism (which you think is so smart, but which I think is so SAD): drop to the wayside, while you meet some real, caring, friends.
I BET you have had a hard life. Probably it has been much harder than mine. But you are letting it BEAT you now, and you are becoming a laughingstock and very much disliked, by people who don't even KNOW you. For all I know, you have all sorts of good qualities - but, I DON'T know, because I haven't seen or heard any of them, as yet.
But please, don't be so MEAN to people, you haven't even met - just because YOU don't know them, yet. Models, members, staff. . .there are a lot of good people on this site, and if you care to, you can make some wonderful friendships here. I suggest you re-think all of this, and give it a second try.
On the other hand, if you are completely and FINALLY dedicated to being wicked to people, forever - then, God help you, and my prayers for you and your family: because you are gonna need them ;-)
"A" XOXOXOXOXO
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JoR4jeB6OI0
I guess I am (to a certain extent) "rising to the bait", but. . . I have noticed that, since I was last regularly posting, a few "trolls" have popped up. (And I don't mean lovable garden-gnomes, either ;-)
To those trolls *and they know who they are* ~ while this is no doubt exactly the kind of your response you were looking for. . . just, think again. Think about what you're doing. Think about where you're going. Think about who you are.
Trolls, no one here is listening to you, apart from feeling a moment's irritation at the nasty comments, you write. (It's like a mosquito that bites you - it hurts, and you slap it, and kill it. Or, at worst, like a wood-tick: that you have to pry from your skin, with a needle, or an ignited match. And SQUASH, while you drain your own ill-gotten blood, from it.)
People here are (mostly) nice; and (mostly) kind; and just want to be friends, and enjoy life and each other's company, a little more. This is a pretty generous forum. Sometimes people like particular scenes; sometimes they don't. And no one is ever afraid to say so.
However, I think it is always important to respect the models who are here for us, on this site. You might love some; feel indifferent to others; and really dislike, still others.
But, it is important to remember that all these people, these models, are people ~ they're human beings, just like us. Maybe they are not perfect, maybe they have problems, maybe they need a little income. . . but. . . isn't this true of all of us??? Anyone who has signed up for this site is not here because his life is PERFECT - he is here because he wants a little inspiration, and a little company.
My maxim in life is: treat another human being AS a human being, and you will enjoy a little more happiness, than you EVER had before, just by opening up to him. Get past your worries and fears and anger, and just be DECENT - and however many years you have left in your life, they will be better ones.
Our models are not products; they are people. They are human beings with families and friends, hopes and dreams, loves and sorrows, just like our own. I have never had the good fortune to meet any of our models from Broke Straight Boys, as some members have - - - but I have met and known some very beautiful models from both Canadian and Russian sites: and, you know what?
They were mostly ordinary, very nice people, working their way through university or community colleges, and desperate to get a better life, for themselves. Some of them were straight (and some of them are now happily married, with kids, and with good jobs, too): some of them were gay (and have likewise found good partners, and gotten educational credentials, and made wonderful lives for themselves). In all cases, being an "Internet icon" was never their first choice ~ but it helped them get through a tough time, in their lives.
And let's be clear, "trolls" - if you didn't need the help of our models, or want it: you wouldn't be here. You'd be happily drinking endless fizzy carafes of Veuve Clicquot, with your statuesque boyfriend (or boyfriends), in a palace, in Monaco ;-)))
I get it, and it makes me sad. Some aging guys, who have been rejected in love (again and again) become thoroughly and completely EMBITTERED by life: and seek to embitter everyone else, too, with their cynicism and pain.
"Trolls", I GET this. I might very well have been one of you, too. I had a very tough time, and was rejected in every opportunity I had, for. . . hmmmm. . . about 30 years. Only in the last THREE years have I met someone who has truly loved me, and who is dedicated (in his beautiful words) to "mending my heart."
But, "Trolls", I will tell you something. Even if I had not found this wondrous man - I would not be taking my anger and disappointment out, on OTHERS. I think this is the wrong way to go ~ the way that you are going ~ and I'll tell you why:
MAKING OTHER PEOPLE SAD, will NEVER MAKE YOU HAPPY. Sure, you can succeed in this task - it's simple as pie! But, at the end of the day, what you're left with, is YOUR being sad and angry; a lot of nice people who met you and got to know you, being sad and angry, too; and EVERYONE (generally) left in a state of despair :-((( I do not think this is the best way to proceed.
"Trolls", if you need a good cry - go and HAVE a good cry. (I've been there.) If you think your life is hopeless, because you're so old and ugly and unappealing that you could never even venture to give the LEAST of the models on Broke Straight Boys a hug, without him pushing you aside - I've been there, too. And if you think these guys are ALL bad, just because they are too young and beautiful to be attainable, for YOU. . . just take a step, back. And, give yourself a chance to know that some of THEM are nice people, too.
"Trolls", I am guessing y'all won't take my advice, because (as trolls) you KNOW you are smarter than I am, and you have invested a lot of effort in making other people unhappy, so far, and proving that EVERYONE has got to be just as unhappy, as you are, now. . . . but, come on, think about it.
Making other people wretched with your hurtful and awful words might make you feel a little glimmer and a little joy in your heart, for an hour or two. But next week, next month, next year. . . you are going to have to go on to find OTHER people to hurt, on still other sites, to make yourself feel better - because this little "high" you get, from slagging Broke Straight Boys models and members, isn't going to LAST. (And, you know, at this rate, when you shuffle off this mortal coil - who's going to mourn you? Maybe - hopefully - some family and friends who didn't KNOW all the awful things you said: but NOBODY GAY, LIKE YOU.)
Where are you going to go next??? To fashion-week, in Milan, or Paris??? IF YOU CAN GET A TICKET, to sit in the front row, and spit upon the models, and shout at them, that they are only beautiful, for MONEY???
The sad fact is, "Trolls", you are making yourself SAD for MONEY ~ and choosing (as part of the bargain) to make OTHER PEOPLE sad, as WELL. I feel very sad and very worried for you, because, while I will doubtless die YOUNG, you will die miserable, unhappy, and friendless, if you keep this stuff UP.
"Trolls", I would suggest that you go home, have a nice dinner, and a glass of wine - and re-think your approach. Have a good sleep, and then re-sign here under different name(s). And then - see (however hard life is for you) if you can find a little JOY in being kind to the models, and other members, and letting a little of that cynicism (which you think is so smart, but which I think is so SAD): drop to the wayside, while you meet some real, caring, friends.
I BET you have had a hard life. Probably it has been much harder than mine. But you are letting it BEAT you now, and you are becoming a laughingstock and very much disliked, by people who don't even KNOW you. For all I know, you have all sorts of good qualities - but, I DON'T know, because I haven't seen or heard any of them, as yet.
But please, don't be so MEAN to people, you haven't even met - just because YOU don't know them, yet. Models, members, staff. . .there are a lot of good people on this site, and if you care to, you can make some wonderful friendships here. I suggest you re-think all of this, and give it a second try.
On the other hand, if you are completely and FINALLY dedicated to being wicked to people, forever - then, God help you, and my prayers for you and your family: because you are gonna need them ;-)
"A" XOXOXOXOXO
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JoR4jeB6OI0
I'd like to make them walk the plank ;-) 
